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a_uma

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Posted: 14 years ago

One thing has been eating at me...

Prats has always seen her father as the ideal husband... even though she loves K, somewhere at the back of her mind he is not her ideal husband...

During the Arushi-Aman track... Prats was doubted by her sister and parents, including her ideal papa... at that time it was K who trusted her regarding Aman and completely stood by her...
yet she forgave her parents and sister easily even though they choose to believe an outsider's word over her...

Yet, K who was fooled by his own mother has been put in the doghouse, and has to prove his love and trustworthiness...

If at sometime in the future if Prats was in the same situation, i.e. if it was Prof's word against Krishna's word... whom would Prats choose to believe... I'm sure we all know the answer to that...

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Mitrashakti

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Posted: 14 years ago

Hello Uma,

The way Krishna disregarded Pratigya's existence was enough for her not to trust him again. He did not stop in saying harsh and unforgivable words but went a step ahead and literally divorced her by putting his thumb on the divorce papers. This act of Krishna alone leaves no grounds of forgiveness and trust.

Being a married woman I can wholeheartedly say that if my husband would have done something like that it would be near to impossible to forgive him or trust him again.

I think by not letting Pratigya forgive him so soon the cvs are trying to send a message that a wife's choice matters just as the husband's, she cannot be treated like a doormat.

But, as Kriya reunion was inevitable and it's next week , I really want to see a matured Kriya.

Anu

Edited by anusarkar - 14 years ago

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riyya6

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Posted: 14 years ago

Nice post... I think that the beginning stage of marriage, Krishna was surely not in the list for Pratigya... I guess she did not think of him as an ideal husband... But as time passes by, she knew him, and accepted him for who he is... If we look, he has change for better for her mayb not completely but he has improved himself... Mayb hes not educated but he loves her more than his life, what else a wife wants from a husband... Life is not what you want, but making the best of what you have...

And good question on if the situation happen between AMMAJI n Pratigya was actually by PROF and KRISHNA, would Pratigya believed her father or KRISHNA>>>>> Something that is indeed hard to answer... she may trust KRISHNA but opposite to her father who all these days was an role model to her, what would have been her stand? ... Look what happen when she believed KRISHNA is the one who kidnapped her... Yes, based on the TATOO but anyone can create a TATOO and make it look like KRISHNA did... She believed what she was without doubt... That is because at that time KRISHNA has also created bad image on her POV>>>> So actually it is difficult when it comes to your dear ones... Like what happen in Krishna situation, a mother n wife... He trusted him mom blindly but only after she showing LOVE to PRATIGYA>...

Is it wrong to trust a mom over wife... And is it correct to say that i trust my wife more than my mom... Is something fundamental to say... I think what matter here is whats right n wrong and who is right... And one should not trust one blindly no matter it is wife and also the mother... one should evaluate all the circumstances that leads to that situation n find a solution...

I think in Krishna case, what made Pratigya angry is that he said yes to the divorce... It hurts Pratigya that how come Krishna is willing to let go this r/ship? Mayb she herself never thought that a person who tatoo his arm with her name could ever leave her / divorce her (even he did it for anger, but he still did it) .. was it overconfidence of Pratigya here, in assuming that>>>>>>>>>> And i think she wants to test KRISHNA on how far he can prove to her to gain her trust on him back...

I think Both Pratigya n KRISHNA needs to work things together to make this r/ship successfull... and they need each other, they compliment each other, no body is perfect and so do our KRIYA...

As i said in one of my earlier post, we accept them and LOVE them as they are...

KRIYA... is a journey and we are with them in this journey... whether its ups or downs... or no movement... But WE LOVE THEM>>>>>>>>

Edited by riyya6 - 14 years ago

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Sam

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: a_uma

One thing has been eating at me...

Prats has always seen her father as the ideal husband... even though she loves K, somewhere at the back of her mind he is not her ideal husband...

During the Arushi-Aman track... Prats was doubted by her sister and parents, including her ideal papa... at that time it was K who trusted her regarding Aman and completely stood by her...
yet she forgave her parents and sister easily even though they choose to believe an outsider's word over her...

Yet, K who was fooled by his own mother has been put in the doghouse, and has to prove his love and trustworthiness...

If at sometime in the future if Prats was in the same situation, i.e. if it was Prof's word against Krishna's word... whom would Prats choose to believe... I'm sure we all know the answer to that...

Uma, For a girl, whether it is her father or her husband, the love & trust relationship is as different between the two relations as the difference in relationship itself. Certain is it that there is no kind of affection so purely angelic as of a father to a daughter as compared to a husband and wife relations.

So for a husband or a wife In love, there are desires and expectations; For sons most of the time its ambitions; but for a daughter there is something which there are no words to express a father daughter relationship or visa-verse. So It is hard for me to say that who should Pratigya trust more, but isn't it pretty obvious and why? 😊

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Mitrashakti

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: PRAGMATIC

Uma, For a girl, whether it is her father or her husband, the love & trust relationship is as different between the two relations as the difference in relationship itself. <font face="georgia, bookman old style, palatino linotype, book antiqua, palatino, trebuchet ms, helvetica, garamond, sans-serif, arial, verdana, avante garde, century gothic, comic sans ms, times, times new roman, serif">Certain
is it that there is no kind of affection so purely angelic as of a
father to a daughter as compared to a husband and wife relations.

So for a husband or a wife In love, there are desires and expectations; For
sons most of the time its ambitions; but for a daughter there is something which there are no words to express a father daughter relationship or visa-verse. So It is hard for me to say that who should Pratigya trust more, but isn't it pretty obvious and why? 😊

Absolutely Sam, you explained it wonderfully. From my personal experience my father is my hero and it cannot be compared with my husband. The two relationships are unique in their respectives ways.

Anu

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MERARAI

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: a_uma

One thing has been eating at me...

Prats has always seen her father as the ideal husband... even though she loves K, somewhere at the back of her mind he is not her ideal husband...

During the Arushi-Aman track... Prats was doubted by her sister and parents, including her ideal papa... at that time it was K who trusted her regarding Aman and completely stood by her...
yet she forgave her parents and sister easily even though they choose to believe an outsider's word over her...

Yet, K who was fooled by his own mother has been put in the doghouse, and has to prove his love and trustworthiness...

If at sometime in the future if Prats was in the same situation, i.e. if it was Prof's word against Krishna's word... whom would Prats choose to believe... I'm sure we all know the answer to that...

Uma

You raised the point I was going to put in a slightly different way. Husband/wife relationship is one of it's kind and not comparable to any parent/child or friends and siblings.

Prats is more fond of her father than she is of her mother as we have seen on a few occasions...he supports her while Naina tries to override her and so it's understandable. When Shamu told Prats to hide the kidnapping for her own good, she knew it was wrong and did follow her father's dictate anyways. She trusted his experience in life. Yet last week she only agreed he was right but chose to handle it her own willing to test her marriage. Does she know so much more about marriage in one year that Shamu doesn't in 27 years?

Krishna loves his parents, he sees them as flawed and accepts them anyways. It's hard for anyone to believe their mother could be as devious as Takurain when the evidence supported her. Prats took the time and didn't she see the urgency in it this time around to get him to listen?

She wasn't around when Takurain played her chaalaki game to get Krishna to sign the document. So how does she know his state of mind when he affixed his thumbprint? He was still being played for a fool by his mother. She thinks about everything too much and expects Krishna to be reflective and take his time like her, but that's expecting a bit much from him.

I pose the same question, can Prats demand Krishna to give guarantee never to breach her trust again if she can't give it herself? In real life that marriage will be pretense for society's sake that lacks core happiness. POPS here will never make Prats wrong. Her sister treated her terribly and she forgave her for her "mistake". She never held Shamu accountable for getting her to lie by omission to Krishna about the kidnapping. Shamu did get his comeuppance when he got his coal-painted face from the Takurs.

Bottom line, the truth to Prats has dual standards...one for maike's mistakes and one for Takurs terrible tricks. I'll accept she is all for the right thing when she stops discriminating across the board. Let's be candid here. She'd much rather prefer Krishna listens to her and follows her down the path she wants her marriage to go like a lot of wives do in the belief that men know little about marriage and family. And which sasural would like to hear a bahu tell them they are almost always wrong and she who is supposed to be about 22 knows what is right. It's a a sure way to make enemies of relatives not friends.

Edited by MERARAI - 14 years ago

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Sam

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: anusarkar
Hello Uma,

The way Krishna disregarded Pratigya's existence was enough for her not to trust him again. He did not stop in saying harsh and unforgivable words but went a step ahead and literally divorced her by putting his thumb on the divorce papers. This act of Krishna alone leaves no grounds of forgiveness and trust.

Being a married woman I can wholeheartedly say that if my husband would have done something like that it would be near to impossible to forgive him or trust him again.

I think by not letting Pratigya forgive him so soon the cvs are trying to send a message that a wife's choice matters just as the husband's, she cannot be treated like a doormat.

But, as Kriya reunion was inevitable and it's next week , I really want to see a matured Kriya.

Anu

Hi Anu, The answers to Uma's post and her question lies very clearly in the circumstances that Pratigya went through recently. How easily K asked her to leave him and divorced her. Just imagine that what may have went through her father when she showed up at their door steps followed by the divorce papers, Usually such circumstances are heart wrenching for the whole family, especially the parents but their bond is such that they will hide their feelings and help lessen the pain of their daughter. So the question that who should P trust more doesn't arrive at all.

And even in future if she had to choose between her father and husband's opinions, she will side with whoever is right at that time , because she will listen to both, she is sensible enough not to ignore either, unlike K who blindly trusted ammaji but refused to listen to Pratigya's pleas.

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a_uma

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Posted: 14 years ago

Don't get me wrong guys... I'm not bashing P here...

She was absolutely devastated by K's behaviour and is now scared to trust him again...

I only wanted to point out that the rules of the game should be same for all...

actually it is the CVs who are creating this confusion... they are not consistent with the characters and story track...

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Sam

@Love-u-all

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: MERARAI

Uma

You raised the point I was going to put in a slightly different way. Husband/wife relationship is one of it's kind and not comparable to any parent/child or friends and siblings.

Prats is more fond of her father than she is of her mother as we have seen on a few occasions...he supports her while Naina tries to override her and so it's understandable. When Shamu told Prats to hide the kidnapping for her own good, she knew it was wrong and did follow her father's dictate anyways. She trusted his experience in life. Yet last week she only agreed he was right but chose to handle it her own willing to test her marriage. Does she know so much more about marriage in one year that Shamu doesn't in 27 years?

Krishna loves his parents, he sees them as flawed and accepts them anyways. It's hard for anyone to believe their mother could be as devious as Takurain when the evidence supported her. Prats took the time and didn't she see the urgency in it this time around to get him to listen?

She wasn't around when Takurain played her chaalaki game to get Krishna to sign the document. So how does she know his state of mind when he affixed his thumbprint? He was still being played for a fool by his mother. She thinks about everything too much and expects Krishna to be reflective and take his time like her, but that's expecting a bit much from him.

I pose the same question, can Prats demand Krishna to give guarantee never to breach her trust again if she can't give it herself? In real life that marriage will be pretense for society's sake that lacks core happiness. POPS here will never make Prats wrong. Her sister treated her terribly and she forgave her for her "mistake". She never held Shamu accountable for getting her to lie by omission to Krishna about the kidnapping. Shamu did get his comeuppance when he got his coal-painted face from the Takurs.

Bottom line, the truth to Prats has dual standards...one for maike's mistakes and one for Takurs terrible tricks. I'll accept she is all for the right thing when she stops discriminating across the board. Let's be candid here. She'd much rather prefer Krishna listens to her and follows her down the path she wants her marriage to go like a lot of wives do in the belief that men know little about marriage and family. And which sasural would like to hear a bahu tell them they are almost always wrong and she who is supposed to be about 22 knows what is right. It's a a sure way to make enemies of relatives not friends.

Surely, its a sure way to make enemies 😆, I mean what she should have done upon seeing unborn killed in that sasural, she should have looked the other way when women were beaten to pulp or she should have let Kesar buried alive to make friends with susralies. 😆

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MERARAI

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: a_uma
Don't get me wrong guys... I'm not bashing P here...

She was absolutely devastated by K's behaviour and is now scared to trust him again...

I only wanted to point out that the rules of the game should be same for all...

actually it is the CVs who are creating this confusion... they are not consistent with the characters and story track...

Two days ago Prats was telling Shamu it's important for her marriage to go through the trial. Today with a song and a dunk she changes her mind. 🤔 Along with Krishna is Prats also becoming inconsistent in her behavior?😕

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