is it real or only skin deep?

hi everyone,

if i was just wondering if u could answer this. wat if someone has a best freind that they really love and the other person really cares for them too. wen ur with them itll look like u really are best freinds. but u know that if ur not with them for a month or so and u come back they will totaly have forgotten u. i mean they first say yea they will miss u and all but later they just get used to it, and wen u come back they are hanging out with someone new. its like u have to be with them all the time for ur freindship to work out, if ur not there for a long time thell move on. and u can really tell thats the truth becouse lets just say uve never been to a party without them, and they havent been to any party without u either but now that ur leaving u find out theres a party a week after u leave. and the other person first says no way there going without u but later they start making up all these excuses that they have to go. and there doing it becouse of so and so. and u really know that there just saying this but there deseprate to go. im not saying thats a bad thing or anything, they should have fun in life. but its just they idea that that u might be really easy to forget. and then they say if u can give ur outfit that u bought for the party to her other close freind so she can go to the party with her.

so yea i bet that was so confusing. its just that u really LOVE ur best freind but ur not sure if u really mean that much to him/her.

and then theres another person who was lets just say ur second best freind. who always supported u, cried for u, and even wen u back stabbed them they forgave u and treated u the same. they constantly forgave u even though they know u dont care about them that much?? i mean u do care about them, but u just can never make urself care about them as much as u care about ur other freind. its just ur heart always goes for the first one.

which one is the real freindship, do u think the frist freind actually cares for u or not? do u think the second freind is better or the first?

ps: aparna di i love u......😃

Hey so shweet of you. You are a lovely girl. 🤗

O.K about your topic. I see 2 aspects here . First with your best friend whom you seem to be leaving behind. She says she'll miss you BUT seems ready to move on.

Let me share with you my experiences, i have several friends back home( India) .I was very very close to many of them. When i left India for the U.S , after a few months they stopped mailing me. Now it seemed to me that they had left me behind and moved on. Then last year when i went back home i contacted them all. You now what happened- i had 2 sets of reactions.

First - There were these friends who were so excited to see me. They took out time from their busy schedule to be with me and i felt like i had never left them behind. It was that old bond that was the very same as before.

second type- I contacted them, but their reaction was so luke warm....like they didn't care to meet up and catch up. I knew then who were my true friends.

So my advise , only time will tell.When you meet them next time you will know who is a true friend and who were the temporary friends. 😊

Lastly your second best friend seems really nice and do hang on to her. 😊

Wht i learnt from my experiance : a true friendship remains forever despite all hurdles.

People forget u after a long time if u aren't physically present with them. U r replaced by the "new friends" in their lives, and they do live on. It depends on the personal preference of ur friend, whether ur friend believes in "Old is gold" .. or keeping their life without u. It hurts... but tells u to who is really ur true friend and who is not. Friendship like any other relationship is a "TWO-WAY TRAFIC".

I agree with Aparna di ... take this opportunity as the "Acid-test" of ur friendship and sort out the true friend from others. It is possible that ur 2nd friend's sincerity makes her ur best friend in future! 😊

Originally posted by: Aparna_BD

Hey so shweet of you. You are a lovely girl. 🤗

O.K about your topic. I see 2 aspects here . First with your best friend whom you seem to be leaving behind. She says she'll miss you BUT seems ready to move on.

Let me share with you my experiences, i have several friends back home( India) .I was very very close to many of them. When i left India for the U.S , after a few months they stopped mailing me. Now it seemed to me that they had left me behind and moved on. Then last year when i went back home i contacted them all. You now what happened- i had 2 sets of reactions.

First - There were these friends who were so excited to see me. They took out time from their busy schedule to be with me and i felt like i had never left them behind. It was that old bond that was the very same as before.

second type- I contacted them, but their reaction was so luke warm....like they didn't care to meet up and catch up. I knew then who were my true friends.

So my advise , only time will tell.When you meet them next time you will know who is a true friend and who were the temporary friends. 😊

Lastly your second best friend seems really nice and do hang on to her. 😊

yea thats wat im thinking now, ive stopped trying to do things so she will remmber me, ive thought that ill see after i come back how everything is and then ill really find out if im wrong or right, but it still dosent fell nice to be so close with someone for two years and then realise ur freindship was never wat u really thought of it.and thnx for ur advice.

Originally posted by: MNMS

Wht i learnt from my experiance : a true friendship remains forever despite all hurdles.

People forget u after a long time if u aren't physically present with them. U r replaced by the "new friends" in their lives, and they do live on. It depends on the personal preference of ur friend, whether ur friend believes in "Old is gold" .. or keeping their life without u. It hurts... but tells u to who is really ur true friend and who is not. Friendship like any other relationship is a "TWO-WAY TRAFIC".

I agree with Aparna di ... take this opportunity as the "Acid-test" of ur friendship and sort out the true friend from others. It is possible that ur 2nd friend's sincerity makes her ur best friend in future! 😊

yea i agree its a two way traffic. but the 2nd freind never seems to reach that level in my eyes as the 1st one is. i am truly a very messed up person😳. the 1st one cares for me a LOT i know but its just the fact that how can it be so easy for her to move on so fast? before i even left😕