Hypocricy of Saloni's ILs but good dialog

A couple of good dialoges (US episode) in Saath Phere.

1) When Kaveri accuses Saloni of being an outsider and leaking out the news of Shubhra's pregnancy to others and for a change Saloni opens her mouth and says "I am a daughter to this family and that won't change with my marriage OR death". Kudos Saloni!! My thoughts exactly. A daughter is a daughter is a daughter - her relationship with parents does NOT change after her marriage. If anything it gets closer.

2) When Aapji tells Saloni's parents "If you have given Shubhra to me, I have given Neel to you". Applause - I always believe that marriage is between 2 families, NOT just the girl going into the boy's family!

3) When Nahar tells Saloni that Shubhra's honour is as important to him as is to Saloni - that he is a son to Saloni's parents! Great!

4) When Saloni's great mom says "Oh, why has God made daughters, they are pariah and crap" Saloni's dad says "Why blame God. It is humans who have made such rules". Hit the nail on the head - I always have believed that this Pariah Dhan is a load of BS. Do pardon my language but these cliched talks make my blood boil.

These good dialogues were spoilt by Brijesh's so-called orders when he tells Saloni to cut off her realtionship with her parents. Hello??? No one has any right to tell a girl that, leave alone a Brother-in-law. Worst part is Saloni meekly agrees giving some silly excuse. Grow a backbone girl! Much as I don't believe in disrespecting elders there is a limit to the crap one takes lying down. And Brijesh had the audacity to say all that though he has a secret as well. Hypocrytical to say the least. Hope they pay severely for their behaviour. 😡

Totally agree, i epecially like the paraya dhan one. True we blame god for this but its the stupid society and ppl that have made these kinds of dumb and retarded rules. 🤢

Xyz and muni you both are missing what is the meaning of Paraya dhan is girls grow up in parents house but they have to leave parents house when they get married. It is just dialog here but it is a norm in our culture or for that matter most cultures.

My blood boils when aditi's husband starts ordering saloni around, first of all he is staying with his wife's family, I would say he has no backbone, does he even work, or is he in the house like the daughter and the bahus. 🤢

i can see contradiction here . as we are talkig that girl should not be paraya dhan . is it means that girl should not go to sasural after marraige? 😕 and again we are not happy that aditi and his husband are staying here in nahar house as dheer as ghar jamai . we are not happy with that too 😕 so what ecxatly we want i don;'t get it or i think like western people after marraige couple should live alone from both side parents 😕

as all coin has two side i don't knwo what side is good but everythign has it's pluse and minuse what you people now say about it

Originally posted by: ramas

Xyz and muni you both are missing what is the meaning of Paraya dhan is girls grow up in parents house but they have to leave parents house when they get married. It is just dialog here but it is a norm in our culture or for that matter most cultures.

I see your point. But that does not mean she becomes pariah after marriage. I also see nothing wrong if parents stay with the girl after marriage. I know my parents are extremely comfortable staying with me (like with my brother) and consider my hubby as their son.

Also, I see nothing wrong if a girl does not stay in a joint family. I believe as children we should look after parents in their old age but nothing wrong if a girl begins her life with staying with ehr husband in a separate house. I know many do that these days.. And parents encourage that as well as that gives everyone enough room and privacy at he same time a good relationship can be maintained.

If Aditi's husband works and is indepedent I won't complain about him staying at Aditi's house. Of course I don't like him because he is mean but that's a different issue.

This is one aspect of socitey I just don't like, a son is expected to take care of parents but not daughter - though I agree that's changing some.

Originally posted by: bsingapury

i think like western people after marraige couple should live alone from both side parents 😕

I agree.. That is my point too...

xyz in many houses once a daughter gets married and daughter in law comes. If daughter try to do something that is called interferenc. saat phere is just story. But in real life Bhabhis won't allow it saying this is not your house anymore. They will even make you feel like you are the guest in your own house. Also I am against the law that gives the right to son in laws that can inherit father in laws property. We will have more people like dheer who will marry for girls parents inheritance.
I agree parents can stay with daughters and sons. I believe daughters will take care of parents better than sons.

Originally posted by: bsingapury

i can see contradiction here . as we are talkig that girl should not be paraya dhan . is it means that girl should not go to sasural after marraige? 😕 and again we are not happy that aditi and his husband are staying here in nahar house as dheer as ghar jamai . we are not happy with that too 😕 so what ecxatly we want i don;'t get it or i think like western people after marraige couple should live alone from both side parents 😕

as all coin has two side i don't knwo what side is good but everythign has it's pluse and minuse what you people now say about it

by not agreeing with the idea of "paraya dhan" we are not saying that we don't agree with a girl going away. because even if she's living with her in laws or just her husband, she just won't be living with her parents. what they're saying about aditi's husband is that he has married with the vow to take care of and support his wife and family, so why is he feeding off of his wife's family? the point here is that a girl has to go away from her parents house under any circumstances, because marriage is something that marks your adulthood in terms of living on your own and taking your own responsibility. but the point is, just because the girl is going away does not under any circumstances mean that she was born to be given away and thus, the parents have no right over her any more. that is what is pure load of crap made by our society! sure you can live with your in laws and sure you can fulfil your responsibility towards them, but that doesn't mean you were theirs from the beginning only waiting to be handed over by your parents. your in laws dont give birth to you, they don't bring you up, so why do they expect the girl to give up everything???? and honestly, i think it's the girl's parents who make it a thousand times worse by reminding themselves that thier daughter is not theirs anymore. what the hell? i always see in indian movies how insecure and paranoid the girl's parents are when they are getting her married. their head is bowed down in front of the guy's family as if they have handed over the girl to be sacrificed. why? if you've married your girl off to that family, be proud and confident and rejoice the union of two families. but the girl's family always confirms their subordination to the in laws and this is exaclty what the in laws take advantage of!!!

I completely agree with silmi21!! Let me add to what you said. There is nothing wrong if parents want to stay with their daughter after marriage! That was the condition when I married, LOL. What they show in movies and Serials are a load of BS sending wrong signals to society!!