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Welcome🤗! That title got your attention didn't it?😉 You thought I was talking about the Takurs, didn't ya?😃 Now that you are here, how about we take a look into the world of SS...........i.e. Shyam Saxsena and his role in raising his children.
What is it about the Saxsena children that annoys and frustrates the viewers to watch them day after day? A look into the history of the family particularly the way Shamu and Naina have raised their children could shed light on why each of them turned out the way they did.
Next time Shamu claims how he's filled his children with sanskaar, he needs to stop, reflect and ask himself a few questions. Just like a plant needs sunlight, water and soil (no pesticides needed if it's a rich fertile soil), its not enough to just fill the children's brains with usools, kayada-kanoons, sanskaars and riti-riwaz. They need to be given a nurturing environment (rich soil), exposure to the outside world (sunlight) and plenty of opportunities (water) to experience the outside world if they are going to be happy, well adjusted individuals in life.
Lets look at Shamu's kids.................
Adarsh: the first born was raised in the Green House with his two younger sisters by his parents and his Dadi who treated him extra special. His history points to a man who as an adult still continues to stay with his family (not in it of itself a problem). He often accompanies Shamu Papa on his way to work. He has no friends that we know of. His only friend whom he liked a lot but was never man enough to confess his feelings to was Roli who happened to be Pratigya's childhood friend. Every day life for Adarsh has been about following through on his parents directions. Shamu and Naina ask him to go to work, sit down to dinner, etc. and his response has always been "Ji Mummy, or Ji Papa". The few times he stepped out of the Sax box, he has been impulsive in his actions………..he tried to stab Krishna at the Adda, he attacked Angad, he impulsively went out and proposed to marry Komal and more recently decided the best and fastest way to make big bucks was to take bribes. The idea of looking for a different job, a higher paying one never entered his mind?
He is often been told what to do by his parents and Dadi that he exercises some control by telling Komal off. Adarsh works at a bank, a 9-5 job. He by nature is not much of a go-getter in life. If Takur Sajjan Singh hadn't intervened on his behalf who knows if he might have got that promotionat all! Ever since he started accepting Komal as his wife, he has been distancing himself from his parents and leaning more towards Komal and SS.
Prats: the middle child, is her father's favorite child, she follows Papas teachings religiously. She left the Green House, lived in Lucknow, away from family, where she attended college and received her bachelor's degree. Granted it was at most four years, but she left home and got a glimpse of the world outside the four walls of Shamu's home. She had a childhood friend in Roli and a college mate Mithileswari as well. She had some real life exposure that was away from her home even if only for a few years. Whatever her reasoning behind her choice to marry Krishna she has managed to cope at the Takurs with Krishna's help of course. She still has much to learn and life among the Takurs will teach her a lot along the way.
Arushi: the youngest of the Sax siblings was born and raised in the Green House with the the rest of them. She has no friends that we know of either even though she is supposed to have attended computer classes. She clung on to Roli as her Didi's friend. Didn't she want friends her own age? She made a place for herself screeching and tantruming her way through even at home to get some attention from her parents. She admitted before she married KN that she was jealous of Prats as her parents gave her sister all the adulation and she only got the scraps. She also behaved impulsively like Adarsh and took an extreme step by dragging KN to the dias and married him. When she realized the truth, she was like a little child that left home in defiance and is lost and wants to return home immediately.
So typical of children who have been raised in a household where parents refuse to let their children grow up making mistakes as children and learning from it. When they do act out, challenge their parents and make mistakes (in public more often than not) they get a slap across their face. The children are told where to go and what to do and they "robotically" agree and follow through on the orders, suggestions and requests, whichever way their parents couched it. Shamu and Naina held their hands all the way into adulthood that once parents let go and took just a step back these children grab they are ill-equipped to handle the stresses in life. That is true in Adarsh's case. In spite of the sanskaars he has heard all his life, he still decided to go ahead and take the bribes, an impulsive action without forethought about long-term consquences.
Professor for all his baashans about giving his children freedom has failed when he withheld the freedom of choice to make their own decisions in life, to slip and trip and fall a few times so they learn to live life from their experiences. Teaching his children to think for themselves and figure it out would and should have been Shamu's biggest education to them. Instead they live life on learned behavior, from Mummy Papa even after they reached adulthood. Shamu wails every time his children make a choice that blows up in their faces and repeats the same question " how did this happen when I taught my children the rules of life". Had he looked for the answers in the right places he may have found it by now. Naina has a meltdown every time her children step away and show their independence.
Prats left home and got a little exposure to the outside world whereas the other two have been living in a mentally oppressed environment. No wonder when they see a crack in the window they burst out and do something big and unexpected that is to their own detriment. Adarsh and Arusi pay the price for it in the way they live their lives.
BTW, didn't Dadi claim Shamu's poojya pita built that Green house? Shamu claims he filed the walls, every single brick with his sanskaars over the years? He should have instead freed his children to live life to the fullest.
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