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Originally posted by: JaiWaliaLuver
Stop villainizing the woman for one moment and consider things from her point of view. Rama blames her singlularly for Puchki's disappearance, even though it was out of Purva's control. Imagine a mother blaming you singlehandedly for the death of their child; the guilt of that can destroy a person.
oh i don't think any1 has a prob in seeign that as a bad situation...yeh sure the gult wud destroy a person....so why DIDN'T PURVA GET DESTROYED? lol no wht i mean is...why didn't she go berserk and mad with guilt??? and i'm sorry, but i disagree with the point that this kidn of guilt can make one take such decisions..it MAY...but no amount of guilt can make a mother give away her kid - unless for the kid's betterment...giving ur kid away to a NAUKRANI...lolll no mother values "justice" over her kid's betterment.... and purva showed just how much of a mother she is...using her kid as a method of kaffaaara (wht u give in return for a crime)... HA HA HA... yeah way to go kya maa hai..👏
Originally posted by: JaiWaliaLuver
On top of that, Purva didnt single-handedly take the decision to give Prem away...no one excpet Smriti was even stepping in to stop her until Smriti said something.
two points to this:
1) others have shown to be simply dumb and idiots... i mean the guy mihir he is a lawyer and he doesn;t know how idiotic fo a deal this is?
2) the main point of concern for me here is, as prem's "so-called" MOTHER: purva SHOULD NOT have NEEDED for any1 to oppose the idea...even if the whole world is for soemthing, a mother is always her kid's shield...wht smriti did today - she SHIELDED prem as SOON as she realised he was threatened, that his future was threatened, that he was going to be separated from her...she SHIELDED her kid..and that is wht purva wud've done the second this deal was suggested...EVEN IF EVERY1 ELSE WAS UP FOR THE IDEA...😕 that really is my prob....the fact that wht smriti did was wht a real mother wud do..and that purva did NOT do this...on the contrary she shed some tears..and that was it...she agreed to give prem away - if prem was truly "her kid" as she claims, she wud've turned the world upside down, but not let go of her kid..as i'm sure she'd do for that baby she is carrying..
Originally posted by: JaiWaliaLuver
Purva is not some monster, she's a human whose actions are a reflection of the people around her. Believe me I sympathize with Smriti's pain, but they are BOTH Prem's mothers and they have equal rights to him. The mother who raised a child is no less attached to the child than the birth mother.
no she isn't a monster..and yes i did till recently also believe them both to be equally prem's mothers, and i also believed both had equal rights...but this particular storyline has made me reverse up on that belief... purva DOES has the right to make decisions for prem - but for his BETTERMENT..giving him to a maid - what sort fo betterment is this? giving him away as CHARITY to a maid - oh oh oh when a step mother starts doing that, than the REAL MOTHER'S rights start to be much more powerful than hers... as for attached - i don't agree neither disagree with that..nature vs nurture is an old debate...but i am personally more inclined to believe that nature's palra is (in all other factors being controlled) a bit more heavier than just nurture's....but there r ofcourse exceptions... in this case though, it's by far the blood related mother who has come out as the real mother in all this it seems...😊
Originally posted by: JaiWaliaLuver
And while I don't agree with how Akashi and Anokhi talked to Smriti (and I absolutely believe Smriti has a right to stop them and that her pain is immeasurable) , it was also unjustified how Smriti kept saying Prem was only hers.
that was actually my fav part of the scene...her repeating "mera bacha..mera bacha" was very essential to knock the nail in their dumb brains.... they were going to give a mother's kid away as CHARITY... as a redemption.. it was clear that somebody needed to remind them that this was a kid, smriti's KId that too, the kid smriti had trustingly given to PURVA, that they were playing with...
Originally posted by: JaiWaliaLuver
Like it or not, Akashi also had a point: purva HAS raised Prem, purva has spent more time with him, she's nurtured him and taken care of him and spent more moments with him, more than anyone. This forum has always been very biased in Smriti's favour, and while she has gone through a lot of hell, she is not the only one in pain. Purva is a human too, and a mother herself. What mother would even be able to fathom making this kind of choice unless she thought it was the only option? And knowing Purvas character, and the incredible sacrifices she has also made for her family, I can guarantee that if Purva's child had been born right now, Purva would've traded her own child fror Prem in a heartbeat.
i doubt that last part...and hey this is coming from someone whose not really been much of a smriti fan from the start...i've never been much fond of smriti....that's probabyu becuz i hadnt seen much fo her..and now that i have, i truly feel for her...so yeah, i don't think purva wud've given HER KID AWAY in a heartbeat...and if she had, then why doesn't she??? why doesnt she tell rama to wait for that kid *-)
now as for the rest of ur comment abt a mother taking this step only when she realises this is the ONLY OPTION...yeah well that shows just how dumb she is..she loves to play spy and meddle into other's affairs and find out every little mystery...yet she isn't willing to go to courts for her kid???? ofcourse giving a maid her kid is not the ONLY OPTIOn, heck even if she had MURDERED the maid's kid, even then giving up her kid wouldn't have been the only option... to me it just seems she didnt wanna go through the hassle 😛
i don't say purva is a overall bad character..but i geuss this exactly was smriti's point today now wasn't it? that purva fought the world to give smriti always wht she wanted... and now when it's the matter of smriti's KID - she so easily agreed? how can she even THINK of giving the kid away? that really is wht shocks me...when ur altruism and support of justice becomes extreme, then there is a prob...and in this case i am really worried as to whether purva is truly the mother smriti had thought her to be for prem... a mother who readily agrees to give up her kid to a servant when put under pressure - i wudnt want such a mother for my kid, had i been in smriti's position..just my two cents for the CVs!😊Originally posted by: JaiWaliaLuver
People overlook the hundreds of ways in which she, more than anyone else, has fought for Smriti every moment of her life. I'm not discounting Smriti's pain at all, but for once give Purva a break.
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