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I'm about to share something very personal with you all. As it Woman's Day I found it appropriate to do so.This is about my life and what I have been through as a woman.
I was born and raised in a small country in Europe with parents from Pakistan. Where me and my siblings grew up there were hardly any Asians. Didn't have any relatives other then one uncle and his family who we use to visit once or twice a month. Other then that I was surrounded with Non-asians.
From the first day at school I was an outsider. Mostly because I couldn't speak the country's langauge very well and I've never really had anyone to practice with either. Move forward a couple of years more precisely me being 13. At that time I started to get bullied because I use to wear headscarf and different clothes. This continued until I was 15.
At 19 years of age I got married. My marriage was not forced. I had given my consent. My future husband and his family had promised me a good life. Not necesserily meaning money but in sense of happiness. We got married and after a couple of months I got pregnant. We had a beautiful daughter. Not long after, some months later, we started to have problems. He was always blaming me for this and that. I tried everythging but nothing satisefied him. He decided we should move to USA and when that didn't work he blamed my parents. A lot happened after that and in the end we went our seperate ways. What I haven't told is this man never had a visa when he married me. He got one after our daughter was borned. So in the end he used my. I was a broken woman after our divorce(I was 23 then) and it took me 2 years to get to back to my old self.
At the age of 26 I got married again with a man from UK. He had permanent stay in this country and he promised me to move to where I lived because I couldn't move. Me and my ex had joined custody of our daughter. But the man changed his mind after we got married. Suddenly he couldn't move and forced my to move. I fought in court to bring my daughter to UK and it was queit close that I almost left my daughter for his sake. However everything worked out and I moved to UK about 3 years ago, Wish I could say I got my happy ending but I didn't. Once agian I had to face the same problems. I wasn't good enough, whatever I did it wasn't good enough. One day he brought me and my daughter to a tiny resturant. We were enjoying the meal and it was very pleasant. No one was there except for us 3. After our meal he dropped the bomb. He wanted a divorce. I begged him to give me another chance but nothing helped. Once again I was facing a divorce but in another country. We went through it and now here I am.
I shared this with you not gain any sympathy but to tell how much we women have to face every day in our lifes. There are women who have had it a lot worse then me and still come out stronger and better than before. I applaud them.👏👏👏 And I applaud to all the woman out there too. You are beautiful and strong. 👏👏👏 Don't let anyon treat you badly but if something happens you know you can survive it because we women have the ability to cope with the most difficult situations in our lives.
For all the women out there this is your day. So all my shernis let me hear you roar!!!!
Itti Si Khushi Sab TV
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