Jai's Anger and Bani's Patience!

This is regarding Jai's verbal and mental outburst on Bani yesterday!

Firstly, he is angry with her because she used his name for getting her work done! But isn't that really strange, Bani is Mrs. Jai Walia now, so where is the question of her using Jai's name...he is the one who has given her this name!😕 What is she supposed to call herself, Ms. Dixit...then he shouldn't have introuduced her to the whole world as his wife...and now that he has, how can he stop people from calling Bani as Mrs. Walia?

Secondly, he is angry with her for helping out Sheetal Sen. Bani tries to stop Jai's vitrolic by explaining that she was trying to save the child's life for the sake of the child and not for getting Sheetal Sen to change her statement...but Jai is simply not used to listening to anyone, least of all Bani, whom he considers to be his personal doormat, jab chahe upar se chal diye....😡

Thirdly, Jai is furious that Pushkar has been released and promptly blames Bani for plotting and standing against him with Pia and Pushkar. Jai is basically putting every possible blame on Bani, simply because he cannot get hold of Pia and Pushkar and Bani is the easiest target available for him, so whenever he fails in getting what he wants, all the ire and frustration is directed on Bani.

Fourthly, Jai for the first time gets personal and makes an unwarranted attack on Bani's dignity and really hurts her emotions by calling her dead Father a thief and an alchoholic...it is not a question of whether the fact that her father was a drunk and a thief, but merely a question of why did Jai have to bring this topic all of a sudden. Bani does not answer him back, Bani does not scream on him, Bani does not hurt him in anyway....all she tried to do yesterday was defend herself, that too very meekly...and Jai couldn't even put up with that.....

Fifthly, Jai accuses Bani of being insensitive towards his feelings and tells her that she is selfish and only cares for her sisters and her friend. Ok, that very funny, Mr. Walia! Which uncaring wife would wake up till midnight waiting for her unloving, ever hurting and forever angry husband to come home so that she can see him once and then go to sleep peacefully? Which wife, who has been as humiliated and hurt as Bani would care to lay out her Husband's night dress all ready on the bed, who would save him the embarassment of sleeping on the same bed and lie down on the floor herself, who would cry herself to sleep because she cannot see him broken and desolate, who will get tea for him first thing in the morning only to see an empty glass of alchohol lying besides....which wife would immediately come forward to support her husband who is cannot even stand properly because he is so drunk....if this is being selfish and insensitive, then I really don't know how one would describe Jai Walia's attitude towards Bani....

Jai should really put a stop to this....he is not only hurting Bani's feelings and dignity, he is indeed doing more harm to himself! And Bani should honestly get a life and move ahead...she has no obligations towards Jai, except for gratitude, that she puts up with him in this manner and not only that, she refuses to listen anything against him from anyone else.......Jai has no idea how blessed he is...I hope he gets to realize this before its too late....

MT

milestone read my topic where bani is wrong n jai is right. i wonder why people cant understand jai's behaviour. put oneself in his position and then tell how one will react after passing through like this? especially when people to whom jai trusted the most betrayed him like this... i think everbody's reaction is like what jai's is. think when bani understand him and give her emotional support? (leave bedroom part where it appears that she wanted to tell him something but looking to his condition she cant..) she is a selfish for some reason.

This works two ways, i think Jai is being pig-headed himself, hes only thinking abt his own pain.
Has he not once thought abt the pain hes putting Bani through, infact the moment he finds out that she once loved Pushky, that'd be worth seeing his reaction, maybe then he'll realise, how unjust hes been to Bani.

Shaheen

Hi MT,

Do i have to say it everytime that i loved reading ur post? But i love to nevertheless...it was very well put. U did manage to make me give up searching reasons for his beahvaiour. No. I wont defend him atleast not for referring to her father as a theif.


Jai must have thought that Bani used his name. In the sense she must have told the authorities "i am Mrs. Jai Walia, u better get the opeartion get going" Bani would never do it... Jai knows it deep inside, but as of the connection from his heart to his brain has been jammed. Once that route gets clear he will talk sense. He will realise Bani had taken over his heart long back, and Pia was just an illusion of his mind.
And one more thing, Jai is still not aware of the emergency of the situation. He must have thought she got sheetal and lured her by getting her son operated. He was under the impression he had given her so much of money that the lady could have afforted treatement even abroad. He didnt know that the kid had to be rushed from the airport to be operated on. 😕
Sometimes even i get impatient with Bani for helping out Pia and Pushkar... those 2 just get onto my nerves. Makes me feel they arent worth any love and sympathy coz they simply dont respect that emotion. It is but natural for Jai to get upset with Bani coz of them. He can take anything but his meaness come to the fore when Bani lets him down(so he think!)
Jai calling Bani insensitive is wrong in a way. It is not that he isnt aware of the fact that Bani cares for him. He is not in a state to think rationally. Pia and Pushkar have wronged against him. Bani is supporting them, so she is against him is what he simply understands. His argument is if Bani finds what Pia and Pushkar have done is wrong has she reprimanded them for it? No. She is supporting them in this and I feel she has forgiven them for it. Bani has understood that there is no use to dwell in the past…whatever has been wrong has to be mended. Bani is trying to deliver towards her responsibility towards her husband and her sister. She is trying her best to maintain a balance. I doubt someone in sane state of mind would understand Bani's huge heart. Jai is distressed… he is the last person we should expect to understand. He is right in his own way to thing she is insensitive towards him… afterall her view is opposing that of his. If anything can heal Jai it is Bani's love. And till he is going to see Bani with Pia and Pushkar he wont see anything Bani does for him. the otherday in the bedroom the Bani he saw was not Pia's sister or Pushkar's friend…she was HIS WIFE. The concern Bani showed immediately calmed him down. He couldn't reciprocate her concern, but I think his silence said it all. The one who stood before him in the hospital and in the house was Pia's sister and Pushkar's friend… ab wo gussa nahi hoga tho karega kya?
It hurt when he asked Bani how could she marry a man who loved her sister. Sooner or later he will be praising almighty for swapping his bride on time. He will realize he never really loved Pia… so that statement doesn't make any sense.
Coming to Jai questioning Bani's dad's integrity… It was wrong. No justifications what so ever. But still, i think there is more to it than what meets the eye. Jai didnt say it just coz he was in debt, and drank out his daughters earnings.... But something much BIGGER. Something from the past which Bani doesnt have a clue about. He didnt refer to Mr. Dixit as his father in law but as the husband of his friend. He seems simply displeased over that man. Btw, have they shown anything about how Bani's mom died? Is it gone anything to do with it? His cold reaction the Dixit's sisters were coz of their dad and once he saw Bani strong resemblence to her mom, he was only glad to change his stand. But, whatever reasons Jai had... he shouldnt have spoken to Bani about her dad like that. He was SO SO WRONG! But once Bani stopped him from being abusive about her dad... he stopped direct attack. Is that some consolation? I can hear a 'NO'
To end, I strongly suggest Bani to GET A LIFE and that is with Jai 😃 . So she should dump Pia and Pushkar and concentrate on Jai… once Bani becomes the center of Jai's world all will fall in place. And yes, even Pia-Pushkar can lead a calm life.
One more point that has been behind my mind since yday… Bani told Rano that Mr.Walia' s hatred could never create a rift between the sisters. What I would want to know from Mrs. Bani Walia is, what about his Love, ma'am? 😉
I am ready for brickbats for finding reasons to justify this obnoxious behaiviour of Jai.
Luv
Anu.

That was put excellently Anushka.. 👏 👏 I have been advocating that Pia needs to fight her own battles as it was her decision to elope... if you had the courage to run away , then have the guts to face the consequences too.

Hi guys, great answers everyone....Anu, loved your write-up a lot!😃

All said and done, my heart still went out of Jai yesterday...I don't know why, maybe I didn't express it out in the update, but somehow I felt that whatever he said was not entirely incorrect...its just that he put it in a very cold and deliberately hurtful manner!

Yes, there is some past about Bani's mother and father that Bani is not aware of and Jai is...but Jai was never Bani's mother, Kiran's friend, he only knew her through family...and she was older than him! But in one episode, he mentions to Aditya that Kiran JaiSinghania was the only scion of the Singhania's and her family disowned her when she got married to a low class man...Jai seems to have some kind of a grouch against Bani's Father....dunno why, because it has been effectively proved that Jai and Kiran had no romantic connection (Thank God, that would been horrible...)

Actually no one except Bani and the viewers, that is us, know about how Bani's mother died...infact Pia and Rano blame their father for being responsible for their Mother's death and that is the general impression. But in one episode, when Pia is accusing her Dead Father of being negligent towards their Mother, Bani becomes very emotional and tells her to shut-up and says that what does she know about their Mother, Rano and Pia were very small when she died and that Bani knew how much their Father had done to save their Mother....

I think Jai is also under the general impression that Pia and Rano were under and hence when he calls Bani's Father a thief, Bani completely looses her control (she was dead quiet till then putting up with everything Jai was hurling towards her) and tells Jai that what does he know about her Father and that he has no right to make any comments on him without knowing the entire truth...Jai keeps staring at her for sometime and then tells her that, fine I won't say anything now, I will only do what I want to....Bani then breaks down crying!

Coming back to the topic, even I think that Jai should give up his anger and hatred towards Pia and Pushkar, he is giving them undue importance by doing it.....and also, I thought that he was being very careless when he accused Bani of selfishness and insensitiveness towards him, whereas he knows that of all the things, Bani is certainly not that...he just wanted to hurt her!

You have expressed my thoughts when you mentioned that in the bedroom episode, the girl whom Jai saw was his wife and hence his silent acceptance of Bani but the girl he saw in the hospital was Pia's sister and Pushkar's friend and hence his outburst against her...

That is why I said someplace else, that Bani would have to make a choice between Jai and Pia / Pushkar in the future....there would be no other way out for her!

MT

You know when 9 times out of 10 when you have a grudge against anyone, you end up taking it out on the person dearest to you or in Jai's case nearest to you. Bani becomes Jai's punching bag coz he can't bring himself to hurt Pia directly (He loved her too much) and is unable to hurt Pushkar...So the easiest target he can find...Bani

And what better way to hurt her than to accuse her of being the only thing she is not???Jai knows Bani won't retaliate because in some way she realizes that he has been wronged.

So both their reactions from my POV are justified...

It would help if Ekta showed that hurting Bani like this takes its own toll on Jai coz willy nilly he knows that she is as much a victim as he is.

Originally posted by: anut

You know when 9 times out of 10 when you have a grudge against anyone, you end up taking it out on the person dearest to you or in Jai's case nearest to you. Bani becomes Jai's punching bag coz he can't bring himself to hurt Pia directly (He loved her too much) and is unable to hurt Pushkar...So the easiest target he can find...Bani

And what better way to hurt her than to accuse her of being the only thing she is not???Jai knows Bani won't retaliate because in some way she realizes that he has been wronged.

So both their reactions from my POV are justified...

It would help if Ekta showed that hurting Bani like this takes its own toll on Jai coz willy nilly he knows that she is as much a victim as he is.

👏 Extremely well put Anut!!! I fully second you on this!

MT

Hey MT,😊

I like to read your posts as they are not only interesting, but also intriguing and I also like Anut and Anushka's arguments.😃👏

I agree with anushka that Jai has justified anger as anyone in his place would see Bani as his enemy as she is with Pia and Pushkar. When Jai saw Bani in her room, he saw his wife and not pia's sister, or Pushkar's friend. Although Jai's actions are wrong as he is hurting Bani to remove all his anger and frustration, it is his nature to act in this manner as he is an adamant person and has always gotten to any lengths to get what he desires. Similarly, Bani is also trying to balance out her new life with Jai and her sister Pia. She is mature and although she is displeased with Pushkar and Pia's decision, she believes that it is necessary to forget the past and handle the problems of the present and the nearing future.😊

When Bani and Jai will be given time of their own😃, all the problems between them will cease to exist, and at last, the two will be able to or should i say forced to spend time with each other.😉😆👏

One thing comes to mind as I think about Jai taking his revenge on everyone😆, Shouldnt he want Pia and Pushkar away from his life as seeing them again and again will only remind him of his past and his wounds will be as fresh as new.

KP😊

that is so true that jai only sees his pain and not the people he's hurting!! he only sees what he want to sees and he's very stubborn!! soon or later bani will break his ego!! We understand that he's hurt, but he's not seeing the good side of pia leaving him!! if she would've been with him than she would never be able to give him the love!! She never realized that she actually loved pushkar and when it did came to make a decision, for once she made the right decision by running away i guess!! it did leave consequences forr bani and poor bani end up marrying him!! but i guess its for his own future good because one day he will appreciate her love for him!! It will definitely take some time for him to decide what's right and wrong!! i guess by staying silent all the time, bani is actually giving him respect and cares about his feeling because she knows how hurt jai is!! 😭