DOTW: Whose at fault??

1. Who is wrong? Suhana, Ishaan, Sona, Badima and Dadaji, or no one? Why?

I think nobody. I aready wrote on another blog regading this. Copying the same.

We cannot say that Ishaan is wrong. He might not forget the words she said in the first night of the mrg - It was a mistake... She would consider it as a dream... He is not person of her type, her level, desire etc. Thus he never expects that Suhana can love him. He could see Suhana gives support for the family and cares to them. But he never experienced such an affection towards him from her. And then, when Sonali came, he gets consideration and value from her. Hence it is natural that he becomes happy and confortable with her than Suhana. So we can not say that he is wrong. We see that When he talks to Suhana he cares to not hurt her, but while talking to Sona he feels free to talk in his own way that he is sure that Sona will not feel bad in it. That means Sushaan do not have such an attachment each other. And about the 'jealousy factor' - Ishaan doubts that whether Suhana is jealous on Sona because she loves him!!!! Before he comes to the point... Suhana tells that she is not at all jealous to her and she just does not care if that gal loves him or not. So how can we blame on Ishaan?

And Suhana.. she is also right in a her way. She is a person having a complex character. She is absolutely a straight forward person. She says what comes in her mind, she does whatever she feels to do - with out caring the situations and others feelings. Actually, she is unaware that whether others have problems or not due to her words or activities. She really doesn't want to hurt anybody. Another peculiarity of this gal is she does not want to express her weakness in front of others. She hesitates to admit her faults in the presence of others, but she definitely regrets on the same inside her. If she feels that anybody catches her weakness or faults, she strongly opposes with anger. These are some of the peculiarities of her character. There is a solid reason for all these that she is motherless and there was nobody to direct her on these type of things as her father too was busy with his business. She had grown up in her own way and she has her own point of view towards life. She got whatever she desired.... she has been considered as most important person so far. All these aspects made her spoilt is the truth. But with all these she is innocent, good and does not know to cheat. means she is definitely a soft minded person. But the villain is her unknowingness. When Ishaan shouts on her about slapping Sona, she tells that what she did is absolutely right. But that clealy says that she also has a feeling that she shouldn't have to slap her. she regrets on that. When Ishaan asked about whether she is jealous to Sona just because she loves him. She told she is not jealous and she does not care about Ishaan. That specifically says she is jealous and she is concerned about Ishaan. That is the way she expresses her feelings in such situations. As Ishaan could not understand about this, he thinks that the reason of her worries is she cannnot adjust with him and she regrets on this life.

And Sonali, I don't think she is also wrong. As per my view, Ishaan and Sonali have such a close friendship that lies on the border of friendship and love. When she arrived, Badi ma said that she left to US on the day of Ilesh and Disha's mrg.. something like that. So its being max of 5 or 6 yrs they have not met each other. So i feel it is not a very old friendship. When I see the closeness of both, I have a feeling that if this Sona didn't go to US, perhaps this friendship would be developed as a love. All these are my point of view only. It is not shown in serial also. I apologize if anybody has objections. Anyways, due this closeness badi ma asked her to do such a role and she said yes for her close friend. She has the knowledge that what she does is not good for a friendship. Also, she understands that as a result of this game, she will be hatred. And when Ishaan comes to know all about this she may lose her best friend even. But she suffers all these for that friend.there is no selfishness in her doing. So from the side of a friend she is also right.

And Badi Ma and Dada ji.... they are also right as per teir thoughts. Suhana is a person who does not like advices. If she is advised, she might not take the things in right sense. She cannot understand it in the right way. So when Suhana herself has the feelings of her love, they think it will work. So they look for the aim not the way (as Bhagavtgeeta tells).

Rajni and Disha, as a part of them they interfered in right time. They told Sonali that Suhana has problem when she mingles with Ishaan. SO they are also right.

2. Was Suhana's reaction to Sona's words on Suhana and Ishaan's relationship a right way to deal with the situation? Why or why not?

This was right in an aspect.

3. Was Ishaan's reaction towards Suhana after Suhana slapped Sona right?

Yes. Then he behaved as a real husband.

4. Was Suhana right to go to her dad's house during the mid night?

No, leaving a home without saying a word at mid night is not right.

5. Is there a limit in friendship? Sona-Ishaan relationship (even though we know Sona was doing it on purpose but Ishaan didn't know that).

That's OK I think. Sonali tried to let Suhana know that Ishaan is not such a person as she thinks. And about Sona-Ishaan relationship – we can understand that they were like that before also. That's y the older people in the Kashyap family do not feel bad in it. They feel it as usual.

And another thing is, I don't think that the exact problem with Suhana is not the friendship between Ishaan and Sonali. Of course, the closeness between them is one of the reasons. But the exact problem is that she is jealouse to Sonali. That irritation started before Sonali reached in Kashyap family itself. After knowing the news that Sonali's arrival, all the family members were very excited and all had only one name to say Sonali.. sonali.... Sonali... They were busy with purchasing good things for Sonali, Choosing best bed sheets etc made Suhana a feeling that her importance becomes faded. When she reached, her feelings got firmed. For her that Sonali is smarter, intelligent and beautiful which broke all her expectations. And the very next day Sonali won the bet and followed by each time she has a feeling that she is getting failed. In between, her loving sis Sanju also praised Sonali about her fashion sense. its very hard for Suhana to believe and admit that. Her ego does not allow her to get failed. And thus she has a competitive mind towards Sonali. She afraids whether this Sonali will steal her importance, position or not. Thats y she interprets when sonali said she'd create the rangoli and she would suggest the place for tour etc. Gradually, she gets tensed that in the case of Ishaan also, whether her importance is getting less. So she struggles to win. That struggle makes her understand that Ishaan is her….