Ok! A whole forum is debating about the right of people to make certain decisions/actions and then if they are right in doing so. Let's see if we can tell the difference between having the right to do a thing and if that automatically makes that thing right. Subtle difference? Maybe yes, maybe not...
IG's Ban-
Does he have the right?
He is the IG of a city who was offered a bribe by a famous criminal in his own son's engagement. He has the right to sever social connection with this man. If in his mind no compromise is acceptable it is better for him to take a firm stand and he has the right to take this stand.
But is he right?
It is a high-handed demand. It is ruthless. He has not considered the happiness of his own family or the discomfiture of the Saxenas when he made the demand. He has expected that his son adopt his own hard line. He has expected his son to feel exactly like him. But the fact is if his son goes against his wishes he is very much capable of distancing himself from the wedding.
Aman's reaction
He is sad to put the Saxena's in a tough spot, but he believe his father is right. He has a similar disgust for the Thakurs and their evil ways. He really wants to marry Aarushi and is particularly dismayed at this having come to such a bad conflict. If the Saxena's had insisted on the Thakur's he may have had to oppose his father, but he does not in his heart want to do it. Let us see what the future holds for him...
Saxena's reaction
This is complex, let us look at it in detail.
Attitude towards Mathurs
Respect them tremendously. They are exactly the sort of upright, cultured family that they want to associate with. They like them individually. They LOVE Aman. They may think that the IG is a bit rigid but they approve of his ethical ways. They REALLY want their daughter to go into this family. THEY HAVE A DEFINITE RIGHT TO LIKE WHOSOEVER THEY PLEASE.
Attitude towards Thakurs
They dislike them. Disrespect them. Are ashamed of them. And are still very very angry with them. The only reason that they TOLERATE the Thakurs is because their daughter is caught in that house and they don't want to alienate them further because it will only have repercussions on their daughter's happiness. THEY HAVE A RIGHT TO HATE THOSE PEOPLE who have made their life and their daughter's life miserable, insulted and threatened them on several occasions who are responsible for all loss of prestige in society and who have treated the Saxena's inhumanly. No man can forgive in-laws who have blacken his face and his daughter's face in front of him.
Attitude towards Krishna
In the beginning he was just a Thakur to them, but now they have tremendous affection for him because they understand that he really loves their daughter and now their daughter too loves him.
Their reaction to the 'Shart'
They were dismayed at having been put into a difficult situation. They are extremely sad to exclude their own dear daughter from the best thing that has happened in their family in ages. But they have suffered enough because of Pratigya. NOT HER FAULT, the poor thing, but due to her, her family has undergone severe trauma and social ridicule. Like Aadarsh said they have lost all standing in their society and biraadari because of their association with people like SS. P married K only to avoid more trauma for her family, so that Aarushi's future is not further compromised. Why should Aarushi suffer because of Pratigya. Why will they throw away their daughter's whole life for the pride of another? They have a right to secure their daughter's happiness any way they like.
It is a differentt matter if they thought that the IG's demand was unreasonable. But they don't think it. They can very well imagine how the IG loathes being asscociated with a man like SS when they themselves feel so humiliated by his connection. Shyamji almost died of mortification when SS offered that bribe in a family function. So why will they not accede to he IG's wishes? They are both right and have the right to do this.
Pratigya's reaction
Her situation is so pathetic that it is even laugable to talk of that poor girls right. Right now NOBODY is considering her plight or happiness.
But she certainly will not kick up a fuss based on her marital ego and cause further damage to her sister's life. She is not so selfish. The poor girl has come home to face the wrath of her husband and his family rather than try to make her life more comfy by fussing with her family. That girls courage, fairness and absolute selflessness leaves me amazed! No tears, no demands, no manipulation. That girl is one straight arrow. My heart bleeds for her. On a side note, she also believe the IG has the moral right to associate or disassociate with whom he likes.
Krishna's Reaction
Does he have the right to feel hurt - Yes
Does he have the right to hurt his unfortunate wife in anger – No
Krishna cannot DEMAND respect from his in-laws. He cannot expect for them to place his ego above the happiness of their daughter Aarushi. He says that his family has given respect to P and her Family. That is the most laugable lie! Apart from K himself who deeeeep inside his heart does respect P and her family, everybody from his family have given her only humiliation and rejection. His own outward behaviour has often been hurtful and very disrespectful. A family who thinks nothing of blackening their samdhi's face in their house doesn't have a leg to stand on while demanding respect. THE SAXENA's DON'T RESPECT THE THAKURS. PERIOD. No amount of screaming will change this. Only better behaviour will.
Krishna in particular is very wrong to try and take out his frustration on his wife, who is herself in a far more unhappy situation than him. If he spares a moment to look at her situation he will realise that while he is being excluded only from his SIL's wedding she is being banned from her own sister's wedding through no fault of hers. In fact if anything he should feel guilty for having put her in such a sad situation. If she had been an ordinary wife she would have screamed and ranted that her life and prestige have been smashed to dust because of marrying him and his family. But the sad part is that the poor girl is more conscious of his unhappiness than her own. K should undertsand that he is perhaps getting more than he deserves, if he continue to treat her with such lack of consideration and aggression.
So while K's sense of rejection and hurt are understandable, his unreasonable anger and aggression are totally unacceptable.
Kumkum Bhagya
Pyaar Kii Ye Ek Kahaani
Kabhi Neem Neem Kabhi Shahad Shahad
