IT HAPPENS..............
The wedding ends and the marriage begins
The band goes away, the flowers wilt, the banquet is over and all that's left is you and him
Yes, Marriages are made in Heaven but they are performed right here on this oh so non-celestial plane
Just because two individuals have become one does not mean that their individuality diminishes. They still have their personal triumphs and shortcomings. If it is ok to share the joys of one's triumph with one's soul mate then by the same token it should be ok to seek solace in support of one's shortcomings from one's soul mate. This give and take from true partners is what makes a relationship special.
Sex in marriage becomes not just an act of desire but an expression of love, intimacy and understanding for your partner (if partners are compatible on multiple levels of their relationship like Kriya is i.e. a budding yet true partnership not just an arrangement of convenience or tradition)
Sex is a vital part of marriage and it is what sets the wedded relationship apart from every other relationship that an individual has. Sex is not THE bond but the underpinning that supports and strengthens the emotional, physical and mental bond between two people.
Emotions and need don't check a schedule before they crop up and understanding this is a sign of maturity on the part of any partner in a relationship.
Yes, it is true that men see a healthy libido, their sexual prowess and their function as a provider as measures of a successful and healthy relationship while women see friendship, their ability to attract and maintain the interest of their partner and their function as a nurturer as measures of a successful and healthy relationship.
But if I may be so bold as to say this (and hope not to be viewed in a prudish light) men are not the only beings that need sex as form of assurance. Just as men need physical intimacy as a balm for their bruised ego or their underlying masculine insecurities (be it financial, emotional or otherwise), women too seek physical intimacy later on in their married life as balm for their vanity (it is not uncommon for a woman after the birth of her children to seek comfort and reassurance in her husband's attentions as balm for her own feminine insecurities).
Krishna is not like Shakti who seeks sex as a matter of routine or obligation, we know this because for months he gave her space and still continues to do so. But that does not making him invulnerable or above insecure emotions. We saw that yesterday. He was rejected by everyone who he thought loved him as unconditionally as he did and in this ongoing moment of rejection, he turned for love, reassurance and comfort to the only individual who he still TRUSTS to love him for what he is and what he is becoming not where he came from.
What we saw was a typical relationship dynamic in most couples. It is not vile or selfish (for the most part) but natural, real and special communication between a closely bonded couple. And believe me, if you have a good relationship with your spouse, you want to be the person that he turns to for solace, reassurance and comfort.
I don't usually comment on Kriya romance because Tanthya does a fabulous job at it but I thought that the topic (even outside Kriya) was one that is often misunderstood.
Hope
