See, its possible to post something for a jodi that you like by being sensible and rational. And even more glad that people are not jumping in with their usual crap and turning this post into a battlezone!
I strongly beleive that any marriage, whether its love or arranged, needs to be worked on. Just because you got together because you are in love doesn't make it work automatically. So to me the argument, that Ridhima needs to work on her marriage with Sid is very valid but its also true that if she had married Armaan she would have also had to work on making it work cos at the end of the day, they are two different individuals with very different sensibilities, thinking and passions, however, the journey would have probably been more exciting, passionate and happy for her.
But the truth is that she has tried to work on it, she has tried to make herself beleive that it is indeed Sid that she loves and that she has moved on, that Armaan is indeed her past. Kudos to her cos thats what she should be doing cos she has voluntarily chosen to get married to the guy a 2nd time!
Except that all of her assertations are hollow, and try as she may, she has never been able to grant Sid physical intimacy which is the most natural concomitant of a man-woman relationship and the ultimate commitment between a man and a woman. So while she has said the right words, done the right things by Sid, she has wronged him big time by not allowing him access to her innermost self - that self that two people must connect on if they are to truly, honestly commit to each other..
But there lies the catch doesn't it? Cos that inner core for Ridhima still lies with Armaan and their moment of weakness brought to the fore all her yearnings and desire for Armaan.
Is that right? I am not sure. Its unfair to Sid that she sucumbs to her weakness while married to him but even more unfair that given her weakness and inabiliy to get over Armaan, she remains married to him! Armaan is right when he says in her current state, she is destroying three lives.
She needs to introspect, sort her feelings and tell the men in her life about it. Whether she decides on Armaan or not, she owes it to Sid and their relationship to come clean with him. Sid deserves to have a wife and not a trophy companion by his side.
But most important of all, she needs to be allowed to make that choice! While there will be people hurt one way or the other in the long run its better! Like bheegi (can I call you that) said, better to discover now than to wake up 10-15 yeard down the line an drealise that you wasted someone else and your life living out a lie! BEtter a quick surgical wound than one that festers!
Edited by DMGFan-2b-not2b - 15 years ago
