The Four Main Leads - Why is Everyone So Divided?

Originally posted by: vena.cava.

SID: A very cool, calm and overall fun kid. Wasn't afraid to have fun and uber confident in himself. He was just all around enjoying life and pretty much careless when it came to responsibility. Then he fell in love. With Tamanna. Unfortunately it was a love mostly one-sided. Although I didn't watch those episodes much, I *think* she loved him as well, but she had her parents to worry about. And I think even her parents would have been okay but he wasn't ready to marry her, i.e. be fully committed.
Sid was heartbroken when Tamanna told him that she felt they were just good friends and when she moved away Sid had grown up (well somewhat). His falling in love helped him mature into not yet a man but definately not quite the boy he once was upon entering Sanjeevani. True, he really did mature from this relationship but not completely. He still had some of that boyish immaturity.
Then Riddhima came back with a band and quite literally for Sid. There was an instant mutual dislike between the two. She hated him and he annoyed her whenever he could. Although this relationship with her started off as hate it eventually developed into understanding and then finally love. Hmm you know I don't think either party loved each other at that point. As soon as Armaan came that's when they both were like "I'm beginning to like him/her". But they never said love at that point. Also one thing that is annoying is that Sid NEVER remembered Tamanna in his relationship with Riddhima. I'll even accept that he didn't really love her, but come on shouldn't he at least remember. And okay Sid knows about Armaan, but shouldn't Riddhima know about Tamanna?
Sid grew in his relationship with Riddhima, much more than he had with Tamanna. Obviously Sid was still the cute nok-jhok type of guy he was before, but he had a better understanding of the world and people around him. He accepted her past and all, something only a person who was genuine in his love for a person would do. When Armaan came back Sid felt bewildered. Very true!
His wife who he was now slowly falling for and thought she was falling for him was now sending mixed messages. The action of her signing the divorce papers broke something in Sid, feeling he was being used as a 'toy'. I disagree with this part. Yes Riddhima was sending mixed messages and mostly it was her fault. BUT this whole mess was actually created by Sid. He sent Armaan to meet her without telling her, and he was the one who sent the divorce papers. Then how is it her fault for signing it. Wouldn't she think that he wants to break things off, when he's setting meetings with her ex and sending divorce papers?
He later tried distancing himself from Riddhima so as to save himself the heartbreak and because he felt she would be happier without him. True after all of this, he distanced himself and let her make a choice...something which she tortured Armaan, Sid and the audience with.
That obviously backfired with the fact that Riddhima chose Sid over Armaan in the end.
Now both are trying (I feel Sid more than Riddhima) to make their relationship work. Sid is now so understanding when it comes to Riddhima. I have a new found respect for him after covering her up in yesterday's episode. He has acknowledged the importance that Armaan once held in his wife's life. However, Sid is ignorant when it comes to his friend, Armaan's, feelings. He feels that because Riddhima has moved on that so has Armaan, hence asking Armaan about the birthday surpirse party. Sid is cute and an exceptional human being, as seen with his scenes with Riddhima and others, but his ignorance when it comes to Armaan is a drawback in his otherwise very lovable personality. He fails to see the pain his friend is going through because he is so caught up in making his wife happy. Hopefully he'll know what Armaan is going through after the whole drunk fiasco and becomes a strong pillar of support (although he might be the last choice for support for Armaan) for Armaan and respects whatever decision Armaan makes. This is the least Sid can do for someone who sacrificed his own love to help the love of his life be united with him. I respect Sid as the person he is with Riddhima but he can own up to his responsibilities as a friend. I thoroughly agree with this part. He's a very good husband and cares for his friend but he needs to be more understanding towards Armaan just like he is towards Riddhima...nothing more to add...you said it all Noreen.

SHILPA: Albeit a relatively new character, Dr. Shilpa has become an essential part of DMG. She is funny, smart and full of tricks. However Shilpa does not realize that she is too judgemental and is very quick to jump to conclusions and make assumptions. This is evident with her encounters with Armaan. This is quite true and I think this is a trait that she shares with Riddhima. Riddhima was very quick to make assumptions about Armaan and jump to false conclusions.
She is quick to attack him when he played a prank on Sid, accusing Armaan as becoming a wedge in Sid and Riddhima's relationship. Her words cut Armaan more than she will ever know. Her fiery tongue and talking before thinking attitude will cost her in the end when she finds out the truth about Armaan. Her immediate dislike of him brought about a fight of pranks between her and Armaan. When one of these pranks went too far on Armaan's part, we got to see a part of Shilpa that was not seen before. She became vulnerable and through pouring tears was convincing herself that she was a strong girl. This very proclamation showed that Shilpa was not without a past, she had been hurt and would not be reduced to that again. I loved this part, not just b/c of the way it was portrayed (that was done well) but b/c it showed this very different side to Shilpa, i.e. her vulnerability. And the fact that she is not just some childish prankster.
However as things mended with her and Armaan she developed a soft corner for him which changed with her accusation towards him. However after the fight we have seen that Shilpa is not what people first expected her to be. Blaming her for the distraught state Armaan is in right now is futile. She did not bring the emotional baggage upon Armaan, yes her accusations were completely uncalled for and brought back unwanted memories but she has done so indirectly. You cannot blame her for something she has no idea she has done. You can blame her for hurling her own opinions of Armaan to his face directly but not of the emotional mess he is in now. I have been saying this all along. Everyone keeps on commenting as to how Shilpa's responsible for this mess and the pain that Armaan is going through. I agree that she did a mistake by being too judgmental and wrongly accusing him but all that pain was not caused by her. The pain was b/c of everything that has happened ever since he came back, and if any person is to be blamed then its Riddhima and yes also Sid (for his insensitivity). But the majority of it goes to Riddhima.

Shilpa will grow and eventually heal the part of Armaan that Riddhima has left as an open wound. I genuinely feel that although Shilpa is hurting from her own past, that when she does fall in love with Armaan that it will be unconditional and amazing. Once she finds out about his diaries and everything Shilpa will fight against Armaan's unwillingness and show him that he can truly love again. She will love him as passionately as Armaan loved Riddhima, and through this very passion she will overcome her own insecurities and give Armaan the love he deserves. A selfless, passionate and trustworthy love. Very eager to see how their story progress.Exactly! I agree, and as before, nothing more to add here. Only that once Armaan let go of his memories, and truly decides to move on, and once he understands Shilpa and her love, he will also reciprocate it with the same fervor and passion as she does.

RIDDHIMA: For a long time Riddhima was known among fans as Armaan's other half, soulmate, true love etc... Boy have times changed and boy has Riddhima changed. She has changed so much, and honestly after Jan '10, I don't even think of her as the same person. People keep on saying "basket" or even "teacher" but nope, the person who returned was Dr. Gupta who then later became Mrs. Modi or Dr. Modi.

After dealing with the 'loss' of Armaan Riddhima was about ready to kill herself, quite literally. I once used to love Riddhima's character. She was cute and chullbulli. She loved to prank Armaan and fell head over heels in love with him. However she completely changed when she thought she had lost Armaan. She became meaner with a I-don't-take-nonsense-from-anyone kind of attitude. Exactly what I said before, she changed alot. And she became this huge cynic....almost like a Mr. Scrooge or even the Grinch.

It irked me how she treated Sid in the beginning. But then she began to see him in a new light and although I was not at all thrilled with the prospect of Siddhima at first, I felt Sid understood Riddhima better than anyone at that moment in time. I do think so too, and the reason for that is that he just went through the same thing. Tamanna, his love, left him exactly like she thought Armaan, her love, left her. Hence he could relate and understand her pain and loss.

Armaan coming back did not help Riddhima's change in behaviour towards Sid at all. He threw her whole world off axis. She was safe knowing her and Sid could eventually work it out but Armaan having been once the love of her life had not yet left her heart. I became increasingly irritated and disappointed with Riddhima when Armaan came back, especially the way she told him she was married. She could not choose between her husband and the man she once loved. She was stringing them both along and being confused herself she confused Sid and Armaan too. Riddhima was treating them both unfairly. OMG, the track since Armaan came to Shilpa entering (minus I guess all the stupid dostana parts and the filler comedy) it was just torture to watch that. I don't think I ever hated a character more than I hated her then. I mean she wanted to have her cake and eat it too! She treated both of them oh so badly. She never talked it out with either of them. Her response for everything was just crying, then running away in her heels. I began to think that she wanted to beat Usain Bolt in some marathon.
And yes the way she broke the news to Armaan was just pure cruel. Plus why was she listening to her husband so much and acting as Armaan's wife? Ok fine it was for his "mom" but come on have some heart for your ex. You may be married now but you did love that guy and maybe still do a little, then don't you care about his feelings?

When Riddhima finally came to a decision I was glad she had made up her mind. Yes even though it was not Armaan, something that I'll always regret, b/c yes I am an ArSh fan now but no one can deny that AR were a big part of DMG. And as a viewer it hurts to see it broken, but life moves on (plus I found that Riddhima was no longer basket) and so I was VERY happy that she finally made a decision.

The funny thing is now that Riddhima is amazing as Mrs. Modi. Her cute little fights with Sid, their romantic moments and their understanding of each other, even their chemistry is dead on. When she's with Sid, Riddhima is like this whole new person. She is happy and caring and every bit the wife Sid deserves and needs. However, Riddhima completely changes when she becomes the Riddhima she was once with Armaan. She becomes cautious and hesitant whenever she comes near Armaan. I know she may still harbor old feelings and might not ever forget her first love but she treats Armaan horribly. She expects him to just accept that she is married. I was so mad at her when she lashed out at Armaan when he played that prank on Sid and even worse when she apologized and started to talk to him about the way they were. I think she felt that he may be at peace with their past but why would Riddhima, who thinks she knows Armaan better than anyone else, even think of bringing up old memories. Couldn't she see that Armaan didn't need a rundown of the past? In today's episode she said to Armaan that he could never lie to her than why can't she see through the fake smiles Armaan has plastered on for her satisfication. It irks me that this woman who was once so in love with this man can't even tell how he is feeling anymore, like they were nothing but strangers. I am not saying Riddhima is a bad person because she isn't in fact that is exactly what she tries not to be. But Riddhima does not realize the extent of which Armaan is hurting. Bang on! You know I find a parallel between Sid and Riddhima on this account. Both of them are very good to each other and understand one another, and you';re right that Riddhima understands Sid much better than she did Armaan. I mean come on, how many times has she been wrong about him or been too judgmental (this was even when they were together). But she can see through Sid....I do think that this has something to do with Armaan indirectly. I mean he "left" her and then she had that time to dwell upon her life, and then after she didn't find him, she really changed. And I think she finally became a woman and let go of some of her insecurities. So in way that provided growth and helped her relationship with Sid.
Coming back to the parallel, SR understand each other but they are very insensitive towards Armaan. And exactly, everyone keeps on harping about how she can see through him, but if she can then doesn't she know how much pain he's going to through? I guess she's trying but she ought to know that Armaan loved her more than she loved him, and this is VERY hard for him. And she keeps making it harder by asking him come to the party to witness SR's love and relationship: a reminder of what AR couldn't be.

I hope she just gives him space and closure because that is honestly what he needs right now. Riddhima has not once yet sat down with Armaan and tell him how she feels about everything that has happened and has never listened to what Armaan has to say. She just assumed that because she told him she was moving on that he would do the same. As always, Riddhima made assumptions about Armaan...
But ya I do agree that there was more closure needed. I know they had a talk at night in the garden and then they said good bye in the BB court, but it was always her doing the talking. I think she shoulda let Armaan let out his heart's content. He's never done that and he BADLY needs to. Sadly he will do that now but the place and time isn't right. Or you know what? Maybe it is, I think not just SR but others ought to also know about Armaan and that AR did happen, so people ought to be a wee bit more sensitive of his feelings.

It would have been better if they had spent a day with each other to let each other go; remembering old memories, talking about how they BOTH felt and about the future. They needed closure, both willing to listen to each other and talk. If that had happened maybe Armaan would not have been in the mess he is now and Riddhima would not be lingering on his memories. Riddhima becomes amazing whenever she's with Sid, there is a reason why people love her so much as Mrs. Modi but there is also a reason why people feel she is horrible towards Armaan and dislike her for it. She should work on her relationship towards Sid. Although she may be thinking about Armaan and was hurt when he did not wish her (which I really hope was more for everything they've been through than her current confused feelings) Riddhima needs to appreciate Sid more and give him her full attention. In doing so she will keep Sid and herself happy and spare Armaan the pain.
Hmm I don't think she was hurt that Armaan didn't wish her. I'm not a Riddhima fan but I'm quite sure she saw through him and knew just as well that he had remembered however due to their messed up relationship, he didn't wish her.
And well yes she's good as Mrs. Modi, but thats only very recently. I mean before she even gave this guy a very hard time. She kept treating him like some school teacher, and ll his attempts to please her would fail. The guy was and is always scared of angering or upsetting her. I feel that it's only now that she's cutting him some slack. But ya focus more on Sid and leave Armaan alone. He needs some lonely time from SR to get over this. Her concerns and Sid's constant questions about Riddhima ain't gonna help him get over Riddhima.

ARMAAN: Who once swooned at the very thought of their own Armaan? Armaan who loves passionately, madly and truly. So why is that the Armaan who was once strong and willing to stand up for himself is now distraught, an emotional mess and hurting? I've read so many posts (and although this has been acknowleged MANY times) about how Armaan should just get over it, shouldn't lust after a married woman, accept Riddhima as someone else's wife, stop the flashbacks etc... Having been a loyal viewer of DMG from the very beginning I can safely say that Armaan is justified in his pain. He had never loved anyone as much as he had Riddhima. He had held her whenever she cried, had fought for her hand in marriage and in the end sacrificed all of it because SHE had asked him to. He would do anything for her if she were to ask him of it. Exactly! He never loved anyone as much as he loved Riddhima, so getting over her is VERY hard for him. You know I've really had it with those FBs and I refer to them as nightmares, b/c all they do is bring him pain and cause him to dwell about something that cannot be anymore. And yes I am an ArSh fan but that still doesn't mean that I will overlook Armaan and his great love for Riddhima. I hate those FBs but I understand where he's coming from. I know that this will be hard for him and he will take his time. And yes he'd do anything for her. He was soooo disappointed when Riddhima told him that she wishes to be with Sid, but if she had said the opposite he would have fought against all odd for their love. But Riddhima's moved on, and yes he's let go of Riddhima. But just as he said in the precap, he still has the memories, and the thing is that now he's holding on them like they are his life.

For a while Armaan was doing fine, accepting Riddhima as his past and was letting her go. Shilpa's entry had him falling back to his old self. Funny, naughty, prankster Armaan. His expressions whenever she was around were so hilarious. Alas that was not to last and now we have an Armaan who's aching and grieving the death of a love that once brightened his very day. Armaan backed down because that was what everyone expected of him. Armaan who had fought hard and long for the right to marry the love of his life could no longer fight for her. How does one feel when they are brought upon a road where they are completely helpless? Well Armaan did the only thing he thought he could, help unite Sid and Riddhima. And he did. As much as people may feel that Sid and Riddhima are meant for each other (to some extent I agree, seeing as Riddhima understands Sid better than she ever did Armaan) and Sid loves Riddhima very much, I refuse to believe that Sid's love for Riddhima is greater than Armaan's love for her. Armaan has now been brought to the stage that he did not once pass when uniting Sid and Riddhima. He is wallowing (the Gilmore Girl's term for crying it all out and just letting your emotions run wild to get over a breakup). So let him wallow, he needs to. Suppressing his emotions will do no one but himself harm (seeing how he's going to behave tomorrow). I think the drinking in tomorrow's episode will do him good. His getting drunk will provide the catharsis that has been a long time coming now. Let him lash out and say what he wants to say and do what he wants to do, because he hasn't thought about himself in so long. His words may cut Sid and Riddhima but they deserve to know what he is going through if they care for him. I may sound like I am favouring Armaan over everyone else but I'm not. This is just how I see his character but I feel its high time he comes out of his despair and try to find a new light (Shilpa), but after the drunk scene. Yup yup again I agree and yes SR may be made for each other (simply b/c as you said she understands Sid better than Armaan) BUT I do feel that Armaan loves her more than Sid does. Having said that, I do think that once ArSh love each other, Armaan will also love Shilpa with the same fervour and passion as he did Riddhima. People may say oh no, Riddhima was his first love and he may move on but it won't be the same as AR. But no. Look ArSh are VERY much similar, and Shilpa is soooo much like how Armaan was when he first entered DMG. But even now both are going through the same things. Honestly both just need some love in their lives, and once Armaan understands that and the Riddhima cloud moves away, he will be able to love Shilpa just as much as he did Riddhima.
Oh and his rant is VERY much needed...something which I have said before in this topic as well as my own topic about Armaan letting it all out.

Phew that was a very long post and reply. You have no idea how long it took to get this reply done, simply b/c I was multitasking and there was alot to read and add back.
Again thanks so much for this, and it was lovely reading this post.

I absolutely loooooooooooooooooooove the Gilmore Girls, good to know that there are two other people who love the show too 😊

Although not the direction I intended this topic to go towards I do appreciate the Gilmore Girl love! Does anyone not have anything to say?

Originally posted by: vena.cava.

Although not the direction I intended this topic to go towards I do appreciate the Gilmore Girl love! Does anyone not have anything to say?