Let's be honest, are men actually like Dutta?

One of the things that we swooooon over when it comes to Dutta is his purity of action and thought. I think you'll agree when I say he is a complicated man, but with a beautiful heart. And his attitudes toward people, including women, are honorable. His greatest wish in the world is for an emotional connection with someone, which is something I think many women can relate to and respect, vs. looks.

Now, let's switch back to reality. Dammit!

I would say Dutta is unlike 70-80% of men, and I don't think I'm being pessimistic or looking down on the lesser sex. 😆 😆 😆 Just joking...
In all seriousness though, not many men have this attitude towards women. I've had many a conversation over this over time...from an evolutionary (which believe it or not is very applicable to this day) and psychiatric and even societal perspective. And it is to a valid degree, very true...men's interest is triggered by visuals...ahem 😆 and the emotional connection piece is not something that many men fully think about in their lives...it's not part of their language as much as it is for women. There are some really interesting books/research on this very topic.

I'm curious what your take is on it.

I agree...Dutta isnt real. Very few men are like Dutta. What MR said in his interview is right. Most people whether men or women want a good looking partner.
But then again for both men or woman its their experiences that shape their personality and thinking. While a younger man...college or in his first job would look for a beautiful partner. Thats why in college and initial days of job there is intense peer pressure. This emphasis on looks reduces with time as experiences add on. But even then everyone wants a pleasant looking partner.
Coming to Dutta...his experience with his first love and then later his experiences in the underworld have made him the person he is today. If his first love would have been say Naku I am sure he would have been a different person.

i agree with u..dutta IS unlike many men around..
you would never find a man with such a pure and golden heart..
i mean u will find very loyal hubbies..who never mind looking at pretty women...
for girls its always the beauty that matter..just like nakku said..but for dutta,the nature of a person is more imp..

men's interest is triggered by visuals--u have hit the bulls eye here..this is what happens in real life..

men only do the job of earning..they just want the satisfaction of mind n soul..i agree..they are not that emotional..there are very few who are emotional...hence they are called 'MEN'
some men feel like they have more freedom than women...but men are rational fools 😆
i agree with u gp..dutta is one of a kind..

Now let me throw this discussion on its head.

Dutta is a very, very attractive man. The question is would he be as equally attractive to us if he were not so?

My answer to that would be perhaps we would not become attracted at first. But that would be our loss. However, I think women, for the most part, would still open a relationship with the person, eg as a friend, whatever. Over time, though, I think women would perhaps appreciate a man who was like Dutta on the inside--the complexity, the vulnerability, the inherent goodness--and even develop that emotional bond.

I do not think that is the same for most men. They would stop at step 1. No go, if the looks aren't there, at some level. And from the competitive angle mentioned above, I have to laugh at guys like that. Such morons, really. I had many friends who were guys and were wonderful friends, but I cannot tell you how many times I rolled my eyes at them, or gave them a piece of my mind. Guys being competitive over their girlfriends, wives--perfect. And they're more preoccupied with impressing other men--unfortunately, many of them do not change. Sad but true. What a waste of time they can be.

Originally posted by: gp00

Now let me throw this discussion on its head.

Dutta is a very, very attractive man. The question is would he be as equally attractive to us if he were not so?

GP ...... good topic for discussion. I do agree that men and women are kind of diff , their way of looking at things is diff........ but may be we cant generalize that men behave in a certain way , but ya most of them may fall in that category.........

interesting conversation. When you are young (early 20s?)looks matter. Then you meet enough good looking (and bad looking) jerks. And you realize that having an emotional connection, being with someone who cares for you and who will be with you in sickness and health, good times and bad, wrinkles and warts is far more important then looks.

Look around you how many people that are married hot looking?

My (a bit cynical) take on this is that it is almost a clear-cut split between the good looking people and average/below-average looking people. Those who fall into the former category (particularly men) feel they are due a good looking partner. Hence I think almost unanimously that whole cohort of individuals never possess those qualities that we swoon over in regards to Dutta - the indifference to looks, primarily giving attention to one's heart and good intentions, etc. They know they look good and are very much conscious of it.

At the same time I feel those that fall in the latter category - there are many people in that group who possess all these qualities that we find so attractive. It is almost like they are trying their level best to compensate for not being so good looking by having these other great qualities. They of course don't live up to the good looks because they aren't apparent in a passing glance. That is probably why almost everyone of us sometime or another has seen a pair and wondered - 'wonder why someone as gorgeous as her would want to be with somebody who looks like him?' or vice versa.

Dutta's likes are the rare type that are a sort of a combination of both of best worlds and so quite honestly I don't think a good 95% of us would've found anything particularly great in him if he didn't have the good looks and charm as part and parcel of his character. We would've ultimately seen him as the average/ugly sweet guy - sadly almost like the 'nice loser' a la SRK's character in Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi who gets lucky with having a ugly ducking who is actually beautiful fall for him. It wouldn't have been nearly as magical and so darn appealing like it currently is. And it's not just his looks - it is the power factor too. Just the way the guys are notoriously known to be drawn good looks I'd say we are drawn to the power factor - hence that strange appeal with these don type love stories. A good looking guy with a power factor more then doubles the appeal factor. So in the bigger picture we (and in particular men) just historically and universally are quite a superficial species - ouch.

Originally posted by: oddgalout

Dutta's likes are the rare type that are a sort of a combination of both of best worlds and so quite honestly I don't think a good 95% of us would've found anything particularly great in him if he didn't have the good looks and charm as part and parcel of his character. We would've ultimately seen him as the average/ugly sweet guy - sadly almost like the 'nice loser' a la SRK's character in Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi who gets lucky with having a ugly ducking who is actually beautiful fall for him. It wouldn't have been nearly as magical and so darn appealing like it currently is. And it's not just his looks - it is the power factor too. Just the way the guys are notoriously known to be drawn good looks I'd say we are drawn to the power factor - hence that strange appeal with these don type love stories. A good looking guy with a power factor more then doubles the appeal factor. So in the bigger picture we (and in particular men) just historically and universally are quite a superficial species - ouch.