Badi ma's husband: wrong or right?

So today's episode sort of gave us a perspective from Badi ma's husband himself. Until now, we've only gotten the perspectives of the family members regarding his actions. So it's been easy, at least for me to disagree with his actions.

But I would just like to ask everyone what they thought after today's episode? Whether anyone thought that the man's betrayal to badi ma and family was justified or not?

In the flashback and the letter, we got to know the reason for the betrayal. The guy mentions that he was just following his heart and he fell in love with this Meera person. And without caring about the samaaj, he just listened to his heart.

So would you think that justifies his actions?

Personally for me, the fact that this man acted in this way just shows that he puts this girl Meera and his career before his entire family that has supported him throughout his life. Not only his parents, brothers and sisters, but even his children. I mean it's kind of ironic the way Badi ma, is there for HIS family and has made his family her own, while he being born into the family has abandoned them. Plus his reasoning for his career and the fact that this Meera girl allowed him to have a green card in U.S. kind of makes you inclined to believe he acted this way for selfish reasons rather than for true love.

What I really like about this show though is that all perspectives of all sides are always shown so you never feel like blaming one person. And so today we did get to see a bit of badi ma's husband's perspective as well.

So anyways, what I'm really asking is whether we can justify this man's actions or not based on what we saw today?

I'd love to know your thoughts on this. :)

well,i havent watched the episode,but sacrificing family for the sake of ambitions is just not done.there are people who will agree with the huge American dream and the importance of the Green Card,but eventually,how can a person stay in an alien land forever,far away from his own family...his parents,wife,children?Im not sure if he actually fell in love with the Meera person or married her for a GC,but the fact that he wasnt committed to his own family makes me lose all respect for him.
from a different perspective though,some people are never happy until their careers are on the right track,and they would go to any extent for it,at the end of the day,if its a choice between career and family,then that career isnt worth pursuing.
its true that having a good career,a sprawling house,a posh status in the society and a fancy car adds to your social esteem,but who do you share this happiness with?you deserted your family for this.at the end of the day,youre still a lonely person with no one to share your happiness with.
thats just my POV...please feel free to disagree

Originally posted by: mjhtac

well,i havent watched the episode,but sacrificing family for the sake of ambitions is just not done.there are people who will agree with the huge American dream and the importance of the Green Card,but eventually,how can a person stay in an alien land forever,far away from his own family...his parents,wife,children?Im not sure if he actually fell in love with the Meera person or married her for a GC,but the fact that he wasnt committed to his own family makes me lose all respect for him.
from a different perspective though,some people are never happy until their careers are on the right track,and they would go to any extent for it,at the end of the day,if its a choice between career and family,then that career isnt worth pursuing.
its true that having a good career,a sprawling house,a posh status in the society and a fancy car adds to your social esteem,but who do you share this happiness with?you deserted your family for this.at the end of the day,youre still a lonely person with no one to share your happiness with.
thats just my POV...please feel free to disagree

Hey, thanks for sharing your thoughts. :)

I totally agree with you. I was maybe hoping ki someone would be able to provide an insight to this guy's actions. Since I def. can't.

But I totally agree with you. I like how you said that what's the point of wealth and status etc. if you can't share it with your loved ones! Aww, yeah too true.

Maybe later on in the show they will show badi ma's husband or something. I wonder how they will resolve this inner conflict badi ma has with herself. Maybe they will just show the pain slowly going away with the help of the support from all the family members!

But the fact that it's been so many years and this incident still causes the family members grief makes me wonder if they will be able to move past this incident ever. Even though badi ma and family have tried to put it past them and smile; the incident still keeps on bringing back haunting memories. Esp. for badi ma. Perhaps Suhana will play a part in helping badi ma resolve with this inner conflict of hers?

This show really makes you thankful for family na? I mean such an incident, and even that of Radha bua's is so traumatic. It's so hard to get past something like this. It makes you very thankful for family by your side that can love you, support you, and help you move on.

Makes me love this show even more when I think about how AWESOME this family is for supporting each other through these tough times! :))

Great topic cute2stay. It was really heart breaking to see Badi maa in grief. Although that man wrote that he followed his heart, I still don't have an an ounce of respect for him. Did his heart not tell him he had a duty towards his parents? Did his heart not yearn for his own flesh and blood his children? The woman he lived with for 15 years and had children with her and justifies his actions that there is no more love in their marriage? How damn convenient it is to say there's no more love? Then what about his duties towards his children and parents?

It's not done... he is a selfish low or no moral guy... he is not worth shedding even a drop of tear. And Badi maa shed so many tears today... dadi dadi shed so many tears... 😭 the man is not worth it...

I can tell you that what u said is right...

Awesome topic (cute2stay) and awesome answers guyz...👏..👏..👏.. U all have shared such lovely thoughts... ab kya bacha hai yaar..😭.😭.😭.. I have the same thoughts ...😃...

For Badi maa's husband life is just " I ME MYSELF" 😒 🐷 😡
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no.. its all MY LOVE, MY JOB, MY BLAH BBLAH BLAH.. everyone did love marriage in ishaans family so its assumed that he also had a love marriage. even if he didnt, he has the responsibility of 2 kids and his wife. they trust him to go videsh for better job opportunity and he repays them by getting married again??

i agree.. one can fall out of love but he broke up with her through A LETTER!!!that's like breaking up with someone over the phone or via text.. SOCIALLY UNACCEPTABLE!!! and if he fell out of love GOOD FOR HIM.. he couldve came back and told her.. atleast shw wouldve got some sort of closure to move on! AND what about his kids? what was their fault.. only that they loved their father???

one word to describe her husband:SELFISH!! there's also greedy and disgusting but the main word is DISGUSTING!

Gr8 topic of discussion and I agree with what all of you have written. There aren't enough words to describe Badi ma's husband. I haven't seen that episode yet becoz US is 1 week behind India and I prefer watching SGP on TV than on youtube...just to enjoy it to the fullest😳