Sushma meets Brij, hears his apology

Originally posted by: wejay

I also slightly contradict with the idea of adpot out. Its good but dosent she have guts to raise her own kid. Its not like she has lost her legs and hands and dependent on someone. She will eventually work, all go through a struggle in life just that the taste of each is different.

She could study, take tutions at home and with that money give her kid atleast still 3 yrs the basic needs. Its not that all babies will grow only if they use pediatric formuals and huggies n snuggies. They are many kids in India who without that grow pretty fine. If everyone finds easy ways to tackle like Sushma then god only save. She has the boldness unlike Jyoti to call a spade SPADE!! Then why the heck are they making her weak enough to think she cannot give a secure future to her baby.

Frankly speaking, if that is the case every person in the slum has to adpot out their kids. We all see how people below the poverty line in India are sending their kids to school and educating them. I personally know of widow who used to make papads and sell - she made sure her daughter got the best of facilities she could give, the girl is currently working as big shot in a very famous company.

There are so many single mothers in this world who despite the troubles the face bring up the kids. Why cant the CVs potray Sushma to be one of them???????????

Originally posted by: Vrisha

Wejay

This last point I disagree w/ strongly. I'm a dad, not a mom, but trust me - it's tough enough for a married couple to raise a kid - whether it's checking out his homework, preparing him from school, getting him back, seeing to it what he does while also doing one's other work, be it cooking, paying the bills, laundry, taking the kid out to play or other activities, et al. It's particularly tougher in modern, 2 working-parent families. So double the effort when it comes to just one

In this case, Sushma would have to juggle 3 things - studying, working and looking after her kid. As a result, there would be a high probability of her not being able to do any of those things well. If the kid falls sick, she'd have to take time off school or work. If she can't do her studies properly as a result, she won't be able to pay her kid's school bills, let alone other things. And if she puts too much time @ work or study, the kid will get ignored. In fact, at this stage, even if a reformed Brij is back and eliminates her need to work (which he won't - how much will he make on his manual labor job - certainly not anywhere near enough to send their kid to a decent school, so even Sushma would have to work), Sushma would still have to split her time b/w kid and her own school. And you are suggesting she give tuitions. What would she pay attention to - her kid, her students or her own studies?

No, given everything she has gone thru, I thoroughly admire her decision to adopt out her kid. She's had the opportunity to meet w/ Sarika & her hubby enough times, and see what sort of an environment they would provide her kid. Let's look @ this from her kid's point of view. With one family, it would have a fairly well off parents who would be able to give it a comprehensive care, education and meet all its needs. With its own parents, it would have a dad who's barely making anything, a mom who's still in school, a grandpa in a wheelchair, an equally worthless grandma & great-grandma, an uncle & aunt (Deepu & Poonam) who are likely to resent it since it would compete w/ its cousin for limited family resources, and yet another aunt who's totally stectched out. How is that a good environment for it? Jyoti's stupid 'mein hoon na's deserve to be totally ignored.

Look @ it another way - had Brij not been an alcoholic, but had been working jobs like this during his marriage, and Sushma doing her studies, do you think they'd in their right mind have planned to have kids? Most married couples generally plan to have it after they've reached a certain stable point - be it a good paying job, or something like that. Just b'cos slum-dwellers have kids doesn't imply that they make the best decisions. So while I'm against Brij & Sushma re-uniting, let's say they did, then too, Sushma would do well to keep her promise to Sarika. In fact, she should in such a case tell Brij that this is her decision, and that her accepting his offer is conditional on his accepting this agreement she's had.

No, ideally, this argument of a woman being 'strong' and raising a kid all by herself is something valid for women who lose their hubbies after their children are born, and have not been adopted out, like if the spouse dies in an accident. If a woman loses her hubby before the kid's even born, then adoption makes sense, unless they are from a family like the Vashisths, where you have a supportive Jeth & Bhabi to help support all the kids. I mean, MN&G did a good job supporting Bhairavi and raising Uday & Minal along w/ Pankaj & Pratik. That sort of an environment is the only one where it makes sense.

In fact, I disagree w/ Jyoti keeping the kid and raising it herself: she should have aborted when she first knew, or if she didn't want to do it due to future complications in future pregnancies, at least plan something similar to Sushma (although Sushma discovered hers by accident). Of course, if she decides to marry Kabir and they agree to keep it and have subsequent kids, that changes everything. Or even if Jyoti decides to meet Pankaj half way and decides to marry Kabir, but give Pankaj's baby back to Pankaj & Neelam.

Go ahead w/ your plans, Sushma, but do consider telling your parents the truth after the fact - after you've given it away.

well, mayb if jyoti regains her senses then she tells sushi not 2 give away her baby then sushi will get emotional n drop her idea n go back 2 brij... what a fantastic track!😡

Originally posted by: vik rocks

well, mayb if jyoti regains her senses then she tells sushi not 2 give away her baby then sushi will get emotional n drop her idea n go back 2 brij... what a fantastic track!😡