Sometimes Courage Is Just Admitting Your Fears

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Posted: 15 years ago
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I had once read somewhere a very beautiful thought ; it was about love and fear 2 of the most powerful emotions a human feels - 2 emotions which can make a person do the most unexplainable - despicable things - things perhaps sometimes even they themselves are unaware of being in their capacity - as these emotions are so strong - they can truly make or break a person as can be said

the lines:

Every Man is afraid of something; that' how you know he is in love with you, when he is afraid of losing you.

ahh and so true ... now when they hold what exactly Samrat is feeling at the moment.

a man who is insanely in love with this girl - a girl who seems ordinary to the world - a girl once ridiculed upon for her low self confidence issues, a girl with glasses cause of which the world doesn't at times find her pretty enough to be a match for someone of his caliber, a girl who belongs to a middle class family from a small town in comparison to he - who has seen the world and is the heir to a fortune of millions.

a girl who above all this to him is his reason for living - the only ray of hope in his dark life - a sunshine who shone upon him and took his hand making him walk away from those lonesome paths to where their was joy, bliss, comfort, someone who was there for him, someone who for the first time in his life was HIS; and above all she gave him the 1 thing he always craved fro - the one thing his heart always held in abundance and unfortunately had no takers - LOVE.

now in a place and time where he unknown to the future that was awaiting him made her walk along a path to where he believed she was destined for - all she wanted and could do too - he made her fly the skies so that she can find her place under the sun for herself in the world of lights, camera, sound and action.

and now she's there holding his hand taking baby steps in a new world a new zone a new phase of her life - perhaps so she needs guidance from someone more experienced then her in this process and so she listens to a friend she once knew as a little girl - who unknown to her secretly loves her as well - to her this doesn't even exist or will even matter as for her - her world is enclosed in a nut shell coming down to only 1 person - her only joy and her whole reality today - her best friend once and even now - but today more so then ever - the love of her life - a guy for whom she secretly cried for months at end in some lonely nights as he didnt love her back nor understood her love - the guy who has finally not only reciprocated her feelings but is so madly in love with her that just the pleasure of finally being able 2 hold his hand as and when she wants as now he is HERS forever and ever has filled her heart with an incomprehensible joy

the guy who today is afraid of losing her - but its not his lack of confidence in her, himself or their love that makes him think so, its not that he doesnt trust her or himself enough - its not that he doesnt have the courage to fight for his love if the need ever arises - its ' just the fear of a man who's scared to death of fighting the one thing he knows he cant win over even if he gives his best - the one thing which strangely has never favored him so much despite all his kindness and the goodness of his heart - the one thing he cant change no matter how hard he tries - the one thing which has always made him stand alone thou amidst an array of worldly delights and friends - his LUCK - HIS DESTINY.

today the gullible man standing there isnt afraid of losing the one girl whom he loves as hell - so much so - that he would madly endanger his life for her w/o even a 2nd thought on his mind occurring - no today that gullible vulnerable man is afraid of losing just about everything he has got and cant let go off in her

a man whom today despite everything i admire and salute for he has done what is sometimes the biggest act of bravery itself - at least to me - he has had the courage to admit his fears - at least to himself .

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Posted: 15 years ago
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lovely topuc ahaana...and i completely agree.....if samrat just admits his fears and tries fighting them.....the situation may not turn out that bad....but if he culls it inside him iots sure gonna leas to a volano eruption....he is just to scared of loosing gunjan...but hes even more scared to admit it....a reason i guess may be the fact
maybe samrat feels that if he admits it,he will look kinda silly in front of the other man in gunjans life-neil...who even though he is going through heart break is keepng a staringt and mature face....
this tracks rather inresting......im looking forward to wheter samrat admits his fears or just keeps it to himself!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: shruti.nil

lovely topuc ahaana...and i completely agree.....if samrat just admits his fears and tries fighting them.....the situation may not turn out that bad....but if he culls it inside him iots sure gonna leas to a volano eruption....he is just to scared of loosing gunjan...but hes even more scared to admit it....a reason i guess may be the fact
maybe samrat feels that if he admits it,he will look kinda silly in front of the other man in gunjans life-neil...who even though he is going through heart break is keepng a staringt and mature face....
this tracks rather inresting......im looking forward to wheter samrat admits his fears or just keeps it to himself!



Shruti thx 4 agreeing with me but hon i slightly am not in agreement with u

he had to admit it to himself first hon to let anyone else know of his fear too ,so 4 me that has begun - yes he knows whats wrong so that is A HUGE DEAL

next yes i think he may not say it so easy and soon 2 even his chashmish of the issue but he'll not because he is scared he'd look silly no on - no man can ever look silly admitting to being afraid of losing his love - no he never can - but sometimes it just doesnt strike u as to how to say it - those simple things and hence we give rise to complications ourselves

its interesting 4 me now because i wanna see HIS JOURNEY NOW - one where he'd have to walk the paths of his solitude all over again alone to discover she's the one he'd been waiting for to have all his life - then why isnt he doing it - taking the most simple and easy step - of making her his - of walking down the aisle to a path of commitment for him to enable himself - ALLOWING THEM TO WALK THE PATHS OF LIFE TOGETHER FOREVER 😳
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I'm not afraid of dying and I'm not afraid of death
I'm not afraid of hurting or taking my last breath

I'm not ashamed to cry or to miss you when you're gone
I don't fear not living life cuz I've lived.
I'm strong enough to laugh even when I'm blue
I'm not scared of much

I'm just scared of losing you

True aahana love and fear makes a person do the most unexplainable things ...

With all the material things in life, one thing that Samrat carved for was love which he got in abundant and unconditionally from his chashmish... a person who was always with him in all times of thick and thin...

For Samrat , his world begins and ends with Chashmish ... now he suddenly feels the fear of losing that one support , strength and hope ... with circumstance of past few days has made him more vulnerable to the thought of being left all alone again... this fear makes him lose himself.

And this fear of losing her makes him lose his senses and all rational thought.. Which comes out as anger outburst... he knows his reasons for his unexplainable act.. He admits his fear.. but ones he has realized that he wants to tell that out to his chashmish... yet he can't share this with Gunjan as he fears that this may hurt her further.

Yes this acceptance gives him the support which he needs to fight back his greatest fear, the strength is back when he says he can't lose her at any cost..
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Posted: 15 years ago
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res....

essay under construction 😳
EDIT:
Aahana, back again with an awesome topic??😳

Can't resist the temptation to comment here, as ur title is very prominent, and content toh - I'm sure I don't have to tell you that's it's amazing!

So bear my blabber for a while, will you?

That scene we saw of Sam in the bathroom asking himself why - why is he angry, why did he do that to the reporter....so I ask another why and say that why sam, don't you admit your fear of losing Gunjan herself? I know it's difficult, no, I'm not denying that at all, as maybe I do have no right to say that as a third person, but I can say that Sam confessing this to Gunjan, and letting it come out will show his courage even more - as your title says "Sometimes Courage is just Admitting Your fears..."

Love doesn't come on its own, though, and we do know that! With love comes the fear of loss - fear of losing the one you love so deeply 😳, that you don't want to let them move even an inch away from you. And this becomes so obvious that even one small change can change the state of mind. I mentioned small change - in Sam's case this is a BIG change..! So of course, it's not easy to deal with....

And I respect the way completely that Sam has admitted to himself - everything does not happen in one go, and that is Sam's first step to coming out of the deep end..

I don't know, but maybe he has a fear in the first place of telling Gunjan, I do not know at this stage to anything more - but it's easy and it's hard. Easy, because Gunjan's the one he loves, the one he understands, the one who understands HIM - he's not afraid to say to her anything, because she loves him, and knows that what he is doing is for her. But we can't deny that it's hard - it is human nature to have fear. On this path, hopefully Sam can rediscover not only himself, but also his and Gunjan's love, and something so little is not enough to break anything in between them. Voicing his fears will only make Sam stronger - but he will only realise that when he first realises his and Gunjan's relationship bond.

He is afraid. But he is not afraid either - hope this path will only result in Sam's belief in his and their love, and that he need not fear saying anything in the world to her - it will only strengthen their relationship.

So Aahana, as well as thanking you for such a lovely topic, I would like to join you in saluting Sam for taking his first step to courage - admitting to himself that he is in fear of losing Gunjan. I wish that this same courage will give him further courage in admitting fearlessly to Gunjan what's in his heart...

Hope I didn't bore you too much....! 😳 Tell me what you think, waiting for ur reply!

Edited by aish129 - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: aarthi.ramani

I'm not afraid of dying and I'm not afraid of death
I'm not afraid of hurting or taking my last breath

I'm not ashamed to cry or to miss you when you're gone
I don't fear not living life cuz I've lived.
I'm strong enough to laugh even when I'm blue
I'm not scared of much

I'm just scared of losing you

True aahana love and fear makes a person do the most unexplainable things ...

With all the material things in life, one thing that Samrat carved for was love which he got in abundant and unconditionally from his chashmish... a person who was always with him in all times of thick and thin...

For Samrat , his world begins and ends with Chashmish ... now he suddenly feels the fear of losing that one support , strength and hope ... with circumstance of past few days has made him more vulnerable to the thought of being left all alone again... this fear makes him lose himself.

And this fear of losing her makes him lose his senses and all rational thought.. Which comes out as anger outburst... he knows his reasons for his unexplainable act.. He admits his fear.. but ones he has realized that he wants to tell that out to his chashmish... yet he can't share this with Gunjan as he fears that this may hurt her further.

Yes this acceptance gives him the support which he needs to fight back his greatest fear, the strength is back when he says he can't lose her at any cost..



wonderfully put Jaan 👏👏👏 esp the bold part

to this i'd like to use my lines from the reply i made just a few mins agi in Diya' post😳

i am not surprised at him hitting at that journo actually yes - ppl may say he was wrong - but at times u just need that a jerk - a wake up call - at times it could be a crude means of reality check too - yes that guy crossed his line as he asked Gunjan some ques - but had samrat not lost his cool there perhaps he wouldnt have got it out of him - his pent up feelings

he was so shocked by his own act that he finally had 2 ask himself what is wrong ? WHAT' HAPPENING TO ME ? the answer was simple and then crystal clear to him - he was AFRAID

but more than that i loved the fact that he admitted it - hon the most basic step 2 find the remedy of any problem is to find the cause of it - and he has just done that - so that is a positive sign

ppl often know it deep within their hearts whats bothering them but at times ego or i am too big for this things - gets in theri way and they dont admit it even to THEMSELVES whats bothering them but he did it

- now he will have to fight - fight himself , his fears and the world as well - in the sense of those rumors that are maligning Gunjan for them - and he will do so - he'd fight them as he has no other choice - and in the process will discover the courage to acknowledge the fact that he isnt scared of his past anymore - for if he wishes to have a future with her - spend all his life with her - then all he has to do is take 1 single step of - OVERCOMING HIS OWN DEMONS - for happiness isnt a place that far away - its just him who has kept it waiting - as for the first time in life perhaps - happiness is doing just the opposite of what it has always done to him - elude him - no this time SHE' WAITING WITH OPEN ARMS JUST TO WELCOME AND EMBRACE HIM 😳

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Edited my post there :P
Hey, the essay came out pretty fast, didn't it?? 😳
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I love the quotes uve used!..they totally describe his situation..
Samrat atleast admitted to himself, and yes, as u said its a huge deal! Its tough to own up to being afraid of something, even to yourself..so am glad he did that..
gunjan too will understand his dilemma soon, im sure, because their relationship was always based on understanding and trust. Love came afterwards.
the way samrat reacted about the reporter thing shocked himself..n he knew it wasn't like him to do that..n thats what made him realize his fears..i hope he works on em..n lets go of his insecurity soon..
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Aish 🤗

hon pls to start off dont ever say ur posts are a blabber or that they can bore me trust me sweety i love reading ur takes Big smile they are so wonderful and we share vibes totally Jaan so yes ur posts are always among those that i look forward to as hon u are one of those ppl of whom i am a fan of 😳

to me that scene where he is so shocked asking him was a very lovely thing hon as i loved how he sorted out himself - in his solitude he cleared the clouds that were blocking his head and vision so yes it's a start - and as they say well begun is half done 😳

yup hon he'd admit it to Gunjan eventually as she has already got a whiff of things too but once she hears it from him she'd know more so clearly as to whats bothering him as thou they are in unison on their thoughts but as Gunjan had said in the barn in morena - kuch baatein boole bina samjhi nahi jaati - dil mein rakhne se dard deti hai aur kehdo toh khushi😳

and his reply was Jaise pyar - yes once again they are on the same road yet from a diff place - now they are not looking forward to starting their journey - rather they are now in search of a destination Embarrassed one which will come to them as u said with love comes the fear of losing it - but oce u are sure of ur paths and u have held hands with ur beloved nothing is to strong nor impossible😳

so yes once he says it to her after sometime of course i believe as just like u said he'd scared of hurting her but also he'd not know how to tell her the most easiest thing that it's losing her that scares him

but once it does happen he tells her that hon exactly as u said things will happen - he'd know their love is strong enough to win over any and every tides and so now he shouldnt wait or waste a sec more and make her HIS - he shd get over his fears

and somewhere he has begun on the road to just that with his admitting his fears and yes wanting the world to know Gunjan has a BF in him - but pretty soon as things go on and he of course realizes it isnt enough - just 4 him to know what he feels she shd too he' d tell her and once she reassures him of just that I think he'd take the final step of proceeding towards the union of these 2 Embarrassed - a ceremony to make it official and proclaim to the world just that - that THEY BELONG TO EACH OTHER forever and ever - as in their hearts they are already so committed - he'd realize this ceremony is just what he always thought - a mere ritual - cause not only rom his heart but his soul he or should i say they are already in that place - MARRIED - in their hearts and souls - this thing is just 4 d world to know of just that 😳

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: aish_punk

I love the quotes uve used!..they totally describe his situation..

Samrat atleast admitted to himself, and yes, as u said its a huge deal! Its tough to own up to being afraid of something, even to yourself..so am glad he did that..
gunjan too will understand his dilemma soon, im sure, because their relationship was always based on understanding and trust. Love came afterwards.
the way samrat reacted about the reporter thing shocked himself..n he knew it wasn't like him to do that..n thats what made him realize his fears..i hope he works on em..n lets go of his insecurity soon..



Hey Aish - 😊 wow 2 in a row 😆😆

thx hon well yes the best path 2 self discovery always begins by knowing exactly what u want and for that u have to realize ur priorities first

Sam' path 2 that discovery has just begun and yes she will def help him along it 😳 now that he knows his priorities he'd soon discover what he wants too !! a lifetime with her in a sacred bond - not only as she wants it BUT HE WANTS IT TOO 😳

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