Inevitable Decisons: Why the Bashing?

Hi DMG members,

I'm a silent lurker in the forum, recently started watching DMG and catching up with stuff at the same time... Before I move on, I will confess, I am a self-proclaimed Sidma adorer, but that does NOT factor in what I am going to say. I have no problem accepting Rid-Armaan jodi if I felt that that was deserved/valid/not sure of the right word... Khair, just wanted to clarify that my bias for SidMa is not a part of my argument here.

I watched the epi on youtube and saw so much of Ridz-bashing. My question is why?

My two centz on this, and this is my opinion, you have all rights to differ and contest.

If you were in her position, what would you do? You loved someone beyond measure and they left you destroyed. Of course, they had their reasons, but in the time that they left and came, your life took a 360. Although your "husband" sets no obligations towards you, he is allowing you to take your decision, you're stuck at a crossroads. Sid never forced Ridz, the only time he did was when he was mean to her during their relationship during marriage. That, however, was based on his knowing how much the relationship was crushing Ridz. So, on one side stands a man who means the world to you, or this is what your mind is telling you through moments. On the other stands the man who picked up the scattered pieces of your "life" and helped you to piece them together again. Theres no love perhaps, but there is respect, trust, and undoubtedly, chemistry. Ridz definately feels something for Sid and that was evident when she ran to the terrace thinking why she was caressing Sid's hair. She has doubts about her loyalty to Armaan... isn't the sanctity of that relationship lost in that very moment? Also, what she did today merely confirmed that she is a dignified woman, who has respect for and takes responsibility for her decisions. She made a decision, she has to live with the consequences. Why she didn't make a decision earlier (no matter what it would be), is questionable... but she couldn't let herself stain the sacredness of marriage. Futhermore, does she not have the right to move on? Yes, she loved, but she was also torn when Armaan left. She tried life without him and it was impossible... until Sid told her it was. Was she aware that her past would step back into her life thus?

At the same time, I will say that Armaan is not at fault. It is the certain circumstances that the creatives have placed Ridz in. In his place, Armaan is right. Its human nature. I probably want to punch Sid too. He took away the most precious thing of his life from him. But why is everyone blaming Ridhimma?

No offense!

Cheers,
dc

I'm confused as to who to blame because everybody is blameworthy to some extent...the only reason i'm upset is (after watching the precap) why does riddhima not just tell Armaan why she married Sid?..It would clear the air a little bit...of course it wont bring the whole drama to an end...but at least there wont be any misunderstandings between them.....Now ofcourse we haven't seen tommorow's episode so you cant really say anything but it's better to let the ENTIRE truth out at once rather than stretching it and having everybody hurt.....

Armaan's anger is justified because he thought Riddima would love him just as much as she did before despite that he left (but for justified reasons)

Riddhima's anger is justified because she thought Armaan would never come back and left her for good. But she's responsible for this mess more because she just isnt listening to armaan and shes not understanding that why he left her was for her own good...

@desi chic great post, good to see such kind of posts in this forum...

I think she suffered alot, but in process of proving either of guy better people from both the pros start finding cons in Ridz, ah! I think even sometimes I am no exception.
Hey only fault as third person I can see is dragging the decision or letting Armaan know that she is married. hmm

@ Khushi, thanks!😊~

Originally posted by: miyah.s

I'm confused as to who to blame because everybody is blameworthy to some extent...the only reason i'm upset is (after watching the precap) why does riddhima not just tell Armaan why she married Sid?..It would clear the air a little bit...of course it wont bring the whole drama to an end...but at least there wont be any misunderstandings between them.....Now ofcourse we haven't seen tommorow's episode so you cant really say anything but it's better to let the ENTIRE truth out at once rather than stretching it and having everybody hurt.....

Armaan's anger is justified because he thought Riddima would love him just as much as she did before despite that he left (but for justified reasons)

Riddhima's anger is justified because she thought Armaan would never come back and left her for good. But she's responsible for this mess more because she just isnt listening to armaan and shes not understanding that why he left her was for her own good...

Hi Miyah,

I feel your pain. I think why Ridhima didn't originally tell was because Sid asked her not to, but this was getting way out of hand and I have to hand it to her for opening her mouth at the right time, 👏👏

And yes, you are right, I have to agree that she should tell him everything. However, kuch baatein yoon hi samajh jaani chahiye. If he truly believed in Ridhima's love her him, then he must understand that there must have been some sort of dire situation for her to take that step. She definately needs to tell him, but he needs to also giver her space and not jump to conclusions, although I can understand, it is probably hard to do so. Rationality seems to unrational when life is upside down.

Even if he left her for her own good, what "good" does that do her now? She is married to someone else and committed to that relationship and her obligation to her family. No one can turn back time...

Thanks for your thoughts and I hope this gets sorted out!

Cheers,
dc

Desi Chic honestly they is a explanation of why armaan-riddhima should be together
however even if i prove it u will disagree because u are a sidma fan

Originally posted by: monar

@desi chic great post, good to see such kind of posts in this forum...

I think she suffered alot, but in process of proving either of guy better people from both the pros start finding cons in Ridz, ah! I think even sometimes I am no exception.
Hey only fault as third person I can see is dragging the decision or letting Armaan know that she is married. hmm

Monar, thanks😊 ~ Yeah, that's what I'm trying to get at. I don't think she should bear all the blame and not the brunt of it either. She is not the cause of all the problems, she is at the centre because the problems are engulfing her. The others are EQUALLY responsible (Sorry for caps, but I think they are necessary). No one intentionally hurts others like this unless they are sick, but she has shared a valuable relationship with both men. But yes, you are right, the decision process was dragging. At the same time, we have to remember her unique position - a lifetime's decision to be made in the grasp of moments. And her decision has major consequences, not just for her, but those she loves and respects.

Cheers,
dc

Originally posted by: Kajenaliya

Desi Chic honestly they is a explanation of why armaan-riddhima should be together
however even if i prove it u will disagree because u are a sidma fan

Hi there,

No worries, I'm willing to listen. And please, like I already stated, my SidMa fan-agee has Nothing to do with my judgement on Ridz's decision. This topic is about Ridhimma, not her being with either man. If I truly felt that Ar-Rid should be together even though I love SidMa, I would say it, I have no issues about that. And I'm quite an open person, I don't take one-sided decisions so say what you believe and I'll think about it. I put my thoughts out there and you are most welcome to express yours😊~

Cheers,
dc

Originally posted by: desi chic

Monar, thanks😊 ~ Yeah, that's what I'm trying to get at. I don't think she should bear all the blame and not the brunt of it either. She is not the cause of all the problems, she is at the centre because the problems are engulfing her. The others are EQUALLY responsible (Sorry for caps, but I think they are necessary). No one intentionally hurts others like this unless they are sick, but she has shared a valuable relationship with both men. But yes, you are right, the decision process was dragging. At the same time, we have to remember her unique position - a lifetime's decision to be made in the grasp of moments. And her decision has major consequences, not just for her, but those she loves and respects.

Cheers,
dc

Yeah her decision is for life not only hers but the guys too and as for me looking at armaan for first time after her marriage was first a relief than the biggest fear of her life, I do understand her angst for sometime but later it become sheer dragging hail to CVs.

Originally posted by: desi chic

Hi DMG members,

I'm a silent lurker in the forum, recently started watching DMG and catching up with stuff at the same time... Before I move on, I will confess, I am a self-proclaimed Sidma adorer, but that does NOT factor in what I am going to say. I have no problem accepting Rid-Armaan jodi if I felt that that was deserved/valid/not sure of the right word... Khair, just wanted to clarify that my bias for SidMa is not a part of my argument here.

I watched the epi on youtube and saw so much of Ridz-bashing. My question is why?

My two centz on this, and this is my opinion, you have all rights to differ and contest.

If you were in her position, what would you do? You loved someone beyond measure and they left you destroyed. Of course, they had their reasons, but in the time that they left and came, your life took a 360. Although your "husband" sets no obligations towards you, he is allowing you to take your decision, you're stuck at a crossroads. Sid never forced Ridz, the only time he did was when he was mean to her during their relationship during marriage. That, however, was based on his knowing how much the relationship was crushing Ridz. So, on one side stands a man who means the world to you, or this is what your mind is telling you through moments. On the other stands the man who picked up the scattered pieces of your "life" and helped you to piece them together again. Theres no love perhaps, but there is respect, trust, and undoubtedly, chemistry. Ridz definately feels something for Sid and that was evident when she ran to the terrace thinking why she was caressing Sid's hair. She has doubts about her loyalty to Armaan... isn't the sanctity of that relationship lost in that very moment? Also, what she did today merely confirmed that she is a dignified woman, who has respect for and takes responsibility for her decisions. She made a decision, she has to live with the consequences. Why she didn't make a decision earlier (no matter what it would be), is questionable... but she couldn't let herself stain the sacredness of marriage. Futhermore, does she not have the right to move on? Yes, she loved, but she was also torn when Armaan left. She tried life without him and it was impossible... until Sid told her it was. Was she aware that her past would step back into her life thus?

At the same time, I will say that Armaan is not at fault. It is the certain circumstances that the creatives have placed Ridz in. In his place, Armaan is right. Its human nature. I probably want to punch Sid too. He took away the most precious thing of his life from him. But why is everyone blaming Ridhimma?

No offense!

Cheers,
dc

you are officially my new favorite person on I-F!! Beautifully written!! I feel the exact same way. During this whole fiasco I didn't get mad at anyone.