Originally posted by: Invisiblereader
WANT TO add a round of applause for you for writing such strong point of view for women and against society. Actually its very sad to see that our media preach those social practices specially most of Indian soaps now days. I mostly stay away from shows like this BV,Bidaai, NAIDlado where are women are treated as trashbox. Its sad that indian soaps not only show them but glorified the image of women (leads specially) who succumbed to these pressures and love to stay quiet with their husband or family for these honor killings, forced marriages. I dont know who made these rules some 1000000 years ago and we just follow them without any logic. Sad these things do happen all over around us in India and much more worst Indian television glorify those dumb sacrifices as women virtue. SO where is freedom to live life on her own terms, choose career, for a women here. I liked DMG before with no heavy track though silly tracks in between. I don't have any problem with any marriage but the logic behind was very regressive that too in serial targeting youth who are actually trying to come out of these customs. You mentioned shoes something and Pati parpemshvar thing those were ultra regressive thing that could happened to this show. When a independent doctor will behave like this as soon as she is married than what will happen to BV show. after this DMG marriage issue , I have given any hopes from Indian television. Only show which was progressive and extremely good show with positive view for women was Uddan (My fav till now)and that show was so much inspiration to so many girls at that time. So many dreamed of being IPS officer because of that show and sole reason Kiran bedi she is ideal women for me . I dont think with BV, Bidaai, Uttran topping chart we would see any good show for real women in near future When you start behaving like ideal wife and daughter there is very less hope left as individual women in her.
Thankyou dear for understanding my views...
I've never understood the pati-parmeshwar thing and never will...
Just because i believe in strong women, my views towards life are looked upon as alien by the society...just because I've never accepted that while a man can join the army, a woman can't... people tend to disagree most of the time, but I've always stood my ground.
It's a man's world, it's a man-made world. And even though the condition has improved in comparison to the past, no step has been taken to eradicate this belief that we, women are less than our male counterparts. Of course, women are also responsible for this. Some ladies still refuse to be independent, they refuse to let their daughters be independent. They oppose modern thought.
I'm not against the idea of being a homemaker, but when you put all your energies into serving your family, I call that slavery. And that is so because I see no importance for the self, for the individual in the said work. An ideal wife is expected to respect, forgive, love, trust, obey, and "serve" her husband in all situations. I call that plain slavery, excuse me if I hurt any sentiments.
You must have noticed, how through media - as in movies, serials, magazines - women have always been portrayed as the weaker sex...the ones who need to lean on another to get through the rough patches of life.
The stories have always been of how a woman sacrificed everything in her to make her in-laws, her husband happy. How she adjusted herself to the new house despite the problems. When has it ever been the story of the in-laws helping the wife to adjust? When has it been about a woman who asserts her personal freedom despite being married? When has it been about a husband who lets his wife live her life on her own terms and not interfere with it? Never.
People might, and will, as a matter-of-fact, argue that men are just not flexible enough to adjust. Okay, so maybe that is true. But where is it written that women have that sort of tenacity? Why does society point fingers at a woman if she fails to adjust to the atmosphere at her in-laws?
Strange, isn't it? Sadly, that's the way we've been taught to adapt to this society...we're so habituated to following the norms, that we forget to live our lives...
Riddhima turning into the quintessential husband-worshipping Indian wife stunned me into silence for this very reason...how, a woman so confident on her stance, on her position in life, well educated, incorporated with values, stooped down to clean her husband's shoes at his one order. Pathetic, really.
Edited by Khushboo_AN - 15 years ago
Advocate Anjali Awasthi
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