Making fun of your own culture ( Out of India) - Page 3

Originally posted by: Perfangel5655

My little brother 😒. In middle school he never wanted to associate himself with other indians or desis in general. He would always complain about the curry smell or the accent.
Now that he is in high school he has changed only a little. In exact words he says " well the high school indians are cooler".

Last year he dated an indian girl. So my sis and I asked him how can he date an indian girl when he claims he doesn't like them. He said it's because she doesn't look indian. It was a very nice change though.😳 He started appreciating a lot of indian things. Like films, bharatnatyam because she danced, hindi songs because he would sing to her etc.

I think a lot of times Indian kids get picked on because of their parents. LIKE 90% of the time if not more. I went to my brother's school orientation. The teacher was explaining how every student must have his or her cell phone turned off and put away. This one indian father said she doesn't have to worry about his son. He has told his son he will not get a cell phone till college in a thick indian accent. Every other student in the room were laughing. What a great way to ruin the child's image even before school started! Desi parents need to look around a bit more. I am not saying if American parents let their child stay out all night, go to parties, let them date they should do the same. But some cultural adjustment is really necessary. These days even elementary kids are walking with cell phones, buying his kid a phone is not going to kill the indian values. Even if he doesn't want to buy the phone he didn't need to embarrass his son by mentioning it in front of others. Another way parents embarrass kids is through dressing and style. No matter what haircut my brother gets my mom insists he part his hair to the side. (he never listens) I do see indian kids with that hairstyle though. That's like another trademark of being Indian.

Interesting that is a mighty turnaround. Accent is something which not every parent can do much about unless they stay overseas for a long period.

Originally posted by: gengarjetty2

perhaps they're embarrassed due to them assuming the americans will laugh at the americans and not wanting be part of the ones being made fun of, they laugh at their fellow men.

maybe they are embarrassed of being an indian and want to prove they are american or brit by joining them in bullying other indians. any which ways this is illogical and weird behavior. dosen't make sense at all.

Originally posted by: angelic_devil

maybe they are embarrassed of being an indian and want to prove they are american or brit by joining them in bullying other indians. any which ways this is illogical and weird behavior. dosen't make sense at all.

I would never bully an indian!
Are you kidding me? 😲
Thats just mean!

Did you know that there is a Sardar kid in my class and people make fun of him & his turban?
What he says is that he's only keeping a turban cause of his parents and that he cant wait to cut his hair.

I actually stood up for our religion & said even though i dont have a turban or dont keep my hair long and eat meat etc, i still respect my religion & my people. I am never standing up for him again though. If people wanna make fun of him, they can go right ahead. He has no respect for our religion and culture, he doesnt have respect from me.

Being american doesnt mean you have to bully whoever is being bully (whether or not the person is indian) 😳 That wont prove anything.

maybe they are embarrassed of being an indian and want to prove they are american or brit by joining them in bullying other indians. any which ways this is illogical and weird behavior. dosen't make sense at all.

It doesnt make sense cause it isnt true (in most cases--not guaranteeing all cases).

Im not embarrassed of being indian either...i usually explain my culture and all that to my friends/ peers at school. And i think i said before that my school is so diverse that every culture/ethnicity is accepted.

Originally posted by: Summer3

It is not proper to laugh at others. But sometimes (no harm is meant) we do crack normal "jokes" on any person's odd behaviour ( whether new or not to the group) . If a newcomer is well behaved no one wants to laugh or make fun of the person; if it is a pretty gal or a handsome guy then I guess she will get extra attention from the opposite sex.

This is what i meant...dont laugh at them. But sometimes harmless normal jokes are made to any odd behavior. But if the person is really nice then no one does/says anything about them! Its all about the personality!

Besides...Indians make fun of indians all the time 😆
Its like the thing i said before...you can make fun of your own culture. But no one else can make fun of it. Its just how it goes...

Originally posted by: Jess.

This is what i meant...dont laugh at them. But sometimes harmless normal jokes are made to any odd behavior. But if the person is really nice then no one does/says anything about them! Its all about the personality!

Besides...Indians make fun of indians all the time 😆
Its like the thing i said before...you can make fun of your own culture. But no one else can make fun of it. Its just how it goes...

yes generally there should be a limit as to how far we go.

Originally posted by: Summer3

yes generally there should be a limit as to how far we go.

But it is not nice to embarass others in front of everybody. But joking once in a while is pretty common but not everyone can take it. sometimes our own family members will scold us for being rude or horrible.

There should definitely be a limit!
If they're new, you cant hurt their feelings! I would hate myself forever if i made fun of someone to their face and they got offended.
But i dont really talk about people like that.
More like with your other indian friends. "Did you see the new indian girl? I wish she wasnt wearing her hair in a braid...thats so desi!" etc.

This has happened before & that girl we were talking about became one of my really good friends 😳

i even told her that i thought that of her & she said she doesnt care since she didnt like wearing her hair in a braid either...her mom made her haha