Having it All together... All the time!

Hi friends,

Recently there was a topic saying when people like Sadhna would be understood. I would like to say when people like Sadhna and Ragini (or any one who is idolized) would be understood!

Here's something I would like to share. 😳

Something that people watch/look up to makes a character have it all together all the time. Even a lot of people in real life think they do have it all together all the time.

Well, here's the truth. They don't!

What we read or see about a person isn't always a true picture of the real thing. I still remember quite clearly the day when someone whom I thought had it all together all the time suddenly became real!

A person who is the sweetest spirit of anyone you may know and watching whom you always wondered how he/she could be so meek and quiet all the time when we seem to continually be a bumbling loudmouth, complaining and criticizing things that do not please us. Then one day you hear/see that person say something unkind about someone which may or may not be true. You never expect them to do anything remotely bad to anyone and are left dumbfounded by their behaviour. This perfect person you have wanted to be just like crumbled before you and left you devastated.

That probably sounds harsh, unfair, and totally unrealistic of me, but it is the truth. I used to watch Bidaai just to see the bond between the sisters/brothers/couples. I used to believe that no one can disappoint me or any viewer because they went through so much and yet stayed together! But it slowly started shattering' First, I see the rage in Ranvir that nearly killed a guy, and left me shattered that a kind sweet man can become so cruel in anger! Then, it was Ragini who disowned her sister and blamed her for the loss of her child. It was catastrophic for me to watch her do so! I know it is tragic to lose you child and be separated from your husband, but why do you want to add more pain in your life by staying away from your sister? Next, Alekh came up. A mentally challenged guy, who stood up for his love throughout, couldn't go against his family's wishes for her! It was again crushing. Finally, it was Sadhna. No doubt she was at the losing end at all the event, but she let me down too. Signing divorce paper, was she really that desperate? Couldn't she get money from her husband/sister/brother-in-law? No doubt everyone was angry with her, but could it have been more difficult to ask them that it was to sign those papers?

After all of these, I saw them all for who they really were...human...and it took me a long time to recover from this blow.

It's tough when role models fall from the unnatural pedestals we put them on. You've probably heard celebrities say, "We didn't ask to be role models and we aren't perfect." There is truth in both sides.

While I think it is wonderful to have someone to look up to, we must be careful not to promote them to perfection. I believe perfection is not to be had here on earth. We shouldn't expect it from ourselves and can't expect it from others.

Walk up to a friend and say, "Yes, I want to encourage and help you in your walk, but honestly I've got problems too!"

It is not that we cannot understand people, what we don't understand is that we need help too. We need to let down our hair someday and be able to say I don't want to do this. It is ok to be wrong, but you should have the will to be corrected.

hi.. i am new to this forum. i really liked what u said about serial characters.. we need to give them a chance to change themselves.. everyone changes in life based on different situation..
to add a note, we can now see Ragini changing for better 😃

Regards,
Samie⭐️

Yes, at the end of the day we are human beings and make mistake. I am glad RS treats almost all of this characters as humans, and let them mistake, but also repent quickly because they are not evil at heart, but just made a wrong choice.