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Ok, this post is simply to justify what WAS my own personal misunderstanding of Riddhima's character. For some reasons, or rather quite a few reasons such as:
-the dhamak-e-daar slaps....which felt as if they were occuring at every and any given occasion, bechara Siddhanth clearly picked the short straw and was compelled to face them...
-the flinchingly LOUD collection of insults whereby Riddhima clearly didn't fail in any confidence to publicly display her resentment of Sid, branding him a rapist, molestor, kidnapper, etc. etc.
-the tendency to blame unreasonably with the whole, "YOU are collaborating with my dad and trying to sabotage my relationship with Armaan"....
BUT then a last minute rescue, followed by an enligtening, almost shaking-you-awake speech on parents, values, and general indian culture by videshi, Houston born and bred Sid, and a conclusive ,allegedly controversial yet impending wedding finally achieveing its showdown..
We find ourselves with a new/improved traditional Riddhima. For months, fighting and shouting abuse, slapping the face of he whom, we were ignorant to know, was to become her lawfully wedded husband, never for a second deliberating when using her rash mouth...and a day after the wedding I was in awe/shock to find a docile Riddhima, her body language calm, graceful, with her eyes now doing most of the "talking"....or when she did talk, it was with a sweet, melodious dialogue and a chorus filled with "aap" and "jee's!"
I sit there and think to myself-since when???
But I admit, I was mistaken.
See, Riddhima has always been a traditional, cultural, self-respecting, Indian woman. Whether it was her clothes, or her general benevolent nature, she depicted a true hindustani bhartiya naari...but with that came some cheeky-ness, a subtle humour, competitiveness..... a personality. And this personality is what was built on by a hurt Riddhima as a reflex to the alleged "dhoke-baaz Armaan scandal". Her self respect was further wounded on her regular occurences with Sid, and breaking point was especially significant during the, now clarified, "sacrificial Armaan scandal". Yet, because Riddhima's actions had become audacious doesn't mean Riddhima became "less" cultured.
If we recall-
Riddhima's reasons to slap/abuse Sid was because he kept invading her personal space. I speak on behalf of Riddhima here, but as a troubled soul who, after Armaan, had started perceiving young men as conniving, 'only wanting one thing from women', Sid, in her eyes, fit the bill perfectly.
Riddhima has always been pretty impulsive when her competitive streak kicks in, a result of which she always seems to be publicly humiliated on basket ball courts. Arguably, she does ask for it when she says insensitive, over confident one liners such as "tum mujhe kiss karna chate ho, haina?!" and "to main in sab ke saamne, tumhare moo pe kala rang poth doongi".
She won't learn from her mistake, but why say it??
The answer- another reflex when she's is under the impression people are challenging her feminity. Another preconceived notion about Indian women is that they walk alongside the man of today rather than "behind the successful one". Evidential examples exist n the form of Ekta kapoor's saas bahu soaps, and religiously, where there are figures such as Ramji , Krishanji, we also get Durga Maa, Lakshmi Maa etc. I say preconceived notion because there's no right answer, its too big a generalisation...and I'm not here to find an answer either EQUAL RULES WOO!
The point being that Riddhima is also nutured with this idea in her mind, and naturally every woman, every man at some stage does what s/he has to when trying to maintain their own self esteem-that is by demeaning the person infront of you, before they get you first! Which is what Riddhima has done....
A couple of examples, but conclusively, I realised that Riddhima had never really "changed" so to speak....her actions got bolder because of a change in time and a change of situation to which she had simply adapted herself by exposing the harsh side to her and putting away her meek side, still there never forgotten.
How I know this? Because it has again revealed itself after her marriage to Sid.
Riddhima has always wanted a blissful married life. It was the be all to her life. We know she never let Armaan toooo close, initially due to trust issues, but later because she had been brought up with values that taught her she needed to be joined in matrimony before engaging in any sort of intimate activity for which she would fall, first in her own eyes, and then in those of her parents, society etc. etc.
As a result she was meticulously programmed to brace herself whenever she found herself falling in too deep. I.e. The time where Riddhima decided to wear her first ever western outfit which, conveniently for Armaan, was a leather ensemble, or the time when a paining Riddhima couldn't stop herself when a concerned Armaan made a move to reassure her of his presence in the fire escape.
And thus, we see her today, a married woman, respecting her husband the way she has always hoped to, the way she had always meant to. So what if its not her first love, a marriage is a marriage, the bigghest and most significant truth to her life. The barriers of hatred and mistrust now shattered due to an awakening by Siddhanth Modi. He has helped but doesn't give any acknowledgement to the finished product...and why should he? He has never been around to witness this sweet side to Riddhima, when she was looking for Armaan she was merely vulnerable and impressionable... so whats the excuse today? A pretence for the weary eyes of society maybe?-but of course! He incorrectly answers his own question.
And Riddhima, merely confused. Nothing else. Unable to comprehend Sid's changing, worsening, horrid attitude towards her, the letter signed sealed and delivered....yet not the response she hoped for.
So conclusion, Riddhima=genuine + Sid=genuinely hurt = grave misunderstanding, and consequent conflicting judgement!
All we can do is wait and watch, here's hoping that Siddhant Modi reads this post! Wake up SID!!!
Thank you for reading once again!
free to comment on the post ladies and gents!
Over and out! x
Ok, this post is simply to justify what WAS my own personal misunderstanding of Riddhima's character. For some reasons, or rather quite a few reasons such as:
-the dhamak-e-daar slaps....which felt as if they were occuring at every and any given occasion, bechara Siddhanth clearly picked the short straw and was compelled to face them...
-the flinchingly LOUD collection of insults whereby Riddhima clearly didn't fail in any confidence to publicly display her resentment of Sid, branding him a rapist, molestor, kidnapper, etc. etc.
-the tendency to blame unreasonably with the whole, "YOU are collaborating with my dad and trying to sabotage my relationship with Armaan"....
BUT then a last minute rescue, followed by an enligtening, almost shaking-you-awake speech on parents, values, and general indian culture by videshi, Houston born and bred Sid, and a conclusive ,allegedly controversial yet impending wedding finally achieveing its showdown..
We find ourselves with a new/improved traditional Riddhima. For months, fighting and shouting abuse, slapping the face of he whom, we were ignorant to know, was to become her lawfully wedded husband, never for a second deliberating when using her rash mouth...and a day after the wedding I was in awe/shock to find a docile Riddhima, her body language calm, graceful, with her eyes now doing most of the "talking"....or when she did talk, it was with a sweet, melodious dialogue and a chorus filled with "aap" and "jee's!"
I sit there and think to myself-since when???
But I admit, I was mistaken.
See, Riddhima has always been a traditional, cultural, self-respecting, Indian woman. Whether it was her clothes, or her general benevolent nature, she depicted a true hindustani bhartiya naari...but with that came some cheeky-ness, a subtle humour, competitiveness..... a personality. And this personality is what was built on by a hurt Riddhima as a reflex to the alleged "dhoke-baaz Armaan scandal". Her self respect was further wounded on her regular occurences with Sid, and breaking point was especially significant during the, now clarified, "sacrificial Armaan scandal". Yet, because Riddhima's actions had become audacious doesn't mean Riddhima became "less" cultured.
If we recall-
Riddhima's reasons to slap/abuse Sid was because he kept invading her personal space. I speak on behalf of Riddhima here, but as a troubled soul who, after Armaan, had started perceiving young men as conniving, 'only wanting one thing from women', Sid, in her eyes, fit the bill perfectly.
Riddhima has always been pretty impulsive when her competitive streak kicks in, a result of which she always seems to be publicly humiliated on basket ball courts. Arguably, she does ask for it when she says insensitive, over confident one liners such as "tum mujhe kiss karna chate ho, haina?!" and "to main in sab ke saamne, tumhare moo pe kala rang poth doongi".
She won't learn from her mistake, but why say it??
The answer- another reflex when she's is under the impression people are challenging her feminity. Another preconceived notion about Indian women is that they walk alongside the man of today rather than "behind the successful one". Evidential examples exist n the form of Ekta kapoor's saas bahu soaps, and religiously, where there are figures such as Ramji , Krishanji, we also get Durga Maa, Lakshmi Maa etc. I say preconceived notion because there's no right answer, its too big a generalisation...and I'm not here to find an answer either EQUAL RULES WOO!
The point being that Riddhima is also nutured with this idea in her mind, and naturally every woman, every man at some stage does what s/he has to when trying to maintain their own self esteem-that is by demeaning the person infront of you, before they get you first! Which is what Riddhima has done....
A couple of examples, but conclusively, I realised that Riddhima had never really "changed" so to speak....her actions got bolder because of a change in time and a change of situation to which she had simply adapted herself by exposing the harsh side to her and putting away her meek side, still there never forgotten.
How I know this? Because it has again revealed itself after her marriage to Sid.
Riddhima has always wanted a blissful married life. It was the be all to her life. We know she never let Armaan toooo close, initially due to trust issues, but later because she had been brought up with values that taught her she needed to be joined in matrimony before engaging in any sort of intimate activity for which she would fall, first in her own eyes, and then in those of her parents, society etc. etc.
As a result she was meticulously programmed to brace herself whenever she found herself falling in too deep. I.e. The time where Riddhima decided to wear her first ever western outfit which, conveniently for Armaan, was a leather ensemble, or the time when a paining Riddhima couldn't stop herself when a concerned Armaan made a move to reassure her of his presence in the fire escape.
And thus, we see her today, a married woman, respecting her husband the way she has always hoped to, the way she had always meant to. So what if its not her first love, a marriage is a marriage, the bigghest and most significant truth to her life. The barriers of hatred and mistrust now shattered due to an awakening by Siddhanth Modi. He has helped but doesn't give any acknowledgement to the finished product...and why should he? He has never been around to witness this sweet side to Riddhima, when she was looking for Armaan she was merely vulnerable and impressionable... so whats the excuse today? A pretence for the weary eyes of society maybe?-but of course! He incorrectly answers his own question.
And Riddhima, merely confused. Nothing else. Unable to comprehend Sid's changing, worsening, horrid attitude towards her, the letter signed sealed and delivered....yet not the response she hoped for.
So conclusion, Riddhima=genuine + Sid=genuinely hurt = grave misunderstanding, and consequent conflicting judgement!
All we can do is wait and watch, here's hoping that Siddhant Modi reads this post! Wake up SID!!!
Thank you for reading once again!
free to comment on the post ladies and gents!
Over and out! x
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