is shyness a neg trait - Page 4

Originally posted by: peacepari

R u sure u r shy?!
LOL u sound like u r saying that to impress girls here
coz u know girls like them ;) LOL
Guys can listen n can't do a thing than to listen LOL

As for myself I am struggling to b expressive but I am introvert though I am more confident than many n aware of my streghts n optimistic still I feel strong but can't express in words ESP to make friends is difficult unless I know or trust them hmm :s

peacepari honestly i am a honest shy guy
i was just posting that to be funny for my friends 😆 not to impress girls i know girls majority of the time wudnt be impressed by such things but bye guys who are themselves
all my friends here know what im like 😳

Originally posted by: utfracks

Well, I'm basically an introvert.
But at times, I do tend to get shy when around new people. It's natural, some people say, but my mom personally tells me to change myself as she thinks it won't get me anywhere in future. So I don't exactly know if I could consider it my negative or positive trait.

Shyness around new people is natural. The question you have to ask yourself is are you intimidated by new people or feel insecure around them, or if you just feel you need to test the waters and familiarize yourself before socializing. If it is the former then you have a problem, if it is the latter then it is just a natural tendency.

Assess how you feel when you have to interact with new people and work with them, training new coworkers, a work or school project team, asking a new classmate for notes etc things like that, are you able to do it comfortably or do you feel that you feel left out in teams or cannot ask questions or help because you are too shy. If you can get along well when needed, you are merely introverted. If you have problems even with basic communication as required shyness is a problem.