is shyness a neg trait

Many parents get worried if their children are not outgoing . They feel that they wud B at a disadvantage in this competitive world & R increasingly seeking professional help for their kids. Do U also feel that shyness is to B considered a negative trait in the present scenario?

A certain amount of shyness, especially with new people is normal. Many cultures in fact feel shy behavior is a form of modesty.

However, extreme shyness is unhealthy. This occurs when people are afraid or apprehensive to interact. The person lacks self confidence, feels insignificant and avoids people to escape from these fears. It is a clinical psychological problem because humans are social people. Shyness keeps people away from healthy social interaction needed for emotional human well being and growth. Hence, shyness must be treated so that people gain self confidence and are not afraid of interaction.

The problem is that a lot of time introversion is mistaken for shyness. An introverted person prefers to keep to themselves and avoid crowds. Introverted people can be very confident and have no fear of social interaction. They can be very socially comfortable when placed in social situations. Introverts simply prefer solitude and a few friends over crowds.

Another problem is that shyness amidst extroverted people is often missed. Extroverted people like crowds, they want to be in the middle of social things and fling themselves into it. However, internally they feel very insecure and terrified of their own friends - a sort of alone in a crowd syndrome. But since they seem to have plenty of friends and socializing, people tend to miss internalized fears and insecurities.

Well, it depends, you see. Extremes aren't good. If you're too shy, then you can't get your points across to people and you can't make friends very easily.

If your too shy then your losing out alot, I was shy and i missed on all those guys who wanted to date me 😭

Originally posted by: P1nk

If your too shy then your losing out alot, I was shy and i missed on all those guys who wanted to date me 😭

no wonder they have arranged marriages in India...perfect solution for such a problem😆

being shy can also help guys...instead of talking too much, they'll listen to their woman speak and not have to go through the "you never listen to me" arugments😆

Habitual shyness!... sure is a cause of concern but on other hand, shyness out of convenience, a smart move😛

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

A certain amount of shyness, especially with new people is normal. Many cultures in fact feel shy behavior is a form of modesty.

However, extreme shyness is unhealthy. This occurs when people are afraid or apprehensive to interact. The person lacks self confidence, feels insignificant and avoids people to escape from these fears. It is a clinical psychological problem because humans are social people. Shyness keeps people away from healthy social interaction needed for emotional human well being and growth. Hence, shyness must be treated so that people gain self confidence and are not afraid of interaction.

The problem is that a lot of time introversion is mistaken for shyness. An introverted person prefers to keep to themselves and avoid crowds. Introverted people can be very confident and have no fear of social interaction. They can be very socially comfortable when placed in social situations. Introverts simply prefer solitude and a few friends over crowds.

Another problem is that shyness amidst extroverted people is often missed. Extroverted people like crowds, they want to be in the middle of social things and fling themselves into it. However, internally they feel very insecure and terrified of their own friends - a sort of alone in a crowd syndrome. But since they seem to have plenty of friends and socializing, people tend to miss internalized fears and insecurities.

Ah Baddie I can tell that you are not shy. 😆