Pushpaaa! I hate tears...

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Posted: 16 years ago
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....is the most famous one-liner of Rajesh Khanna to the sobbing Sharmila Tagore from the immortal love story, movie- Amar Prem.
It is an irony that he is one of the very few actors (or maybe the only one) who can emote emotions to such intensity that he never needed glycerine during any scene in which he was to show tears flowing down his cheecks. He truely is a very romantic and emotional actor-superstar.
We also saw Vindu Dara Singh, a Jat, a macho, a He-Man and son of the famous world class wrestler, Dara Singh breaking down more often than one expected, including himself in the just concluded Big Boss 3. He confessed, when asked by BigB, that the last time he cried was while watching Kuch Kuch Hota Hai.
During a recent interview, he said that he does not cry but while in BB house,the circumstances made him weak and he let out his emotions in form of tears.
I must confess that I too get emotional and tears roll down my eyes, often.
The general image percieved, as I think, is that a Man should not or cannot be so emotional that he ends up crying.
Out of curiosity, I would like to know on this forum the following;
1. Can a Man not cry?
2. Should a Man supress his emotions before a woman or in public??
3. How does a female/woman take to on seeing a Man cry???
Foot-note: Will a time come when the heroine says, "Rahul...I hate tears" !!

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Posted: 16 years ago
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a very gud topic!will edit soon!
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Actuly anyone can laugh without any reason...I believe It has been told to us that tears are a symptom of weakness -- they are not. Tears can cleanse not only your eyes, bt our heart too. They soften you, it is a biological strategy to keep you clean, to keep you unburdened...women are soft by heart, thats why they cry easly..I think If the whole world can learn to cry and weep again it will be a tremendous transformation to all minds...I love this saying "I love to walk in rain bcoz then nobody can see my tears"--Charli chaplin
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Originally posted by: Believe

I believe It has been told to us that tears are a symptom of weakness -- they are not.

Tears, symptom of weakness.... True!!, are they not? Do tears not role down the eyes when one becomes weak at heart out of extreme sorrow or immense joy??
...I love this saying "I love to walk in rain bcoz then nobody can see my tears"--Charli chaplin
Is this statement not a weakness of Charlie Chaplin to hide his true emotions??

Mikka's outburst of emotions on MKMM was a true example where everyone was shocked to see his emotional side. He too shuffled and was looking so uneasy trying to supress his tears and emotions.
While on BB3, where the camera covered each member for 24 hours, we saw most of the males shedding tears...be it Bakhtiyar, Ismail Darbar or Parvesh (who claimed that he cried after 15 years). I leave Rohit out for obvious reasons😉. Crying or shedding tears out of extreme emotions isnt or should not be considered a weakness of a Man, according to me.
I really want to know the feminine-perspective on this.
Edited by baddie - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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a very good topic ! 3-4 years ago I admired men who had the guts to show their emotions. Now I think differently.
1. Can a Man not cry? -- Yes he can cry. I just dislike men who cry in front of me. I haven't come upon that many who cry. But the ones who do my ex, and one of my close friends and sometimes my brother they do it over silly reasons. I expect a man to be stronger. If the issue is serious I understand.

2. Should a Man supress his emotions before a woman or in public?? -- No. If the issue is really serious then crying helps in a big way. If the guy cries over simple thing I would start to look at him as a soft creature and not a strong man. I cry all the time so he will be at the same level as me. " The cry baby"

3. How does a female/woman take to on seeing a Man cry???-- I am sure it differs woman to woman. I don't like it, my sister hates it, and my friends think a guy who cries is either a big sissy or simply gay.

My male friends are athletes who usually act like nothing is wrong even when i can tell they are in serious pain. I admire that. Another time my gay friend dislocated his collarbone during wrestling practice and he started crying. I was so worried and on the verge of tears. The other guys acted like it was no big deal and went to fix him up.

I am a very emotional person. I cry a lot. I look up to people who don't cry like me. I was totally fine with men shedding tears before my ex started blackmailing with his. Now I hate the thought of a guy crying unless something major happens.


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@ Perfangel: yeah I too admire people who don't cry a lot.

Crying is fine and natural, but I do think some people cry a LOT. And it really matters where you cry and who you cry in front of. I knew someone in high school who would always cry and very conveniently gain the sympathy of our entire friends' circle for certain things. I don't think we have the liberty of crying wherever, and whenever we please. We have to be more responsible with our tears, if that makes sense, and it applies to both men and women.

Originally posted by: Perfangel5655

3. How does a female/woman take to on seeing a Man cry???-- I am sure it differs woman to woman. I don't like it, my sister hates it, and my friends think a guy who cries is either a big sissy or simply gay.



As a woman I think I am more inclined to judge people who cry for simple things as self-absorbed/selfish, insensitive to others/incapable of thinking about others -- in short, as childish.

I don't think it has anything to do with being "manly" or "sissy" or whatever. I don't agree with that at all. In real life I think there are few people who would match up to the "manly" stereotype or the "sissy" stereotype.

People who are in general used to feeling free to cry everywhere I think cry more. I think generally women learn to do this more than men.
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