Vinod Moving Out-What Should the parents do..? - Page 2

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

I think this whole Manju moving out business is PR team's ploy to show us Manju getting punished for her evil deeds ...........by poetic justice . It is the upar ki lathi mein awaz nahi par bahut zor se lagti hai thingy . After becoming seperate , Manju will not be able to manage housework , Punni , office at all . THe very same Manju who cribbed about contributing to even the smallest of expenses to her husbands household will be seen sitting with household accounts and no savings as all their joint income is consumed by servant salaries and babysitting . Besides there will be the mortgage of the flat . Oh no , it will be a tough time for Manju alright . Fights with Vinod will intensify and this time she will be exposed as there is no Sulochana to cover up for her . Vinod too will see how inept his wife is to live independently . Rasika will come and go and Vinod will lose his mental peace and one day will walk out on Manju and go back to his old home . Not just that , I think Vinod will overhear Manju and Rasika talking . I think this is where the serial is headed to .

Originally posted by: toothbrush13

This is what I was thinking as well. This moving out will come as more of a lesson to Manjusha than it will as a luxury.

I get why Sulochana was upset earlier, I would have been more suprised had she been chilled out and responded with something similar to, "Kay, peace out, keep yo swag on." It was a very unexpected scenario for her, as she tried her hardest to keep Manjusha happy, often sacrificing her own daughters' happiness to do so. I think in the future she will just settle at the fact that there are two likely outcomes of this, 1) Vinod is happy with his new life, which Sulochana would suffice with, as atleast her son is happy or 2) Vinod will learn a lesson and realize the value of being with his family and will come back. I'm thinking that the 2nd seems more likely, otherwise they wouldn't really show this track.

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

In such a case it is my opinion that the parents shud just let the son go , realising he has grown up and his life has started .

Whether his wife is right or wrong is not the issue here . The real fact is the parent's' role in their sons life is over .............he is learning to stand on his own in the world and has a blood family of his own and needs to branch out . This is how it always was.........even in the animal kingdom .

What remains is his responsibilities towards his parents......seeing to it that till the end they do not lack for food or medical attentiion . The emotional part varies with everyone according to their individual upbringing . Sometimes the emotional bonding is so strong that inspite of living seperately till the end that bond remains . Sometimes , duties r done , but emotionally the son outgrows his parents and bluntly finds more pleasure in his wife's company , his own children and sometimes even the wife's family whom he finds attractive for various reasons of his own . Like for instance , if his own parents r too strict , too traditional , too rigid and the wife's parents r more fun loving , jolly , modern in their outlook , if he can joke around with his brother in laws and sister in laws ..........he will simply not miss his own family as such . Each relation in this world is outgrown at some point or the other is the sad but true fact of life .

Manjusha is an extremely selfish and scheming individual who is totally under her mother's thumb . The family is not good..........just like there is a bad apple in an apple basket , there r some families who r just simply bad , and Manjusha's family is like that . They r bad blood ,pure and simple . Rasika , Ajit and Manjusha destroy innocents simply for the sake of it . The way Manjusha laughs silently ,covering her mouth is simply disgusting and shows what a petty , small minded woman she is . She goes scot free in this serial .........Like Manav commented that what diffrence does it make now when Varsha tells him that Archana did not do the complaint , similiarly a lot of Manjusha's wrong doings simply wont make a diffrence even if they r eventually pointed out as with the passage of time they will lose significance .

As a bahu she is selfish too ..........she uses her job as an excuse to shirk housework . She uses her daughter Punni as an excuse to extract maximum for herself .............by not contributing to the household expenses , or any event , and evades respobnsibility . But she does know how to extract the benefits of a joint family ..........free readymade dabbas of home food , readymade meals , no expenses and using salary for personal expenses only , and using daughter as an asset which she dangles before her aged saas sasur to shirk every work and responsibility .

She is lucky to get good saas sasurs . Her sister in laws r comparatively insipid and harmless compared to some real bitchy nanands in this world . Even Varsha hasnt really harmed her marraige with Vinod by telling him some horrible home truths about his seemingly goofy wife . Varsha's tiffs with her r really useless ones . In fact Manjusha has harmed Varsha more than vice versa . When Manju tells tales it hits the mark ..........She got Varsha thrown out of Vinods good books and Sulochana slapped her . Manju's politics gets RESULTS . Varsha's tiffs r nothing but getting the last word in an argument that only gets some ego satisfaction .

I waited to see if Varsha will expose Manju for what she is in a public event and get her slapped by Vinod and thrown out of the house forever . If at all a divorce is shown in PR I wanna see it between Manju and Vinod with him winning full custody of Punni . I want Varsha to gain this satisfaction as Manju WRECKED Manav and Archanas Life .

Maybe i went off topic .....but this was what came to my mind . Manju has every right as a bahu to move out , but i dont think she will excel as a wife , in house keeping skills , or even as a mother . Frankly i dont know what kind of a love marraige she even has with Vinod as she puts herself before him in every little or big thing . Manju loves herself more than her feelings for Vinod . In that sense , although i finf nothing wrong with her moving out decision , I dont see it as a wise move either as she is extremely inept to live independently .

For a south asian mother,its very hard to accept that her (married)son will leave her.She always wants to have her son around.