ARE CREATIVES PUPPETS ? - Page 2

Originally posted by: rainabow

Agreed. I thought this was great. Adoption is never taken as a serious option for most Indians, despite living in an overpopulated country with millions of orphans. European and American families are happily willing to adopt Indian children, but Indians themselves aren't willing to care for their own? Shame on them.

I'm glad a show finally had the guts to show that adoption is a legitimate option, and that the bond between an adoptive mother and child is just as strong as a birth mother and child. I know an American couple who just recently adopted a baby and there is no way you can tell me that she doesn't love her child just as much as any birth mother loves theirs. The bond was instantaneous and the child has brought so much joy into their lives. Motherhood is about RAISING children and participating in their lives, not simply doing what is biologically necessary. Just about anyone can do that. There is nothing special about it.

My only qualm is that I don't think it makes sense that Arti did that without Sameer's consent. Legally speaking, shouldn't both parents have to give their consent? And despite the fact that Sam is being irrational and egotistical, I do think it's wrong to make such a critical decision without his approval. I don't know if they have foster families in India, but it would have been better if Mili came as a foster child so Sam can get used to her and regain his confidence, and then adopt her willingly instead of forcibly. I just don't think the current situation is fair to the child.

Overall though, kudos to them for at least broaching the subject.

Excuse me, but may I have to remind you that you are writing on a forum called India-forums!
So stop disrespecting Indians and saying that they have no shame! Cuz all of India is not like that and they're are many people in India who do adopt kids. I dont think you are indian, but if you are then shame on you for insulting indians like that!


And besides siding with the white people, you should think that there are a lot of american people and british people who hate indians and are really racist. Seriously, if you were a real and true indian, then you would support an Indian instead of insulting them. You look like a really americanized desi or a non-indian. First read what forum you are on and then say what you want to say!

Originally posted by: Bansari7

Excuse me, but may I have to remind you that you are writing on a forum called India-forums!
So stop disrespecting Indians and saying that they have no shame! Cuz all of India is not like that and they're are many people in India who do adopt kids. I dont think you are indian, but if you are then shame on you for insulting indians like that!


And besides siding with the white people, you should think that there are a lot of american people and british people who hate indians and are really racist. Seriously, if you were a real and true indian, then you would support an Indian instead of insulting them. You look like a really americanized desi or a non-indian. First read what forum you are on and then say what you want to say!

Calm down there, dear. I don't know if you understand me or even want to understand me, but oh well. I'll do my best to explain.

Yep, I am Indian American and very proud of both my birth culture and my adopted culture (there is a metaphor at work here). I feel I have been exposed to the best of both worlds and love them all the same. If you think that degrades me as an Indian in your mind, then I'm sorry but that is your problem and not mine. My entire post was based on the premise that Indians should support each other. Not just their own bloodline, or their own caste, fair skin color, or their own religion. These are issues that divide Indians. I want to see my fellow Indians overcome these barriers, just as I want to see racial tensions overcome in America.

Let me explain something to you: When I see something morally questionable about ANY culture, I will call it out. I do not give India special treatment because it is my country of origin, nor do I give the US a free pass because it is the place I grew up in. I think the fact that adoption is not widespread in India is sad because I DO want Indians to take care of their own and support their own people, but more often than not, I don't see it. If you can prove me wrong, then by all means, please do. I would LOVE to be proven wrong.

However, watch any show in Tellywood where a childless couple truly considers adoption a legitimate option. Look at the Maayka forum, where post after post indicated that only a "real" mother could love her child and provide for her offspring. Look at the whole premise of Choti Bahu. Look at Agle Janam. If Siddeshwari cannot conceive, why not adopt? I'll tell you why: because she belongs to a conservative rural family. These are fictional stories but they are rooted in real problems, and the audience for these shows, which aren't all educated city dwellers or NRIs, need to see those problems for what they are. Television is a powerful medium. You can walk away from the issue, but I prefer to confront it. If you ignore a problem, it doesn't improve. Progress in a society is not made by holding your ears and closing your eyes, and hoping that it goes away. Hence the fact that I commend this show. It is taking on issues like adoption and autism and presenting them to the people that need to see them most.

I have lived here in the US 25 long years and have yet to experience a racist comment or treatment. There are racist people everywhere, India included. I know plenty of Indians who hate, judge, and stereotype Americans and Brits. Is this not racism? Double edged sword.

So, if you still don't understand or agree, I'm sorry, but I have explained my point pretty thoroughly and would like to move on.