Simi prisoner in her own world

It is unbeleivable Simi is told what to eat how to behave and what to wear at the age of 29 . I really feel sorry for Simi living with such a horrible mother.

similarity is high it is not obliged to obey his mother was good but I think that's come into the context if it is rebelling I think they (the writing) for the martiriser abhi either support

Originally posted by: Pattinson6

similarity is high it is not obliged to obey his mother was good but I think that's come into the context if it is rebelling I think they (the writing) for the martiriser abhi either support

I don't gt what you are tryint to say but you are right as Simi is hurt more Abhi iwll support her even more. meaning they get to spend more time together.

Manju needs to be-friend Simi. If she feels Simi is "overweight" then she should encourage her by taking Simi with her on walks or mother & daughter should join an exercise program together. Manju should further encourage Simi by changing everyone's eating habits - feed everyone the salad etc. Manju is only alienating Simi - it is very sad indeed...

Mothers like Manju DO EXIST in real life!
My own mother was like that before we got married!

I am oldest of 3 sisters, we didnt have a brother, so she always felt guilty and desperate to get all 3 of us married ASAP so she could prove to the whole world she had succeeded in some way!

Mothers like that think a daughter can not be secure or respectable until she is married and has the title Mrs ahead of her name.....even if the daughters are highly educated, independant, get fat paychecks, they are still incomplete and embarassing until theyre Mrs. so and so...

I was only 23 when I got married but for one year preceding that, I was bullied and taunted by my mother that I had to slim down to avoid rejections by the grooms ! I wasnt even as overweight as Simi but had curves in the right places. 😆

But she wanted me to diet severely, exercise everyday. She took me to Yoga classes every single day and made me walk all the way there and back.
I remember on my 23rd birthday she didnt even get a cake for me but fed me 2 chapatis with vegetables and fruits all day.
And I was ONLY 23!!

She was frantic that if she couldnt marry me off early enuf, how would she get my younger sisters married? (they were 20 and 18 at that time)
We sisters used to joke that one day she would get up and get me married to the first guy she saw in the morning....that is our sweeper! 😆😆

My middle sister started working in a Multinational Bank so she had more clout and could say NO to some rishtas, that made my Mom really mad, she thought my sister would never get married and be an old working spinster. 😆

Another example: My grandma! .....MY Nani abused my Mausi who was very overweight.... becuz she was getting rejected by all prospective grooms.
My Mausi was a big woman, she still is, she spent her childhood in Nigeria and had a spurt of growth there... as a result she was a tall, heavy woman in her 20s, like an Amazon. Its hard to get desi men that size.... 😆
Anyways, my Naani used to starve my Maasi, put her on a diet, sent her to Yoga classes.
Naani and her favorite maid servant used to taunt my Maasi and make fun of her!

The verbal abuse and taunting got so bad that one day, my Mausi almost got run over by a local train. She was crossing the rail tracks and lost in her thoughts, upset abt what was happening. A passerby pulled her back in the nick of time otherwise....

The funny thing is all 3 of us sisters did get married quite early...at 23,24 and 24 respectively. But after the weddings my mother used to complain that we didnt visit her often or take her anywhere. First she wanted to get us married and packed off to sasurals......then she wanted us to be at her beck and call, even when we have other fish to fry in our sasurals.... 😆 😆

Indian Moms are the WORST breed! They shd take lessons from American Moms here who devote their lives for their children, support them thru divorces, hardships....babysit for them, give up their jobs to look after their daughter's kids....theyre amazing! What real mothers shd be like! 😳
I look at them and wish I had a mother like that! 😭

pallavi that is so horrible. I know what you mean a mother after you and forcing you to things you did not want. I can beleive you 100& I have seen my friend married to much older ugly looking man by force while she was only 19 and we all cried so much on the day of her wedding as no one could do anything to save her, I hope you all got good husbands and are happy,

Originally posted by: ramas

pallavi that is so horrible. I know what you mean a mother after you and forcing you to things you did not want. I can beleive you 100& I have seen my friend married to much older ugly looking man by force while she was only 19 and we all cried so much on the day of her wedding as no one could do anything to save her, I hope you all got good husbands and are happy,

I can't imagine this that a mother do such horrible things to her daughter as my mom was like a kind gentle woman and I had to fight for her rights as she would cry if some one told her anything rather than answering back. We were never forced about anything by our parents and pretty much did what we wanted like 100% freedom.

So manju like mothers do exist in reality and bully their daughters to merry off. It is really a shame. Thanks for sharing your story and all the best. Unfortunately we can not choose our parents. So what can I say. and trust me most Indian moms are very good always loving and sacrificing for their kids including their careers so they can raise their children properly. I have seen doctor moms leaving their practice so tehy can look after their kids.

Wish you all the best dear and I hope you can forgive your mom and may be she will change. May be she was abused and bullied by your nani when she was young as well so she did same to you and your sisters. like they say abuse is passed on from generation to generation until the cycle is broken.

Thanks Raksha!
Yes, ur absolutely correct! My Mom was forced to get married at 19 by my abusive Naani. She wanted to study further but wasnt allowed to by her mom or in-laws. She was ill-treated in her sasural becuz she had 3 daughters and no sons. She didnt have the strength of mind to overcome her situation and continued that cycle on us!
Luckily all our hubbies are quite understanding and supportive.
And I have broken the cycle by being entirely supportive of all my daughter's decisions. I always tell her.... Its your life, do what u have to do... but make us proud, not ashamed.

blissfulluy my mum is our best mate & doesn't pay heed to what we eat & when we will get married. my elder sister got married at 26 & she rejected so mamny rishtas & only chose the one she clicked with
i agree mother's do tend to get overboard, but i find manju's attitude really inhuman & cold. it's not if she is mrs universe her self, all she needs to do is look her self in the mirror & she will get her answer
if some one with her looks,attitude & narrow minded thinking can get a husband,then 100% guarantee her daughter will find her prince charming.

as she is far pretty,intelligent,educated with a heart of gold, the qualities that any guy would fall head over heals in love with & she isn't fat but an average size with curves,which some guys prefer over a size zero pure bones

so manju needs to get a grip & on top of it once simmi finds her mr right,this very manju the hypocrite will start praising her to the sky,but now i want simmi to never forgive this wicked witch & let her know what a bully she is & that her taunting ruined her life & not her weight

plus most of manju's attitude could be related to her own insewcurities,may be she got rejected many times her self until mr sethi came along that she fears her daughter might face the same fate,or she is so proud that wants to show society that manju the genius has got her daughters married. i felt slapping manju,after knowing what that coward bahlla did, she was still desperate for her daughter to marry him.
as a member mentioned above that her mum was a bit similar,but trust me mate if your hubby to be did what bahall did,i am sure your mother would have broke that rishta her self

pallavi ur story is sad. im really sorry for you. i love my mother with all my heart. she is really kind and supportive and is my best friend. we talk about everything and we have soo much fun together. By reading ur story i really apprecite my mom alot more and realise how lucky i am to have somone like her. i sorry to say i dont like how Indian mothers think. no offence to anyone, please dont take it in the wrong way but they should be supportive of their daughters not only their sons because just like how they consider sons to be a blessing, we, the daughters are also a blessing. We are the Lakshmi of the home and i wish they would see that. Thank you for sharing your story with us and i wish you all the very best in ur life and i really hope one day, in the near future you and ur mom can share a beautiful relationship that u long for. God's blessings always!😊