Can we speak to our parents about our life?

Okay, so this is mainly, something I'd been thinking over a lot since the past few days. A teenager's life is the most complicated, as they say. It's a point where emotions change too abruptly. They are suddenly too sensitive about little things. Teenagers have loads of issues, which they find it to be major issues. And one of the major issues would be their parents. Everyday, I hear someone or the other complaining about what their parents did. My question is, are our parents imposing too many restrictions on us? Can they not even understand us? People say, a mother is a girl's best friend. But it doesn't hold true, for most of us. We always feel uncomfortable talking to our parents about such issues. We can't seem to be able to openly discuss with them about our daily issues. Like, if it's a crush problem, all we hear is, you should stay away from guys/ girls and focus on studies. They begin to impose many restrictions upon us. They refuse to try and understand what we're saying. And as a result, it leads to a huge tiff between the parent and the child. If we score less, we get yelled at or bashed up, instead of being encouraged to do better next time. So, It really gets difficult to speak to our parents about our daily issues. I would like to know, as much as they say, Can we really speak to our parents about our issues? Would they ever understand us? Would they support us?

Originally posted by: utfracks

Okay, so this is mainly, something I'd been thinking over a lot since the past few days. A teenager's life is the most complicated, as they say. It's a point where emotions change too abruptly. They are suddenly too sensitive about little things. Teenagers have loads of issues, which they find it to be major issues. And one of the major issues would be their parents. Everyday, I hear someone or the other complaining about what their parents did. My question is, are our parents imposing too many restrictions on us? Can they not even understand us? People say, a mother is a girl's best friend. But it doesn't hold true, for most of us. We always feel uncomfortable talking to our parents about such issues. We can't seem to be able to openly discuss with them about our daily issues. Like, if it's a crush problem, all we hear is, you should stay away from guys/ girls and focus on studies. They begin to impose many restrictions upon us. They refuse to try and understand what we're saying. And as a result, it leads to a huge tiff between the parent and the child. If we score less, we get yelled at or bashed up, instead of being encouraged to do better next time. So, It really gets difficult to speak to our parents about our daily issues. I would like to know, as much as they say, Can we really speak to our parents about our issues? Would they ever understand us? Would they support us?

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@Myth- I agree. But not all parents understand that. If I take my parents for an example, maybe they'd understand, but my friend's parents refuse to even believe her. Forget about understanding, but they do not even trust their kids. So that is what I do not get. All parents should atleast try and understand what we feel. After all, they were also kids at one point of time

Teenage is a difficult phase of life.... You slowly change from childhood to womanhood/man hood....It is also that time when we get most rebellious...We abhor rules, restrictions....We think those who try to tell us what we should do are actually trying to supress us... We start seeing them as enemies..But we need to understand the point of view of our parents as well.....They see their children evolving and changing....someone who has her own mind and is asserting it to make her own decissions.... puberty needs to be considered too....It is the time when we find the opposite sex most attractive....It probabaly frightens our parents that we are showing more interst in boys than in toys !!!!

Opening up to parents can be a really good idea but not all parents can actually grasp their children's thought because believe me being a parent is really tough...With rapidly changing times there is a huge gap between the mentality of parents and children...Teenagers these days are a lot more matured than they were 10 yeras ago....they should also give their parents a benefit of doubt.....

Parents are the greatest gift most of us get without asking so we should treat them with care....😛

Originally posted by: -Rinky-

Teenage is a difficult phase of life.... You slowly change from childhood to womanhood/man hood....It is also that time when we get most rebellious...We abhor rules, restrictions....We think those who try to tell us what we should do are actually trying to supress us... We start seeing them as enemies..But we need to understand the point of view of our parents as well.....They see their children evolving and changing....someone who has her own mind and is asserting it to make her own decissions.... puberty needs to be considered too....It is the time when we find the opposite sex most attractive....It probabaly frightens our parents that we are showing more interst in boys than in toys !!!!

Opening up to parents can be a really good idea but not all parents can actually grasp their children's thought because believe me being a parent is really tough...With rapidly changing times there is a huge gap between the mentality of parents and children...Teenagers these days are a lot more matured than they were 10 yeras ago....they should also give their parents a benefit of doubt.....

Parents are the greatest gift most of us get without asking so we should treat them with care....😛

@Rinky- It is always easier said than done. I've tried many a times to talk to my mom about things, like crushes and stuff, but I'm always scared to, cause I fear she may begin yelling at me rather than consoling me.

@Summer- Yeah, like I said, a mother is a girl's best friend, but they do not always understand. As for elder sis, she's in her own world all the time, so we're just left with friends, who may backstab us any time. So, it's really complicated at times

@rachna- Believe me rachna I can literally write a Novel on the no of things I haven't shared with my mom.....You cannot say everything to everyone...It is not possible....You have to learn selective sharing...

Crushes can be shared with Elder Sister or with people of your own sex more matured than you....As for friends who can backstab you....You will have to take the risk..unless you learn to trust you can never do anythng in life.... be sensible and careful while divulgigng.....

@Rinky- Yeah, I've hardly said anything to my mom about my issues..I mean, she says she'd listen and understand, but then again, I just can;t.

As for talking to my sister about things, Well, She's always too busy in her own world. There's like a 4 years gap, so it's difficult to converse with her. And as for friends, there are just a handful I could actually talk to.

Originally posted by: utfracks

@Rinky- Yeah, I've hardly said anything to my mom about my issues..I mean, she says she'd listen and understand, but then again, I just can;t.

As for talking to my sister about things, Well, She's always too busy in her own world. There's like a 4 years gap, so it's difficult to converse with her. And as for friends, there are just a handful I could actually talk to.

Writing a personal diary is a good idea....talking and socialising also helps... helps you broaden up your mind and eventually helps you cope up with your own problems...

@Rinky- Personal Diary turned out a complete disaster for me. And when it comes to socializing, I;m pretty bad at that. Since I'm an introvert by nature.