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Posted: 16 years ago

so, i've never been on this forum in IF before. to give a mini intro, my name's Sabreena and im turning 16 next month. and i live in NY.

and i have a bf, Karan, and we've been together for 6 months, and i've known him my entire life. And i really like him and he likes me. but he's going to college next year, and he really wants to go to Stanford which is in the west coast, all the way on the other side of the country. and im going to college the year after, and i want to stay on the east coast, and go to a uni in the city (NY). and i know that long distance relationships really dont work out. plus, he recently freaked me out by being super jealous when he found out that this other guy liked me, and he thought i liked that guy. and i was like whaat, noo. ughh, he went berserk.

and we also like want diff things in life. we both know what we want to do in life, and we plan for the future, and we want different things. but i still really like him, and i know he likes me, and we're still together. i dont know if i should give a long distance relationship a chance, or if we should take a break.. he's 17 years old and im turning 16 next month. plus, i dont know if he was acting super insecure by going a bit crazy when he got jealous of that guy liking me, i know he had the right to be mad. but shoudln't guys control themselves? idk, it was the first time he acted like that, and it really made me think hard about our relationship. and now, im majorly confuzzled.

any suggestions on what i should do? or any take on the situation, or on long distance relationships, or relationships around this age.

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Posted: 16 years ago

Hey Sabreena, told you I would be here for you! 🤗

Well I think first of all talk to your bf, and decide on the matter if you both want to move on or not.

My sister had a long distance relationship and trust me, it didn't work out, he was cheating on her, whenever she visited him he would freak out so in the end she dumped him.

It's natural dear, all guys go beserk when they find out some other bloke likes a girl they like. It's what every guy does. Don't worry about that bit.

When you say future, what do you mean? What do you plan for the future? You could also talk about that with him too.

P.S: Hope everything works out, I have to go now. My mum is shouting at me for being on the computer all day and sorry my advice isn't so good, I'm really tired, will be back tomorrow though. Good luck! 🤗

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Posted: 16 years ago

hey sabreena :)
omg im turning 16 in two months :P
and i dated a guy named karan too 😆 *big mistake haha but not getting into it right now *

but anyways...wow long distance relationships are kinda hard. People feel insecure cause they dont know what their bf/gf are doing.

But before i go into any of that, he's a senior now right? has he gotten accepted into stanford yet?
BTW, Stanford is hard to get into...you have to have realllly good grades and be a good student and all that

until he doesnt get accepted into standford, you should'nt worry over what will happen if he does...just go with the flow :)
enjoy the year you have together....who knows, maybe he'll get accepted into a school closer to you?

and abt him getting mad about the guy that liked you...idk maybe he heard stuff from people...or he was feeling insecure?
guys are weird.

just have fun :)

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jess :D

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Posted: 16 years ago

thanks Selinaa! 🤗

yeah, im going to talk to him.

thats horrible, my bf isn't that kind of guy, but i dont know, maybe being really far, anything's possible.

i guess, but he's like never yelled at me and he's not like a really loud type of guy, he's actually a bit more on the responsible side, and he's sort of a jock. so it like really freaked me out when he wouldn't listen to me the first time i tried to explain the situation.

i mean, like we know what we want to do in life. he wants to be an engineer and go to college on the west coast. and he doesn't want to get married until like his late, twenties/early 30s. and i dont want to go to college in the west, i'd rather stay in the east coast, i know i wan to be a lawyer, and go to a good pre-law uni. and i do not want to get married that late. and we're just disagreeing on some stuff now. i think we prob have to talk more. your rite.

thanks!

ok, byee! your advice is not bad!!

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Posted: 16 years ago

Originally posted by: Jess.
hey sabreena :)
omg im turning 16 in two months :P
and i dated a guy named karan too 😆 *big mistake haha but not getting into it right now *

but anyways...wow long distance relationships are kinda hard. People feel insecure cause they dont know what their bf/gf are doing.

But before i go into any of that, he's a senior now right? has he gotten accepted into stanford yet?
BTW, Stanford is hard to get into...you have to have realllly good grades and be a good student and all that

until he doesnt get accepted into standford, you should'nt worry over what will happen if he does...just go with the flow :)
enjoy the year you have together....who knows, maybe he'll get accepted into a school closer to you?

and abt him getting mad about the guy that liked you...idk maybe he heard stuff from people...or he was feeling insecure?
guys are weird.

just have fun :)

lovee
jess :D

hey jess! : ]

wow! haha im turning 16 next month on the 27th! we're only a month apart! :)

haha, wow again!

yeah, thats exactly how i feel right now.

yeah, he's a senior. and he's really, really smart! he's got a very high GPA and he does 1 sport that he's really good at,he's got plenty of extracurriculars, and he's very well rounded, so i doubt he wont get in.

yeah. but its junior year, and soon im going to have barely anytime for him with all the SAT studying. it suks.

he like really loves stanford. and he wants to go to the west coast. idk what's wrong with nyc, or even pa, or boston. their are some really good universities here. but he's like always wanted to go to stanford. its like been his dream.

both. he heard about that guy from that guy's friend, who was his friend. and that guys didn't know he was my bf. and he misunderstood, and thought i liked him too. and he went crazy. and it was really hard to get him to like listen and understand.

yes, guys are weird. and they confuse me.

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aishwarya

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Posted: 16 years ago

well..

I think that ur BF was just being posessive..but otherwise he shud have listened to u once u noe..

n i dont think long-distance relationships work..n yeah dont break up before u actually know that he;s going there...let him get admission n stuff..n maybe after that..u can break up and when he cumz bck..u can still get together..if u guys are willing to!

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Posted: 16 years ago

@ aish_punk: Thanks a lot for the advice! thats exactly what i think, long distance relationships are the worst, and im thinking about taking a break in our relationship, but im still unsure. Maybe, I am too young to be caught up in all this. Yeah, it all depends on how it goes when he goes away to college next year, we've never like been apart for a long time, maybe it might just bring us closer! i just dont know yet. well anyway, thank you for the guidance!

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aishwarya

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Posted: 16 years ago

ur welcome..but its not like u cant try a long-distance relation..but there are chances of him fallin 4 anoda gal..

u can take a break as u said..

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Mahi

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Posted: 16 years ago

Hi Sabreena!

Welcome to the forum!

Well, I wouldn't say long distance relationships are unmanageable. Because ultimately long distance or short distance, it's love that matters most.

If you both really like each other then you should give your relationship a chance. See how things work out.

But it seems like you are not really sure about it right now anyway. You want different things in life (Which is not terrible, two different people can still be together).

Ultimately if this relationship doesn't seem like working then instead of making your lives a problem, you should just talk to him and end it.

Besides, in true relationships there's not point of jealousy. The whole point is that you trust your partner no matter what. Only insecure people get jealous and those relationships doesn't always work out well.

All the best!

-Mahi

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Posted: 16 years ago

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hi Mahi! nice meeting you!

thanks so much for the advice! i totally c what you mean!

I actually talked to him, and we both mutually decided to take

a break. i think its for the best. and we decided if in the future, if we still like each other that way, then we'll see what happens. for now, it's over. i guess for the best, i don't think im old enough for a relationship, and it was too confusing. i thik i'll wait till i feel like ready. just not this year, esp with this being the most crucial year of high school. i guess i'll just see what the future holds!!

thank you! :)

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