8/7/09 : The Big R : Relationships and DMG :)

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Heyy guys...today's episode was nothing short of a roller coaster ride for me...beginning with AN to a glimpse of RM after so long, and finally AR, who sort of stringed the episode together with their scene shown in bits through it...the highlights for me today can be summed up in three Rs : Rahul, who made an appearence after eons...Riddhima, who, as i see on the forum, is in the line of fire for her decision at this moment, although i think that would have been at a much smaller scale had Armaan not crashed his car in he precap...but the biggest R of them all, which held the entire episode together and had me hooked like never before, was Relationships, in their sheer rawness of emotion and complexity...😊
beginning with the first...it was absolutely delightful to see Rahul back on the show after soooo long...i hope things go forward positively from here on for RM...although the Purohit bit was confusing, i must admit...we'll have to wait to find out...i start with them, because i see their Relationship as struggling to find a solid foothold...almost as though, after having been through so much including a confession of their feelings, they seem to have come right back to the beginning...not a linear progression, but certainly not unnatural in keeping with the way their relationship has been shaping...😊
at the next level lies Abhimanyu and Nikita's Relationship, as they seek to understand exactly where they stand at this moment...although more of that thinking seems to be happening in Abhi's head while Niki busies herself with Suman Lata Dalmiyan, who, in my opinion, is more than just a complication...but that's a different story...as far as AN are concerned, Abhi's just found out that Niki is helping Suman with all this dating business...and i would think that the way he is looking at it, her actions would appear predictable, while at the same time inscrutable...inscrutable because of to reasons, the first being that as if their relationship weren't complicated enough, she's actually helping another woman claiming to be in love with him, and the second being that she is doing all of this just to get back at him...so where are we, right now? that is the question hovering over their Relationship...😳
finally, having already crossed both the above mentioned levels stands Armaan and Riddhima's Relationship...they have found a foothold, know where they stand...the dilemma is now with regard to where they want to take their relationship, and how...they're on the brink of marriage, and Riddhima does a rethink on whether this relationship is really ready to enter the level of matrimony...and to her dismay, she can find no conclusive answer until Armaan understands where the question is coming from, instead of dismissing it with a cheerful "main jeet gaya...ab yeh sab baatein chhodo..."😳 ...i know that many people are virtually spitting fire at her for her decision, but if you looked at her face when she spoke the last few words before she left, every tear spoke for how much it cost her just to have those words come out of her mouth...it may be considered an overreaction from one angle, while it will appear quite a rational decision from another, considering that all she asked him to do was to think about what she said, not that she was leaving him...but the fact of the matter remains that it is what it is...it's complicated...neither of these three Relationships can be defined under a particular category or even a particular stage of love, simply because there are no categories or clearly definable linear progressions in love...which is also, at this point for me, the beauty of this show...
i hope things are taken forward sensibly from here...and positively too...thank you creatives, for giving me something so deep to think about today, intentionally or unintentionally...😊
cheers! 😃
P.S. sorry about the length guys, but tonight's episode really left an impression on me, and this is the best way i could express it...😊
P.P.S. this is a bit off-topic, but Armaan's accident looked SCARY...
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Nanduuuu... hugs hun.. so good to see you.. 🤗
I really wanted to discuss and your topic is perfect icing on the cake..
before I start.. wanted to let you know .. i haven't watched the epi yet but i have lots to say with just reading the detailed updates and discussions in bits and pieces..
Rahul:
I am glad he is back.... TACOS is much needed.. and it is high time they sorted out RM.. If u ask me really there is no relationship. They need to create one IF they have feelings for each other. We know there is something wrong with Rahul... but yet again like all the Sanjv couples have a problem they do to.. they need to TALK!! LOLLLLLL!!
Abhi - Niki:
I am loving them..
They are great.. but yet again there needs to be talking going on there instead of keeping quite and not saying much... .Abhi we know is hurt in love and his ego more so.. so it is Niki's turn to talk and make him listen... we can see him soften lately.. take advantage and go for it...
I have no idea why Niki is doing what she is.... at the end of the day .. they both know they love each other.. so why the torture.. to themselves and us!!!??
Keeping the best to LAST:
Armaan and Ridz..
Nanduuu..
I don't know where to start..
I am tired.. just tired of this whole thing...
Can we make them understand that a relationship is not between mein aur tuum... it is about HUM!!!
Ridz has her hold on.... 'u have no idea what i want'
Armaan goes on and on with his nautanki thinking that this is what Ridz wants.. and is always willing to please...
can they like step back and think.... about them as a whole ... one person instead of you and me..??
This is why they are just going in all different directions.. .
Armaan doesn't know what he is doing.... and Ridz wanting what she thinks is right...
Can we get a medium AR..... Armaan cool on the nautanki..... Ridz lighten up a bit girlfriend!!!
I have nooo idea what is going to happen now... i just hope Armaan don't revert back at a REALIZED Ridz saying he don't want to marry now!!! Dammmnnn!!!
Thanks for letting me comment...
Love ur topic Nandu..
Sorry if i went off topic.. did I!???
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Like to add..
Atul and Angie..
Loveee Atul latelyyy and Angie goshh she is easing up!! Right on...... would like to see more good ness!
Edited by dmg07 - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Veenz...!! 🤗 wonderful to see you too...!! 😃
i do agree with one main point you've made...that most problems here are caused by a complete lack of communication, whether it be AN, RM or even AR...and though AR have crossed many communication hurdles before, they're at a point where neither is really understanding the other over a single but very significant issue...Armaan is dismissing Riddhima's concerns, most likely because he does not understand one part and has no answers to the remaining part, while she's not so much dismissing his love as trying to find a deeper sense of understanding and trust before taking a step as momentous as marriage...😳
RM are still looking for a new beginning, yes, and AN are struggling to figure things out...and Abhi's still acting a little more sensibly than Niki is right now, because she's just getting back at him, and what is worse is that she's using a human being with feelings to do it...not cool...🤔
thanks for replying, and no you didn't go off-topic...😛
cheers! 😃
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Hey Nandini,

A beautiful post with exceptional analysis. I have not seen the episode yet since it has not aired but will catch it tonight for sure. From what I have read on this forum there seems to trouble in AR paradise which was inevitable in my opinion.

First things first I am glad to see Rahul back and would love to see RM build their relationship and move it forward.

Second our precious Riddhima who is at the receiving end here on the forum for questioning Armaan and the sanctity of their relationship. I remember a quote by William James who once said, "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Attitude is the problem in this blossoming relationship, Armaan does not comprehend Riddhima's dilemma and her valid arguments about the lack of trust in their relationship. Our chocolate boy Armaan's attitude is: we have waited enough now lets get married and things will sort itself out later. There in lies their problem this attitude is not only threatening to their relationship but also it makes their healthy relationship stagnant. Riddhima's attitude on the other hand is also damaging to their relationship, rather than questioning his motives and lack of trust she needs to sit down and talk it out with Armaan.

Riddhima's expectations from marriage I believe are the same as Armaans. Both want a stable happy and a nurturing relationship but they both to seem to forget that, the goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together. Marriage is tough and requires commitment, hard work and a lot of sacrifice, as Gandhiji said once, "I first learned the concept of non-violence in my marriage." I think it is a very apt quote to describe marriage.

Not marrying Armaan is not the answer to their relationship problems, sitting down and talking it out with the right attitude will be the key for their relationship.

As you rightly mentioned, no one person stands vindicated and no one person is at fault, relationships are complicated and I am glad the creative team is just showing that.

I saw the precap video on the forum and I am irritated to be honest. Whenever there is a problem between AR in stead of learning from it and sorting it out like adults'.the creative team takes the easy way out by making Armaan sick and/or injured'which brings Riddhima to tears and they forget all their problems and are back together. I hope this is not the case this time around.

Sorry for the lengthy post!

Edited by Dr.KaranSG - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: nandinidev

i do agree with one main point you've made...that most problems here are caused by a complete lack of communication, whether it be AN, RM or even AR...and though AR have crossed many communication hurdles before, they're at a point where neither is really understanding the other over a single but very significant issue...Armaan is dismissing Riddhima's concerns, most likely because he does not understand one part and has no answers to the remaining part, while she's not so much dismissing his love as trying to find a deeper sense of understanding and trust before taking a step as momentous as marriage...😳

Nandu... banng on.... Communication has always been an issue with our Sanjv dears...
@Armaan and Ridz .. ....
Wish... Ridz sit Armaan down and let him understand...
She loves him... she will be with him.. she will never leave him!! Give him the assurance that things like this
will not lessen her love for him but make their relationship grow..
Why does Armaan do what he does... .
Because Ridz always goes to the Extreme.. just like she did today..
This is the exact fear that Armaan has "Of him losing her" that makes him do the jump around everytime...
I am not saying it is right.. but if Ridz gave him that solid confidence in making sure she will neverrr go and will
love him forever.... i think his nautanki will not be as much!!!
More so with Armaan always getting senti and packing his back and skipping town is not going to make it any better..
we need to grow in this relationship people...
Looks like we are were we were during Kasuali days... 😕
Nandu.. i know u will understand what I am saying...
but..
other readers...I am not saying Armaan is right and Ridz is wrong.... both are right and wrong in their own places..
They just need to mature in love..... in this relationship...
Thanks dear!!!😳
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: Dr.KaranSG

. Riddhima's attitude on the other hand is also damaging to their relationship, rather than questioning his motives and lack of trust she needs to sit down and talk it out with Armaan.

Not marrying Armaan I not the answer to their relationship problems, sitting down and talking it out with the right attitude will be the key for their relationship.

I saw the precap video on the forum and I am irritated to be honest. Whenever there is a problem between AR in stead of learning from it and sorting it out like adults'.the creative team takes the easy way out by making Armaan sick and/or injured'which brings Riddhima to tears and they forget all their problems and are back together. I hope this is not the case this time around.

Doc... 🤗
Hi5 ....love what you wrote.. exactly my sentiments beautifully worded....👏👏
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Posted: 16 years ago
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@dmg07: I completely agree, growing up has to happen now for both of them! And Armaan better not be leaving town this time around.....how convenient....he leaves meets with an accident and then Riddhima comes crying to take care of him and we are back to square one.
Can we please write the script for DMG for like a week!!!

Edited: just saw your response above....I am glad I found someone who shares the same sentiments about the accident issue!
Edited by Dr.KaranSG - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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i can't write long but loved your post....very well analyzed i could feel how riddhima was hurt...i had tears on my eyes while reading what you wrote about riddhima's decision😭
she never said that she doesn't want to marry armaan or she wants to break up...she just said she wants armaan to understand her problem...she asked him to go and think cooly about that matter
so i can't blame riddhima at all and yeah armaan did this for his and riddhim's love but still he needs to understand riddhima's feelings
i know armaan's accident looks scary
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Doc..
call me Veena..
and @ ur comment.. 😆
I am with you for the script writing.... we need AR to do some growing up.

Now ...
as much as i am scared....
I want both of them to take a break and really sit back and think what this relationship is for them...
and make a decision of either getting married or not.
or if we have a realized Ridz...
I want Armaan to turn around and tell her that he needs time to think about this relationship..
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: dmg07

Doc..
call me Veena..
and @ ur comment.. 😆
I am with you for the script writing.... we need AR to do some growing up.

Now ...
as much as i am scared....
I want both of them to take a break and really sit back and think what this relationship is for them...
and make a decision of either getting married or not.
or if we have a realized Ridz...
I want Armaan to turn around and tell her that he needs time to think about this relationship..



Hello Veena,
A break would be a good thing and this time like you said initiated by Armaan....no need to make it public and involve parents...just them two sitting down and doing some thinking. And ya lets apply for his script writing thing most likely they will kick our behinds and throw us out! lol

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