Gals, obviously most are unmarried (just a guess). Believe me I would take a combo of both... as I have mentioned in other posts, My hubby is Naitik, lot of pride, touchy, possesive, the same nostril flare when angry, not the chit-chaty type, takes time to warm up towards strangers, either like or dislike a person and if dislike, it is soooo apparent.... and yes little immature, wanting to be always number one.... is it difficult to live with this, yes.... balancing act all the time... but but one huge plus is once you are in his inner circle, he will never say no to anything... he goes to bat on your behalf, totally devoted husband and father, no false games... plus when I ask his opinion, he sums up the situation sooooo good because he thinks very straight.... of course if you do something to hurt him... god help you.... early on in the marriage I learnt not to hide anything, be upfront and he will forgive the worst of your sins... and after so many years, I adore him.....
You know after nearly 20 years, I still am surprised. the other day with friends we were joking about being married for so long, maybe regretting the choice etc... what we would want for our partner if we had to choice again etc... so I asked my hubby what about you, he was quite and then very very seriously said, you were my first choice, my only choice and I don't think I will get anyone like you.... there was a pin drop silence and I had tears in my eyes... so during all the above daily trails, I remember the above and know I am blessed to be loved so much...
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