If you had a gay relative ...

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We've had/have a lot of discussion on the nature and science behind homosexuality in the past, however we did not have any thread on society's view towards homosexuality and homophobia, and our personal opinion on how it should be.

Ya know, just that day I heard from one of my friend that a kid of around fourteen-fifteen was kicked out of his house for being caught making out with his man servant. Now I don't know if there is any truth to this story (this might as well be a make up 'story' from my friends), however I think such things are constantly happening in the conservative society. So what's your take on it?

Many people are not compatible with the thought of premarital sex, and I think I can understand if a family decides to 'break up' with their son[s]/daughter[s] for having any premarital relation (owing to the fact that the members had gone against the guidelines set up by the family for years, and participated in such an act that they were fully prohibited and warned from doing). However, many families are breaking up with their son[s]/daughter[s] for being gay (in orientation; any action towards the people of same sex may or may not have happened). So, do you feel it is permissible and morally acceptable for the parent[s] or guardian[s] to punish, disown or break up with the gay member?

Remember it is not about homosexuality, but about homosexuals.

If you had a gay relative, and one day all of a sudden he came out to you, how would you have reacted to it?

Would you have:

-Punished him cruelly, that would have redeemed the 'terrible monster' that resides inside him
-Kicked him out of the house, disown him, and break any further communication with him for being such a 'filthy' human being
-Take him to a doctor/psychologist/psychiatrist to cure the 'disease'' he is suffering from, but accept him (the person) wholeheartedly.
-Accept him and let him live his life accordingly

Also, do you support the current attitude towards homosexuality in society? If you are living in any conservative country, then do you accept the intolerance of homosexuality/homosexuals and advocate the harsh punishment (varies from country to country; some says a few lashings and whippings would do the trick, while others uses imprisonment, fines, and some even goes a few steps ahead - capital punishment, like throwing down from a cliff top, or stoning down the person alive) used? Or do you feel a need to change them and the society's outlook and change this old and uncivilized laws? If you are living in a liberal and secularist country (where homosexuality is accepted), then do you support tolerance and acceptance towards homosexuality/homosexuals, and advocate gay marriage/union? Or do you feel a need to change them and the society's outlook and punish them for their deed?

Another thing, to the religious people: Do you view homophobia contrary to your belief system, i.e. do you feel homophobia being any different from racism, sexism or any sort of classing/grouping people into category and demeaning them for it? Do you feel God would be against such a behavior?

And to the non-religious: Do you see 'viewing homosexuality as a sin' (by non-religious) equivalent to homophobia?


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So I hope by now everyone has got a proper understanding towards the thread and its subject: it's more about our and the society's outlook towards homosexuality than about the nature of it. Granted that both of them are inter-related and one is bound to come up into the discussion with the other.

Labib 😃

Good topic Labib, waiting to hear some nice responses. 😊
I hold my peace until then.

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Good topic Labib, waiting to hear some nice responses. 😊
I hold my peace until then.

But it was your response which is supposed to be 'nice' and I was anxious to hear about. 😉😆 [Hey no pun intended there]. I do hope Raj doesn't close this one. 😆😛
And thanks for the complement. 😳

I'm in a rush but I'll just post my views on this and i'll be honest.

hey its their life.. i dont find it natural, coz ppl were supposed to produce .. thats how life progresses rite.. then again some might feel that it controls overpopulation lol

personally i would feel comfy lol.. but with a gay man who sint my relative..then ewww

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

But it was your response which is supposed to be 'nice' and I was anxious to hear about. 😉😆 [Hey no pun intended there]. I do hope Raj doesn't close this one. 😆😛
And thanks for the complement. 😳

Oh boy, I'm outta here - I knew you'd say something like that. 😆
But I don't know, I hate getting myself in these long debates where there's no end. Haven't we been down all these different roads already? Anyways, I'll put in my two cents later perhaps not that it matters or anything. 😆

Did Raj close the last one? I can't remember. Don't worry, SRGMP section is getting active again, all his worries and hopes are attached there .... hehe. 😆 Now, I'm outta here before he reads this and gives me his "I'm-disappointed-in-you" Akshaye Khanna glare. 😆😆

G2G to work!

I follow the 'an it harm none do as thou wilt' principle. So yeah, gay, straight are all the same to me.

I firmly believe in equal rights in a legal sense that is marriage rights, employment rights and the right to having a meaningful relationship without being branded a criminal.

However, I do not think legal rights equate to social rights. Society is complex and people will form their own moral opinion. If a parent wants to disown a child, or if someone wants to ditch their best friend because that person happened to be 'gay'. It is absolutely a personal choice. It is upto people whether they want to accept such people in their family or social life. Not that I condone such behavior, in my opinion socially outcasting a person because they are gay is wrong, mean and unfair. But, I have to accept peoples choices in their personal matters.

In an ideal world homosexuals would have social and legal acceptance. In my opinion social acceptance is preferred though. People need friends and family, a court document and a well paying job can never fill a social void.

pre-marital sex is now pretty much acceptable in the society of the world don't you think?? perhaps not in a conservative countries like in the south asian regions, some parts of southeast asian regions, but nonetheless it is pretty much acceptable. and about homosexuals, if a person or family in this case really truly care about the homosexuals don't you think they will accept that person despite whatever others say and how society will see it. homosexuals were actually pretty much embraced by the roman empire actually before it converted to christianity empire, it is only after christianity was embraced by roman empire do they see homosexuals and homosexuality as something different and something abnormal. if a person is a homosexual why do we have to mistreat them as long as they don't do something that disadvantage the society or harm other people.