Originally posted by: phadukaran
Hmm,,... well if Terence is such a high and mature as compare to geeta and remo, then why does Noni being Overweight comes in every comment he makes. we all know that she is over weight, we are not blind.. That is exactly why NONI cried in second or third episode. Yet in last episode of hers with Siddesh it was mentioned by Terence, "you must watch your weight" i mean come on dear, you are good choreographer you and your contestants are slim and fit, but that doesn't give you right to call anyone Fat or overweight. so no one is better or mature then the other, they all are same...
Well, you're mistaking "Constructive Criticism" there for Mockery/ Put down. Terence highlighted something she should work on as it would enhance this Art of Noni's. We all have eyes and see Noni--doesn't mean we look down upon her. When you cherish someone you care to better them, hence Terence's words came across only out of care and in no shape or form as a let down. His tone, body language, nor words (which were said sweetly) were in no way demeaning rather they were to encourage and goad her. How can you say Terence's always had slim n fit students--not you nor I know that. Perhaps all ones from his Toli now are, but who know's if he's battled in helping some in the past. Likewise, judging his display of concern, I can 200% say that he's one who very likely helped out and improved some people in his life for sure! And that my dear is the sign of a GOOD MENTOR & PERSON.
I'll enlighten you with the following Buddhist quote: "In criticizing, the teacher is hoping to teach. That's all."~Surangama Sutra
In fact, I could never imagine any of the 3 choregraphers in such a low-mind state as mocking Noni's weight. If I had even gotten the slightly hint of mockery from anyone there, I wouldn't respect it. On the contrary, I notice them all sympathyzing with her and furthermore appreciating her dancing ability along with that weight which ordinarily is quite difficult to juggle. What is remains a fact--i'm sure lowering Noni's BMI (Body Mass Index) as it's said in medical terms, would only enhance her on more platforms than just dance---for it'll take a physical, emotional, and mental toll on her (in a positive manner that is). As teachers in our culture are given a pedastal next to God and Parents for us...they guide and advise to only better us.
As far as her crying after it being mentioned many times only shows again at how it's really affecting her and thus, the matter should be handled before she indulges further into what could lead to even depression etc...Often obese patients have a cover up of a happy go lucky side which the world sees, and yet they could be deteriorating within. To turn a blind eye to what could serve being very harmful for Noni is absolutely absurd, especially for the teachers who're taking her in to guide her, or her family. I downright totally agree with the mentors not ignoring the issue. As for Noni crying about it...not you nor I know about how she's treated otherwise. I'm sure not all the world's as nice nor constructive about it. So, i'll bet my stakes with you that she's emotionally gone thru a rollercoaster ride dealing with this on numerous occassions in her life. If not, then these few times her weight coming up would not affect her so intensly. It's definately a build-up over the years...
There is one thing i'll add though hun...that I do feel it could be quite related to a hereditary issue of gaining weight or something like hypothyroidism--which's in many people often giving them immense weight gain. I dont see Noni as just a lazy person who sat around, ate, and gained weight. I feel she is trying despite certain factors/ challenges against her. However, she is very well aware of her state and to explain it to you---it's sort of like the handicapped/mentally disabled people..."we" the general public will treat them in sugar-coating ways which most of them actually Despise because they're not as dumb as we make them out to be in our interactions with them. They carry far more capability than we estimate at times...and the ones close and caring of them should carry out their duty to uplift and better them than turning a blind eye and staying mum...
When I speak, i am not speaking on a baseless ground my dear. Do feel free to write if you wish to further debate and discuss this.
wishes😊
Edited by simran777 - 16 years ago
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