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AreYaar

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Posted: 16 years ago

#11

^^ It is not about what's 'right'....it is about a very human reaction....which is not constrained by what's 'right' or 'wrong' or socially acceptable.

Anyways, I guess it's just a difference of opinion. I do respect your opinion though😊

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apux

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Posted: 16 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: pinkykhan
^ for me she is getting married she should have tried to show a her parents / family that she is doing it happily and not being forced against her will.

Once she had decided that she will sacrifice her love, and get married to Shishir as it is her Farz, then crying and sulking just does not seem right to me. Maybe it does to you.

I dont mean to say she should not have shown her hurt, but there are many ways to show the hurt not just making a sad face or by crying.

I think that is very unrealistic....even if Ragini smiled, you could tell its a fake smile....and her parents do know that she is unhappy with this marriage....everyone has a limit....Ragini obviously isn't a very good liar....so it easily shows when she is happy or unhappy....some people are able to mask their emotions and keep things inside very well whereas others aren't....just because she decided to it was her duty to marry Shishir doesn't mean its so easily expressed...

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Kruthika

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Posted: 16 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: nureat01

How does it contradict the word "Farz"?? Does "Farz" mean that one always has to do something with a smile? I thought farz meant to do your duty....but nowhere does it specify HOW you do that duty....she is TRYING to do it as a farz towards her parents, but that doesn't mean that she will necessarily be able to do it happily.....she is TRYING to be brave for her parent's sake...but it is still difficult for her....Again, a very human reaction....she is trying but still unable to maintain a stiff upper lip because it is too painful for her.

I agree with Pinks 1000%. If Ragini is trying to do her "Farz" for her parents, she should atleast do it wholeheartedly and mean it. To me the entire episode of the engagment was just terrible. Ragini was overdoing the sulking and made a big face the entire time as if she was trying to pass a message onto Shishir and his family that "look at me, I'm so unhappy, just break this engagment already and end my misery". Really, sometimes they make it look like Ragini is making SUCH a huge sacrifice by marrying Shishir... i mean, it's not like he's an animal or something that its torture just to marry him. Infact it wud be a million times better marrying him than marrying into a family where she has only a minority on her side. Marriage is not only abt 2 individuals, its the unity of 2 families as well. By Ragini marrying Ranvir, she should realize that she's throwing her parents into a life-full of torture.

Well getting back to the subject, basically what I dont understand is why she's calling it a Farz in the first place if she can't carry it out all the way and mean it.

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Zahra

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Posted: 16 years ago

#14

I don't think what Ragini was doing was her 'farz' in the first place, it's more of a sacrifice. A farz is an obligation- something you should do without thought. Ragini did not HAVE to marry Shishir, she chose to for her family's happiness, so it's a sacrifice, not really a farz.

I know that because her parents say she has to marry Shishir it becomes her duty as a daughter, but on the whole it is more of a sacrifice, so therefore it is painful for her- having to live your life with someone you don't love!! But I do agree that the crying gets a bit too much sometimes and she needs to tone it down!! xx

Edited by Pyari_Zahra - 16 years ago

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AreYaar

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Originally posted by: Pyari_Zahra
I don't think what Ragini was doing was her 'farz' in the first place, it's more of a sacrifice. A farz is an obligation- something you should do without thought. Ragini did not HAVE to marry Shishir, she chose to for her family's happiness, so it's a sacrifice, not really a farz.
I know that because her parents say she has to marry Shishir it becomes her duty as a daughter, but on the whole it is more of a sacrifice, so therefore it is painful for her- having to live your life with someone you don't love!! But I do agree that the crying gets a bit too much sometimes and she needs to tone it down!! xx

Well said! You make a very valid point! Indeed it's more of a sacrifice which in some ways became a duty....but the main point is that her reaction is very understandable! I am unable to see how she is supposed to smile through all of this😕.....

I do agree that the crying becomes too heavy duty after a point, but as a character I can understand Ragini's pain basically.

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Gaganjot

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Posted: 16 years ago

#16

I don't want to say much, but what I would love to say is If I was in Ragini's place...

I would have been crying my heart out...I am surprised that she managed to keep her tears inside this whole time.

The poor girl has suffered so much throughout and especially recently when her whole family had to go through so much that I wouldn't expect anyone to be smiling.

According to me, what killed this innocent girl inside and caused her soo much was the fact that

when she realized how much Ranvir did for her and their love and she had nothing to offer back...

She felt as if she owed Ranvir her love.

Anyway, this is just what i took from their scene.

Edited by gaganjotsooch - 16 years ago

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apux

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Posted: 16 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: *Kruthi*
Marriage is not only abt 2 individuals, its the unity of 2 families as well. By Ragini marrying Ranvir, she should realize that she's throwing her parents into a life-full of torture.

Well, I do agree that marriage is between two families, but ultimately it is the husband and wife that have do all the work....if the bond between the husband and wife isn't strong, all the other bonds with the in-laws also falls weak....

Mamaji and mamiji are already stuck with a life-full of torture (aka Vasu) because Sadhna is already married to Alekh....yeah, maybe Ragini would had nice in-laws if she married Shishir and a husband that would be caring and sweet but I doubt she would ever truly love Shishir....respect and admire, but love? I think its deceiving for the person to marry someone when someone else is in their heart....completely unfair, and insulting to the concept of marriage...

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ANJANA

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Originally posted by: nureat01
I see your point.

However, she is but human. It is easy to say that she should do everything with a smile if she made up her mind to do this as a farz for her family. But it is very difficult for the person going through the pain to manage to actually act that normal.

Some ppl are good at putting on a good face on things even if they're upset....and some ppl aren't. It depends on the individual.

I completely Agree With You It is not as Easy when we Say these Things ,But when We Go through we will Know How Hard It is,Believe It is not at all Easy as Myself as Gone through these Things,It is the hardest Part

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ANJANA

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Originally posted by: apux

Well, I do agree that marriage is between two families, but ultimately it is the husband and wife that have do all the work....if the bond between the husband and wife isn't strong, all the other bonds with the in-laws also falls weak....

Mamaji and mamiji are already stuck with a life-full of torture (aka Vasu) because Sadhna is already married to Alekh....yeah, maybe Ragini would had nice in-laws if she married Shishir and a husband that would be caring and sweet but I doubt she would ever truly love Shishir....respect and admire, but love? I think its deceiving for the person to marry someone when someone else is in their heart....completely unfair, and insulting to the concept of marriage...

👏well Said Apux You are Absolutely Right