Why Oh Why :(

but i guess he's shown like that all the time -> just a sweet talker!

like he does the same with the lady he's having an affair with!

i couldn't have agreed more. actually, i was quite thrown off by how his character is shown on the show, cause on the promos and in the title song-video, it seemed he ignores aradhna completely and doesn't care about her, which he shows openly. but in the show, he's quite different, meaning he is really sweet and loving to her to her face, and doesn't completely ignore her nor openly shows he doesn't care for her. but of course, none of it changes the fact that her he is a complete a--hole. in fact, he's even worse than the ones who treat their wife badly in front of them, and goes on cheating behind their wife's backs as well; at least, they don't pretend or act like something they're not in front of them, then do something absolutely horrible behind their back; which can be twice as more traumatic and shocking for the one being cheated on as they had no clue at all, and they probably had put complete faith in their spouse (which is what aradhna has done), so its all more painful. anyways, but back to the topic though, yes, i agree, minus the whole infidelty thing, shilendra really do seem to be a very loving and caring husband. but unfortunately, he's a cheater, so he's one of the worst husband (if not THE worst) there is... like you said, "oh why why" did shilendra have to be like that... and its too late to forgive him too, and he has to ASK for forgiveness first; but even if he does ask for one, like i said, its too late. he's taken his affair way too far, the pain, its, its just unbearable... how can you live with someone who has done what shilendra has done. fine, go ahead, forgive him, if he really does seem sincere with his apology, but i'd imagine it'd be way too difficult and tough to look at him the same way and actually live with him again. that's why, sadly to say, i don't think aradhna-shilendra will ever be able to reconcile once his truth is out. i say sadly beause they really did seem like a very loving couple, and he's just too sweet to her... such a shame, such a shame indeed...

~peace~

Now that he is shown as a normal, loving and caring hubby whn his other side comes out,it will be more shocking and will shatter aradhana and its then new guy will step in and things take 360 degree turn.

Half bad hubby if told is total creep it will be devasting but deffo not shocking but a complete lovn man if one day suddenly turns out to be zero it will be more shocking.

And maybe they revealed him being grey before so viewers dnt get attached to jodi , as now a days all soaps are jodi driven but this show has diff concept and if ppl strt liking the pair and getting attached to it , then they will tend to become forgiving and insist for the pair to be shown tog and that will actually make them deviate from there concept ,just my thoghts.