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PurplePantsuit

@PurplePantsuit

Rocker

Posted: 16 years ago

(warning: as with most of my posts, this is gonna be long.. 😆)

this post starts what has been an idea that has raised a lot of questions on this forum for a while -- the "i-hate-prem" club.

at first blush, it's an odd idea: hate prem??? the hero of an antiquated story of love-ordained? the story itself is odd for today -- people who're "made from the same mould", and therefore, "made for each other", and sharing a "love forever"? in this day of increasing rates of divorces? "made for each other" in this age of multiple-loves? such a misfit of an idea for the world that we are in today. how can we imagine that it is possible? but, prem has always and constantly proved that if there was anyone on earth for whom it was true, it was for prem and heer. how, how can you hate such a guy, you are bound to ask.

well, you can. what is worse, you probably will. 'cause i think it's inevitable. at the least, i'm proof of the fact. and i'd like to explain.

what is this club about? it's for people who suffer a disease that's wildly prevalent on this forum called "extreme prem exposure". it is caused by a viru.. *sigh, okay* guy called prem. in it's most vicious form, the caues is a combination of prem and it's female counterpart, called heer. this disease directly attacks the human brain. normal human brains are the control center for the entire human body. the human body which is the pinnacle of millions of years of the evoluationary process. the most refined thing which has created the ability to escape gravity and allow thoughts to travel round the world and back through technically nothingness! and this brain! this pinnacle of creation! when exposed to prem/prem-heer falters to nothingness. a brain-on-prem is the most useless object in the universe. patients with ephe are as good as ... useless to society, to the world, to evolution! *sob!*

as far as we can tell, it has no known cure, unfortunately. however, the epe/ephe effect is short-term and very specific to the point of exposure. so all we can do is try to control it's effects, ie, the symptoms of "epe". symptoms of "epe" is loss of self-control. this may manifest itself in the lack of ability to control the position of one's jaw. control one's tongue from hanging out. control an excessive generation of (what is known in genteel circles -- such as ours) as drool. the most insiduous symptom is when the brain suffers a mental nuclear white-out. memory immediately after is wiped out for an unknown amount of time. this can range from 5 minutes to as high as a weekend!! (victimes of ephe have sometimes woken after a thursday evening on a monday remembering nothing! but snippets of songs and a horrible taste of egg in the mouth.)

this club is for those who suffer from this disease. this club is for those who had their thinking ability taken away from them -- even if it is for a microscopic moment -- and have woken up in resentment. which resentment becomes deeper and deeper since they find that they have to keep suffering, and that there is no cure. this club is a forum for those who want to stand up and firmly say: we have had our brain-time stolen. we can't retrieve the past, but we can fight for our future. we resolve to dedicate ourselves to epe/ephe fully! to completely understand the effects of epe/ephe, so that we can eventually learn to control this vicious disease. we are the noble ones who will devote our lives and continually suffer from epe/ephe, carefully documenting and archiving this disease. this we will do for our fellow citizens (yes, forum-members! just for you!). by watching our example, you will understand the effect of the disease and what steps to take to prevent it. *no, really, you don't have to thank us -- your well-being is our reward. seriously!*

this club has been modelled along the lines of the AA -- alcoholics anonymous. like with the aa, the i-hate-prem club is not for everyone. some people prefer to remain ignorant of their illness - poor souls. *sympathetic shake of the head*.

the post following this one has a questionnaire that will help you understand if the i-hate-prem club is for you. but before you even go there, i guess you should know that there are some rules to this club.

1. prem and heer are one. often, i-hate-prem is the same as i-hate-prem-heer. often, but not always. sometimes, it's just i-hate-prem. (note to self: don't think i've ever i-hate-heer'ed. hmmm. must meditate on why.)

2. no unjustifiable hatred is allowed. if there is an episode or event in an episode that warrants a i-hate-prem!, the "hatred" can be voiced here. but! must be preceded by or followed by a reason. and it must be a rational one that gets the supporting vote of at least 20 other members in the club, and no more than 15 other opposing votes.

3. a unique feature of the club: drooling over your object of hatred is perfectly understandable and, in fact, encouraged in this club. unlike in (say) the alcoholics anonymous, where drink is shunned, we believe that it's only through full exposure and free discussion of all symptoms and possible causes that we will help society. we aim to be great scientists in our quest! *holiness shining out again...at this rate, if there is a heaven, there's no question where we all are headed!*

4. this is a class-less club. no presidents, no vice-presidents. everyone has an equal voice. (it was considered to keep a treasurer -- someone who has the time and ability to "validate" a point raised by a i-hate-prem member. but there could be several treasurers, all with the same importance. so we could have different roles, but are still class-less.)

5. membership into the club will be on a first-come-first-calling-carded basis. you post, you introduce yourself, your questionnaire answers + score. and then you offer your first "i-hate-prem" moment or any other rationalisation for why you think you fit in this club.

this is a classless club. however, there will be preserved an order of membership into the club. after all, some credit should be granted to those who came up with the idea first -- a sort of first among equals. no extra powers. just glory! 🤣

order of membership is by order of posting -- after me! 'cause my calling card is:

estee
first member
the "i-hate-prem" club
"where drooling is our birthright and we-who-hate shall have it"

the last is the club tagline. the second last is our club name. (this tagline is only a suggested one. all cooler taglines are welcome.) the only thing you can't touch in your calling card are the first two lines in mine. those are taken. 🤣 *and no, you can't be the zero-th member. the first is the first. i'm firm on this.*

any questions will be happily answered given time and ability to do so.

Edited by estee - 15 years ago

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PurplePantsuit

@PurplePantsuit

Rocker

Posted: 16 years ago

the questionnaire: is the i-hate-prem club for you?

only you can decide whether you want to give hpclub a try ' whether you think it can help you.

the hpclub came together because i finally gave up trying to control epe/ephe symptoms. i had all those brain nuclear-whiteouts during the show. bu ti still hated to admit that i could never watch the show safely. then i came to understand -- through intense meditation and self-questioning -- that i have a problem. that understanding was my first step to getting back control!

what was remarkable about my researching this was learning that others suffered from the same feelings of guilt and loneliness and hopelessness that i did. and i found out that we all had these feelings because we had a medical disease, the disease of epe/ephe.

i decided to try and face up to what prem has done to me. out of my meditation, i have come up with some of the questions. i have tried to answer honestly. if more than four questions are answered yes, then you are in deep trouble with your epe/ephe-symptoms. see how you do. remember, there is no disgrace in facing up to the fact that you have a problem. and this spot in internet-space is for us to all help each other *halo coming up big time...*

answer yes or no to the following questions.

1 - have you ever decided to stop seeing the show for a week or so, but only lasted for a couple of days?

yes/no

2 - do you wish people would mind their own business about your seeing the show-- stop telling you what to do?

(in the hpclub, we do not tell anyone to do anything. we just talk about our own epe-symptoms -- of which there could be multiple forms, with multiple intensity - share the drool, and how we learn to rationalise it. we will be glad to help you, if you want us to.)

yes/no

3 - have you ever switched from another show in the hope that this would keep you from wanting to get back to drooling?

(you've tried all kinds of ways. you call prem names. or just watch someone else on another show. or only see the shows downloaded on the computer (rather than in clear dth transmissions on a 38 inch tv
screen.) you name it, you've tried it. but eventually? eventually, you come back to drool!)

yes/no

4 - has prem caused trouble at home with the family -- of any sort?

yes/no

5 - do you find yourself watching scenes with prem over and over again, to fill the time till the next time you can get "some prem/prem-heer"?

yes/no

6 - do you tell yourself you can stop watching prem any time you want to, even though you keep watching the show even when you don't mean to?

yes/no

7 - have you missed hours of work or school because of epe/ephe?

yes/no

8 - do you have "brain nuclear whiteouts"?

(a "nuclear whiteout" is when you're peacefully watching the show and prem/prem-heer comes on and does "their thang" and suddenly you don't remember where you are, where you've been, what you're doing on the
floor lying in a pool of drool. in some extreme cases, you don't remember who you are, or worse! who your mother is! 😲)

yes/no

9 - have you ever felt that your life would be better if you did not have epe?

(many of us started drooling over prem, 'cause we felt that life was better that way, at least for a while. by the time you got to this club, you are feeling trapped in all that drool. you are now watching prem/prem-heer to drool and drooling to watch prem/prem-heer. and you, your family, your washing machine are tired of all that drool.)

yes/no

------------- end of questionnaire ---------------

did you answer yes four or more times? did you answer no to the last question (#9)?

if so, you are probably in trouble with epe/ephe symptoms. but only you can decide whether you think the i-hate-prem club is for you. try to keep an open mind on the subject. we would be glad to show you how we learnt how to control the effect of epe -- and here, we will be the first to admit -- if we only learnt how. so far, the research has been the lonely effort of the first member (*sob!*). but over time, there have been tentative and interested queries from other souls, who are beginning to notice all that drool, some of the whiteouts, missing parts of their brain. perhaps, with more effort, concentrated on this effort, we will start taking the first baby steps in learning how to recognise and control the symptoms of epe/ephe. so that our families will no longer be ashamed of us when they come out with us in public. or it will no longer be so hard for us to go out into public for fear that we may suddenly come upon some prem/prem-heer thing and suddenly collapse with the dreaded epe/ephe symptoms!

we do not promise to solve these symptoms -- but we may learn to learn to live with them - together!

(note: the source of the structure of this questionnaire and post has been the wonderful material that alcoholics anonymous has up on their website. that is an organisation that has been of tremendous use to people all over the world! in dealing with the disease of alcoholism. and this is my salute to that organisation. i mean no disrespect to aa in having put together this questionnaire. to the contrary, i am only following the adage that "mimicry is the most sincere form of flattery." )

Edited by estee - 16 years ago

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PurplePantsuit

@PurplePantsuit

Rocker

Posted: 16 years ago

reserved parking space for:

estee
first member
the "i-hate-prem" club
"where drooling is our birthright and we-who-hate shall have it"

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Raisa

@Raisa25

Dazzler

Posted: 16 years ago

Ohhhhh esteee my dear...Can't thank you enough for this wonderful post!
I'm still reading haven't finnished! The way you defended PREM is like WOWWW, Superb!

Very needed post....I mean how could they...hate prem...Is there is any person on earth who can hate him?? IMPOSSIBLE!

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PurplePantsuit

@PurplePantsuit

Rocker

Posted: 16 years ago

*standing in front of an empty thread nervously, and trying to speak through a very tight throat, which is difficult to clear suddenly*

um... hi, i'm estee. i'm the idiot who first understood that i had epe/ephe -- but it only came when i noticed the more extreme form -- ie, a brain whiteout. until then, i spent many a happy hour, after show episodes, having (drool-filled)-giggling sessions with prem-crazy pals. drooling while commenting on episode analysis by misty and vibha. not even noticing the number of keyboard replacements that i was asking my mother for, when the drool pool shorted out the delicate circuitry under the keyboard. something that my frowning-in-suspicion mom noticed before i did.

but then... then 19th june 2008 happened. and even at the end of that episode, i hadn't noticed the whiteout. it was only while writing the bt,lt and i came to writing the part where prem -- drenched with rain, in a white shirt that was plastered all over those broad shoulders and ... uh ... torso looking so much like michelangelo's david that it should've instantly screamed warnings in my brain. 'cause when it came to writing that part, my fingers stopped. i realised that i didn't remember quite how the episode ended!! all i could remember was prem -- wet, wild, restrained, red hot in blue light, smoking while dripping water -- and heer -- pale, her eyes resolutely not leaving his, shaking, yielding -- and nothing, nothing, nothing after! what the hel... heck! said i to myself, frowning for the first time. what happened between 8:55pm and 9:25pm?? (when i found myself at the dinner table with mom, smiling vacuously as she threw me a towel and asked me to wipe my face)

yes, that was the first whiteout ever. the first moment that i realised that i hated prem. that i had epe and possibly ephe. after then, i've tried very hard to watch the shows with a heavy metallic helmet. but even then, epe/ephe (particularly the latter!) have struck and i've lost brain time. (how was i to know that prem-falls-sick-in-the-rain and soap-suds day would follow immediately after!?)

that's when i started researching such a problem. and came up with these questions.
my score: 6/9
my answers:

1 - have you ever decided to stop seeing the show for a week or so, but only lasted for a couple of days?

yes/no (my not watching the show was situational -- i never ever decided to watch the show.)

2 - do you wish people would mind their own business about your seeing the show-- stop telling you what to do?

(in the hpclub, we do not tell anyone to do anything. we just talk about our own epe-symptoms -- of which there could be multiple forms, with multiple intensity - share the drool, and how we learn to rationalise it. we will be glad to help you, if you want us to.)

yes/no (no one actually has. but my hackles are rising at the very thought!)

3 - have you ever switched from another show in the hope that this would keep you from wanting to get back to drooling?

(you've tried all kinds of ways. you call prem names. or just watch someone else on another show. or only see the shows downloaded on the computer (rather than in clear dth transmissions on a 38 inch tv
screen.) you name it, you've tried it. but eventually? eventually, you come back to drool!)

yes/no (bleagh! another show for prem-heer??! bleagh!!)

4 - has prem caused trouble at home with the family -- of any sort?

yes/no (ugh! yes. my mom has lifted her right eyebrow at me on three occasions, all 'cause of this show. in my family, that's trouble of humongous proportions!)

5 - do you find yourself watching scenes with prem over and over again, to fill the time till the next time you can get "some prem/prem-heer"?

yes/no (no, but not 'cause i didn't want to. my eyes are too weak to take too much viewing. so i can't figure out how weak my brain is! *sigh*)

6 - do you tell yourself you can stop watching prem any time you want to, even though you keep watching the show even when you don't mean to?

yes/no (*sigh* yes. yes. yes why do you think my project group dislikes me intensely and might actually be strategising to get me out of the group? if only i wasn't so good - heh, heh, heh!)

7 - have you missed hours of work or school because of epe/ephe?

yes/no (*shamefaced but honest* yes. big time. )

8 - do you have "brain nuclear whiteouts"?

(a "nuclear whiteout" is when you're peacefully watching the show and prem/prem-heer comes on and does "their thang" and suddenly you don't remember where you are, where you've been, what you're doing on the
floor lying in a pool of drool. in some extreme cases, you don't remember who you are, or worse! who your mother is! 😲)

yes/no (yes, damnit! i just had a minor whiteout while writing at which episode i had my first whiteout! damnit!!!! i hate prem! *breathe in, breathe out. calm... icy calm. 'kay, better now..*)

9 - have you ever felt that your life would be better if you did not have epe?

(many of us started drooling over prem, 'cause we felt that life was better that way, at least for a while. by the time you got to this club, you are feeling trapped in all that drool. you are now watching prem/prem-heer to drool and drooling to watch prem/prem-heer. and you, your family, your washing machine are tired of all that drool.)

yes/no (the right answer should've been yes! so this is a count towards a epe/ephe score.

see why i hate prem? i have a disease and i still don't think my life'd be better with out the virus! darnit! 😆)

anyone else? 😆

estee
first member
the "i-hate-prem" club
"where drooling is our birthright and we-who-hate shall have it"

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preety

@ChulbuliRao

Dazzler

+ 6

Posted: 16 years ago

OMG mind blowing mail......estee we really needed this to keep going.....thanxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

1 - have you ever decided to stop seeing the show for a week or so, but only lasted for a couple of days?

yes/no (even if my sane mind says no my eyes and hands , which hold the remote or for that matter mouse take over and i end up watchin it...so no coordination bet my mind and other organs)

2 - do you wish people would mind their own business about your seeing the show-- stop telling you what to do?

(in the hpclub, we do not tell anyone to do anything. we just talk about our own epe-symptoms -- of which there could be multiple forms, with multiple intensity - share the drool, and how we learn to rationalise it. we will be glad to help you, if you want us to.)

yes/no (my family is always after me...they say watching downloads the whole day is not it...omg i watch it till the serial is aired then i have to disucss...tell me is it too much...huh)

3 - have you ever switched from another show in the hope that this would keep you from wanting to get back to drooling?

(you've tried all kinds of ways. you call prem names. or just watch someone else on another show. or only see the shows downloaded on the computer (rather than in clear dth transmissions on a 38 inch tv
screen.) you name it, you've tried it. but eventually? eventually, you come back to drool!)

yes/no (bleagh! another show for prem-heer??! bleagh!!)i agreee wid u here

4 - has prem caused trouble at home with the family -- of any sort?

yes/no (ugh! yes. but now i have become a chikna ghada....that's what they all call me now....nothing comes between prem and me....or rather premheer and me

5 - do you find yourself watching scenes with prem over and over again, to fill the time till the next time you can get "some prem/prem-heer"?

yes/no (really can't help it....there are lots of things which need to be done but i am glued to the forum or tv....*)

6 - do you tell yourself you can stop watching prem any time you want to, even though you keep watching the show even when you don't mean to?

no...never tried yet

7 - have you missed hours of work or school because of epe/ephe?

yes/no (*shamefaced but honest* yes. big time. i am jobless right now...i am supposed to be working since college is over.....but i can't bring myself to chk out jobs at the cost of prem heer...i know it shudn't be but i can't help it....)

8 - do you have "brain nuclear whiteouts"?

(a "nuclear whiteout" is when you're peacefully watching the show and prem/prem-heer comes on and does "their thang" and suddenly you don't remember where you are, where you've been, what you're doing on the
floor lying in a pool of drool. in some extreme cases, you don't remember who you are, or worse! who your mother is! 😲)

oooooh yes it is always the case)

9 - have you ever felt that your life would be better if you did not have epe?

(many of us started drooling over prem, 'cause we felt that life was better that way, at least for a while. by the time you got to this club, you are feeling trapped in all that drool. you are now watching prem/prem-heer to drool and drooling to watch prem/prem-heer. and you, your family, your washing machine are tired of all that drool.)

yes/no actually there was no life before i contacted this beautiful disease.and believe me i don't like eggse bu tnow eggs are a regular feature of my bfast and i am on a lookuot for the recipes which have eggs in it...

i know i am gone ....

see why i hate prem? i have a disease and i still don't think my life'd be better with out the virus! darnit! 😆)i agree wid u estee

anyone else? 😆

chulbulli

second A member(andhara... i was editing my post when u POSTED UR ANSWERS...so i am putiiing myself as second A...u continue with second )
the "i-hate-prem" club
"where drooling is our birthright and we-who-hate shall have it"

i hate you (prem)from the bottom of my heart... and i hate u even more when u take bath with a white shirt on....ohhh...mama mia here i go again...

my my how can i resist u

I've been cheated (hooked)by you since I don't know when
So I made up my mind, it must come to an end
Look at me now, will I ever learn?
I don't know how but I suddenly lose control
There's a fire within my soul
Just one look and I can hear a bell ring
One more look and I forget everything, o-o-o-oh(i hate u i hate u)

Mamma mia, here I go again
My my, how can I resist you?
Mamma mia, does it show again?
My my, just how much I've missed you
Yes, I've been brokenhearted
Blue since the day we parted(till ekta will do us part)
Why, why did I ever let you go?
Mamma mia, now I really know,
My my, I could never let you go

Edited by chullbulli - 16 years ago

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Aradhna

@Anhdara13

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 16 years ago

Finally E! I've needed this.. sigh..

First realised I had epe/ephe when I would come home from school/before school grill my mother for details on the show, then immediately come to the forum to read/watch the updates, read Vibha's analysis and E's BT/LT.. (so many things E said rang true..) slowly the fascination I had for Prem-Heer relationship turned into frustration as the two started invading my thoughts during the day (do you have any idea how many plot bunnies I've got running around in my head? I've lost count..) and even my dreams at night!

Wet-shirt-Prem, Prem confronting Heer, and most recently 9/11 Prem/Heer are some of the best examples of when the symptoms of ephe come forward very obviously.. I've stopped watching the show in the same room as my mother, or anyone actually..

the questionnaire: is the i-hate-prem club for you?

answer yes or no to the following questions.

1 - have you ever decided to stop seeing the show for a week or so, but only lasted for a couple of days?

yes/no (I wanted to focus on school.. yeah, that worked out so well.. *shakes head in resignation*)

2 - do you wish people would mind their own business about your seeing the show-- stop telling you what to do?

(in the hpclub, we do not tell anyone to do anything. we just talk about our own epe-symptoms -- of which there could be multiple forms, with multiple intensity - share the drool, and how we learn to rationalise it. we will be glad to help you, if you want us to.)

yes/no (my mother tells me that I'm obsessed with it.. I hate missing an episode, always asking her if she'd seen it.. and I've been trying to convert some friends into watching the show..)

3 - have you ever switched from another show in the hope that this would keep you from wanting to get back to drooling?

(you've tried all kinds of ways. you call prem names. or just watch someone else on another show. or only see the shows downloaded on the computer (rather than in clear dth transmissions on a 38 inch tv
screen.) you name it, you've tried it. but eventually? eventually, you come back to drool!)

yes/no (there's nothing else on at that time... I've checked..)

4 - has prem caused trouble at home with the family -- of any sort?

yes/no (my mom looks at me weird when I talk about the show.. and I think my cousins' have figured out, or are suspicious of my epe/ephe)

5 - do you find yourself watching scenes with prem over and over again, to fill the time till the next time you can get "some prem/prem-heer"?

yes/no (YouTube.. it's both a curse and a blessing)

6 - do you tell yourself you can stop watching prem any time you want to, even though you keep watching the show even when you don't mean to?

yes/no (I'm supposed to study darnit!)

7 - have you missed hours of work or school because of epe/ephe?

yes/no (*see above*)

8 - do you have "brain nuclear whiteouts"?

(a "nuclear whiteout" is when you're peacefully watching the show and prem/prem-heer comes on and does "their thang" and suddenly you don't remember where you are, where you've been, what you're doing on the floor lying in a pool of drool. in some extreme cases, you don't remember who you are, or worse! who your mother is! 😲)

yes/no (I never realise when anyone walks into the room while I'm watching them... can get pretty embarassing..)

9 - have you ever felt that your life would be better if you did not have epe?

(many of us started drooling over prem, 'cause we felt that life was better that way, at least for a while. by the time you got to this club, you are feeling trapped in all that drool. you are now watching prem/prem-heer to drool and drooling to watch prem/prem-heer. and you, your family, your washing machine are tired of all that drool.)

yes/no (this is not good! we need to research this.. now!)

------------- end of questionnaire ---------------

*hyperventilating* I never thought it was this severe! 8/9! 8!!!! *breathe in, breathe out* I'm in shock.. give me a second..

darnit, I've got Prem on the brain, I can't think of anything! (isn't that telling of how severe my epe/eohe is though..)

*sigh*

Anhdara

second member/E's assistant

the "i-hate-prem" club

"where drooling is our birthright and we-who-hate shall have it"

we hate Prem, yes we do, we hate Prem, how about you?

*oh-kay chulbulli! If you want me to change it, let me know!*

Edited by Anhdara13 - 16 years ago

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vandana

@VandyP

Trailblazer

+ 6

Posted: 16 years ago

Originally posted by: estee
the questionnaire: is the i-hate-prem club for you?

only you can decide whether you want to give hpclub a try ' whether you think it can help you.

the hpclub came together because i finally gave up trying to control epe/ephe symptoms. i had all those brain nuclear-whiteouts during the show. bu ti still hated to admit that i could never watch the show safely. then i came to understand -- through intense meditation and self-questioning -- that i have a problem. that understanding was my first step to getting back control!

what was remarkable about my researching this was learning that others suffered from the same feelings of guilt and loneliness and hopelessness that i did. and i found out that we all had these feelings because we had a medical disease, the disease of epe/ephe.

i decided to try and face up to what prem has done to me. out of my meditation, i have come up with some of the questions. i have tried to answer honestly. if more than four questions are answered yes, then you are in deep trouble with your epe/ephe-symptoms. see how you do. remember, there is no disgrace in facing up to the fact that you have a problem. and this spot in internet-space is for us to all help each other *halo coming up big time...*

answer yes or no to the following questions.

1 - have you ever decided to stop seeing the show for a week or so, but only lasted for a couple of days?

yes/no no
2 - do you wish people would mind their own business about your seeing the show-- stop telling you what to do?

(in the hpclub, we do not tell anyone to do anything. we just talk about our own epe-symptoms -- of which there could be multiple forms, with multiple intensity - share the drool, and how we learn to rationalise it. we will be glad to help you, if you want us to.)

yes/no yes

3 - have you ever switched from another show in the hope that this would keep you from wanting to get back to drooling?

(you've tried all kinds of ways. you call prem names. or just watch someone else on another show. or only see the shows downloaded on the computer (rather than in clear dth transmissions on a 38 inch tv
screen.) you name it, you've tried it. but eventually? eventually, you come back to drool!)

yes/no no

4 - has prem caused trouble at home with the family -- of any sort?

yes/no yes lots with my husband

5 - do you find yourself watching scenes with prem over and over again, to fill the time till the next time you can get "some prem/prem-heer"?

yes/no yes a zillion times

6 - do you tell yourself you can stop watching prem any time you want to, even though you keep watching the show even when you don't mean to?

yes/no never

7 - have you missed hours of work or school because of epe/ephe?

yes/no yes

8 - do you have "brain nuclear whiteouts"?

(a "nuclear whiteout" is when you're peacefully watching the show and prem/prem-heer comes on and does "their thang" and suddenly you don't remember where you are, where you've been, what you're doing on the
floor lying in a pool of drool. in some extreme cases, you don't remember who you are, or worse! who your mother is! 😲)

yes/no yes quite often

9 - have you ever felt that your life would be better if you did not have epe?

(many of us started drooling over prem, 'cause we felt that life was better that way, at least for a while. by the time you got to this club, you are feeling trapped in all that drool. you are now watching prem/prem-heer to drool and drooling to watch prem/prem-heer. and you, your family, your washing machine are tired of all that drool.)

yes/no no

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did you answer yes four or more times? did you answer no to the last question (#9)?

if so, you are probably in trouble with epe/ephe symptoms. but only you can decide whether you think the i-hate-prem club is for you. try to keep an open mind on the subject. we would be glad to show you how we learnt how to control the effect of epe -- and here, we will be the first to admit -- if we only learnt how. so far, the research has been the lonely effort of the first member (*sob!*). but over time, there have been tentative and interested queries from other souls, who are beginning to notice all that drool, some of the whiteouts, missing parts of their brain. perhaps, with more effort, concentrated on this effort, we will start taking the first baby steps in learning how to recognise and control the symptoms of epe/ephe. so that our families will no longer be ashamed of us when they come out with us in public. or it will no longer be so hard for us to go out into public for fear that we may suddenly come upon some prem/prem-heer thing and suddenly collapse with the dreaded epe/ephe symptoms!

we do not promise to solve these symptoms -- but we may learn to learn to live with them - together!

(note: the source of the structure of this questionnaire and post has been the wonderful material that alcoholics anonymous has up on their website. that is an organisation that has been of tremendous use to people all over the world! in dealing with the disease of alcoholism. and this is my salute to that organisation. i mean no disrespect to aa in having put together this questionnaire. to the contrary, i am only following the adage that "mimicry is the most sincere form of flattery." )

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only.asking

@only.asking

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

Estee, you are incredible.... you have put up a post on hating prem just when everyone is feeling sad about prem dying and harshad leaving?? how could you??

Sorry, I don't hate prem... I admire him... but I don't thikn i love him either... (almost all my answers to the questionnaire was no 😆) Instead, I have a love-hate relation with this forum... i love people here.... i used to come here to read vibha's and yours posts after the episodes... i do updates because melissa can't. So if you ever start a hate-kdmhmd-@if.com club, please tell me....😆

good luck with this club. i would like to ask.only😆 one thing - when prem dies in the show, what will this club do? how can you do your research? how will you benefit society? aren't you worried?