serious problem...

Girl, ive got this to say to you.

• Call him. You never know how things turn out... maybe ull end up being best friends and nothing more but it'll be the best relationship in ur life... then again maybe ull end up telling ur grandchildren how u met up on that first night in Paris.
• I know that can be hard cause ur not living in the same city... but as I said before... u might just end up being really good friends and thats important sometimes!
• I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOOOOO Idea why youre with this other guy. Three years is way too long. If sparks arent still rising then be happy u havent already married him and walk off. Theres so many more oppurtunity in the boy market! Be with someone thats rite for u... and do this guy a favour and let him find the girl he needs...

Honestly its so obvious this relationship isnt going anywhere. So what if uve wasted the last three years, stop wasting more! Besides... u havent wasted them cuz theyve given u the experience and knowledge to make ur next relationship perfect!

Read Your story, as far as I think this was like one night stand. I visit so many foreign countries all the time. I have seen these locals or people from other parts just to have fun pick on lonely girls to spend few hours with. This is only a phase of thinking which will pass with the time. I donot think your relationship with this guy you were with in Paris going to go anywhere. When you ring he might even tell you he does not remember anything, he might be a married man but wanted something on the side. There are so many possibities. Did he tell you he had a girlfriend or a partner, I donot think so. Donot spoil your relations with your own boyfriend here try to work out your relationship with him. These casual love affairs end up in disasters and heart breaks. Rest is up with you my friend. Good luck and best wishes.

Originally posted by: simranbibek

Guys please help me...i am really in problem now.Well... let me start from the begining.I am not single.I have my bf and we are almost 3 yrs together but we donot share that good times with each other. we are two different people with different thinkin so all we do when we meet is to fight and discuss on almost everything but yet we are staying with each other because we donot want our 3 yrs to be wasted and there is still some luv in our hearts but that is not the problem..problem is

Last month i went to paris for my cultural show and there i met this amazing guy.We really became so close in so short time.He was just too amazing.After the show we went to cinema and like whole night walking in that roads of paris was so romantic.It was strange but i was feeling so complete with him.He used to make me laugh with his chilly pranks.And he was so understanding and caring.I donot know but i really had so strange feelings with him and that night we ended up kissin each other......

I am back now.I have not having contact with him but i am feeling strange.Inspite feeling guilty i am missin him so much.missing those times which i shared with him.I donot know what should i do..???i have his nummer but i donot dare to call him...and wat about my bf...??????? I feel like i have cheated someone who loves me so much but i donot know what is happening with me....????I donot regret anything.Infact deep in my heart i thank god for that day with him.I know i am going mad.I cannot figur out what is happening with me...?? God,is this normal ?????...should i let go my 3 yrs old relationship for him.......???please help please......

After reading your problem, it reminded me of a friend. She went through something like this. Let me break it down....

1. The main issue is you and your boyfriend. Does he feel the same way you are feeling? I think it's really important for both of you to sit down and talk about your relationship and where you guys think it's heading. It's very important for you guys to communicate with each other, otherwise you will continue to feel miserable. Maybe you both still love each other and need to talk things thorugh. At the same time, maybe it's time to move on....

2. The guy you met in Paris.....who knows what it really is. There could be a possibility that you guys can have something. However, we often confuse lust for love. Both are intense.....but lust doesn't last for long. My friend thought she felt the same about a guy she met but it turned out that it was nothing for keeps. Don't through away anything for something that might not even be real.

3. Follow your heart. Only you can decide what is best for you so just listen to that inner voice. And it's not about wasting 3 years. I'm sure those three years are special, therefore can never be wasted. However, if it's not meant to be with your boyfriend, you can't waste your life trying to be happy. As for the other guy, it's way too premature for it to be anything substantial at the moment. Maybe you were simply looking for that moment of escape. But like I said......follow your heart.

Take care.