Originally posted by: EkPaheli
The word is absolutely bang on - Distortians, as thatâs exactly what they are. Just because they donât understand something or find it offensive or wrong for their own reasons they will say absolutely anything and justify their absurd ideas right from symbols they donât like to the idea that women are born and canât be made by chopping off manly parts no matter how much one wants to pretend.
I believe all our ancestors had a valid reason for anything and everything they came up with including the jewellery the women wore. They ranged from economic, practical to health reasons which they will conveniently ignore to justify their own beliefs.
They claim that men donât wear these things so itâs forced patriarchy but itâs a load of BS.
From an evolutionary standpoint, men and women have developed differently physically, psychologically, socially and emotionally. The way we dress, what we eat, the languages we speak, read and write may change but some things never will.
Take a modern day lifestyle for example. Even now, in an era where we are not hunter gatherers as is believed today we were once by modern scientists and scholars the world over, can you deny it that even now women associate status symbols very strongly with what they can wear and carry be it branded clothes, bags, shoes, perfumes, makeup and articles of a personal nature including jewellery even if itâs a lone solitaire that they chose to sport to the kind of places they can flaunt their wealth in social settings. Women even now need to carry their status in terms of the way they look, dress and feel.
Men maybe absolutely loaded but you can find them wearing the most basic T-shirts and jeans with very practical shoes and a wallet that looks no different than the ones that they carried before or the ones carried by their fathers before them. They donât tend to fixate on the styling never changing much or the colours being limited, somber and boring with no innovation since the invention of the modern day wallet barring one or two tweaks every couple of decades.
But show me a wealthy man who wouldnât want to buy property, invest in assets, in gadgets and services that they find merit in. He may not care about his looks but if heâs buying cars, bikes or even horses, he would pamper them like his babies and give them the best. You canât tell a well off man he shouldnât invest in properties, automobiles and gadgets but wear better clothes, get some jewellery for himself and he will likely think youâre nuts, high or joking.
Itâs 2026 and this is the case even now.
Go back a couple of centuries, maybe more than a millennia ago, think of a different era with a different lifestyle where men tended to either be kings, farmers, warriors, priests or doing chores of other kinds like potters, cobblers, artisans etc. while women tended to be inclined to be the homemakers.
Men would have to do the physical chores that could range from ploughing fields to literally going to wars; women would be at home to cook, clean, raise children. Now⌠tell me would it be practical to expect men to don jewellery in these times or women?
Men equated their status with immovable property and assets since the beginning of time and women were entrusted with the movable form of the same. The wealth a man accumulated would pass down from father to son - immovable wealth going to the sons who stayed in the same lineage. The wealth that can move would be distributed among the daughters who married into other families and the daughters who married into our own families and became bahus. Daughters left their lineages to establish ties elsewhere and created their families with their husbands. Sons were expected to stay and continue their lineage with their wives and have as many heirs as possible to ensure that the family lives on.
We equate women with Maa Lakshmi and sheâs literally called Chanchala - literally the name means she whoâs ever moving. Hence the wealth that women carried would be the sort that they could literally carry on themselves and move around.
Itâs also why when times are good men buy jewellery for their wives and daughters, because they know that if tough times fall these can act as a sort of insurance for the family regardless of whether the men were themselves around for the same or not.
These idiots would malign everything but fail to understand that there are reasons for everything.
Let me give you one last example - do you know why Mehendi is applied to women before marriage across the Indian subcontinent? We follow the tradition even now but have forgotten its origins.
Mehendi is made from crushing the leaves of the Heena plant and in ancient times you had to do it with a mortar and pestle. Add the other things and you have your Mehendi ready.
Ever noticed how itâs always cool on the skin when applied? How it tends to darken overtime and smells absolutely divine? The darkening agents are also literally either cloves that are wrapped up in a bundle and heated until they can do their magic or the aromatic eucalyptus oil which tends to be soothing and relaxing or lime and sugar which are two ingredients that we use for making a fresh lime soda in summers?
The Mehendi has been scientifically proven to have ingredients that help calm our nerves by the herbs in them, the darkening agents help the same.
What does an anxious bride need more than anything? To calm her nerves - hence the Mehendi. Apply it to hands and legs, where most of our nerves are concentrated and use intricate, beautiful patterns to make the most of it and give it an aesthetic appearance while ensuring that the bride can sit in one spot for a long time without being distracted or jittery or anxious.
So⌠yeah, I wish people would stop listening to these absolute morons whose opinions are just garbage.
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