Megha Barsenge Episode Discussion Thread. -2 DT Note Page8 and Page93 - Page 111

Dal khichadi khaayi hai na sabne....waise hai abhi sab kuch yaha.....MB = Dal khichadi without any tadka.....they think they added tadka but nahi.....

Anyways.....back to my song....

You know in marriages of India, there doesn't exist the concept of love, child being symbol of love is farfetched. She's getting blamed for choosing her child while the same set would have blamed her for aborting her child. SR se hone wale saare bacche symbol of love nahi hote, fyi. As I said, baccha Megha ka bhi hai, she's carrying that child, and she shouldn't be shamed for choosing her child over Arjun, Manoj whoever and their relationship.

As for Arjun being divorcee and Megha keeping his ex's child, you have watched Ghum 3 naa. The plot was same. The FL chose the divorcee man's child and accepted the divorcee as her husband. Anyway it's everytime expected from woman to sacrifice, and compromise.

As I said, I can't explain or educate people who doesn't want to be educated or change their thoughts. I hope one day you learn that not everything happens according to what we want, especially for girls and you get someone who has no past relationship. Because explaining Megha's situation and morality to you is futile because you can't see her POV.

Originally posted by: AninditaB

What's doing with Megha's moral for choosing her child and loving Arjun? Her kid is legimate, it is not due to adulterous relationship. At the end it should be and it is Megha's decision to keep the child or not. Not Arjun's, Not Manoj’s. Anyway I am fed up of explaining this part again and again. I don't get how a woman's moral is judged basis on the decision they take for their body. The baby has her genes too!!

There is nothing wrong in mother choosing her baby over everything even over her husband and marriage in normal cases.

But its looks kinda bad and morally wrong in megha's case because she is not having baby with her current husband. She got married to arjun, even fell in love with him, wanted a fresh start,gave him hope and then she chooses her baby with her ex evil husband over everything.

She doesn't considers current husband's feelings, their future, his family's wishes, her own family's wishes, fights with everyone, even have to stay away from her husband...all this trouble...i mean all this because she chose her baby. Tha same baby who any normal person would have easily associated with trauma, abuse, hasrdhips and near death situations caused by criminal evil ex husband and would not have thought a second more before deciding to abort it, to concentrate on her current relationship and happiness and bright future.

So, believe it or not but megha is super f**ked up in brain to chose this baby. Even if she was not married to Arjun and she had found out about this baby then also any normal woman would have decided to abort it for the same reasons of it being a symbol of trauma but at that time atleast she was single and it will be only her life which would be messed up by her decision and Arjun would be at liberty to know everything and take a well informed, well thought decision.

But she chose to have ex's baby after she is re married. Kinda emotionally blackmailed him into accepting it. Its very very problematic, stupid and selfish decision.

I am not watching show anymore. This whole baby track ruined it for me. Ever since then I have stopped watching because it was very triggering for me to see that stupid woman on screen.

So I may come across as bad and insentive person for bashing megha so much but it is what it is, she and her manoj ji ki pyar ki nishani ruined the show for me.

Ok, i stop my rant here.

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Andy what is there to educate.... actually it got over my head but still close buddy so haan.....You wanna say feel for Megha and leave Arjun....morality and side is of a woman who emotionally blackmailed not just husband even her dad for an unborn child of a sham, but not aborting which many do in real life for xyz reasons.....

Can we pls be 1% neutral enough and instead of expecting a guy to give up everytime for relationship after so much he did just expect this- a normal thing from a wife to not force her baggage.....and start afresh....if it's really big for you then sorry sis I don't believe in such toxic goals.....

As I said aur main repeat nhi kar sakta there is big difference between a single mother and a woman who got pregnant after second marriage.....pta nhi how you are comparing it with ghum....was Ashika pregnant after Saraj's marriage let aside it was deal and Savi got her dreams completed along with love/ family and kid after a time.....here Megha can't tolerate even Mukta close to him when relationship is in a way void, pta nhi kya react karti if she was his ex and was carrying his bachcha....

Just few days back in ghum forum women were discussing how ITV treats male characters as if they don't have life to the extent of sperm donor wali treatment....and here I am discussing with you.....

I know it's meaningless fir bhi likh diya....Aadat se majbur....

And yes I didn't write message for further discussions just clarification....

We can't be on same page you know....there are cases where single mums were asked to leave their child here toh I am not even applying patriarchal roots....as I said before if Arjun had a lovely ex who got pregnant after Arha's marriage....main kabhi lecture nhi deta it's Arjun's child and ex's body, Megha is no one to interfere......it's father's call to carry on or not and wife to sacrifice whatever.....

Let aside my morals I don't believe a woman is allowed to give birth to a child of past relationship after her second marriage it's significance ended with the way it was....ye Arha and in between junior isn't my cup of tea.....

Consider me insensitive which I am not but I don't believe in motherhood/ fatherhood for a child still not in the picture is over your partner, relationship and family.....and if it is then pls leave that person, he/she will easily get a partner who will keep them priority....

You're literally insinuating that Megha had this child with Manoj after she was married with Arjun or to say she cheated Arjun with Manoj to have this child. No!! The news of existence of this child came after this marriage and nothing else. Arjun was informed that Megha is married even for a few days, so there was always a chance that the marriage was consummated. He knew before marrying that she can be pregnant, and I don't think so it would have detered him from not getting married with Megha..that's another tangent.

If Arjun had informed Megha that he has an ex with whom he's going to have a child, and she should take care of that,it should have been her decision to accept or not. Similar it was Arjun's decision to accept that baby and he did. Megha was to leave him because she also knew it was a big decision to take for Arjun but he accepted the baby and the deal is done. And tbh, keeping the baby or not should be woman's decision anyday because at the end a woman is either shamed or blamed for keeping or aborting it; men doesn't even go through what a woman goes through for such decisions.

Anyway it's futile to argue on this topic so let's agree to disagree. But one thing is that I won't tolerate Megha being character assassinated for choosing her baby or her being called immoral because of this .

Originally posted by: AninditaB

You're literally insinuating that Megha had this child with Manoj after she was married with Arjun or to say she cheated Arjun with Manoj to have this child. No!! The news of existence of this child came after this marriage and nothing else. Arjun was informed that Megha is married even for a few days, so there was always a chance that the marriage was consummated. He knew before marrying that she can be pregnant, and I don't think so it would have detered him from not getting married with Megha..that's another tangent.

If Arjun had informed Megha that he has an ex with whom he's going to have a child, and she should take care of that,it should have been her decision to accept or not. Similar it was Arjun's decision to accept that baby and he did. Megha was to leave him because she also knew it was a big decision to take for Arjun but he accepted the baby and the deal is done. And tbh, keeping the baby or not should be woman's decision anyday because at the end a woman is either shamed or blamed for keeping or aborting it; men doesn't even go through what a woman goes through for such decisions.

Anyway it's futile to argue on this topic so let's agree to disagree. But one thing is that I won't tolerate Megha being character assassinated for choosing her baby or her being called immoral because of this .

Now you are just diverting this topic somewhere else....characterless really man...main yahan hota if she was the one ???Whatever.....about Arjun he is doormat in the face of green forest as he handled her non sense almost till KP kaand even accepted her pregnancy....and don't try to protect Megha she emotionally blackmailed even her dad let aside car mein uske tantrums bechara only agreed for relationship..... #difference between them...

Woman's call again a big No....why some taane decides a man's rights in such decisions when he is a parent too???? ....Aur what values you are talking about even if Arjun wasn't in picture and Megha was chhori huwi aurat so what this kid was- a symbol of meaningless marriage by society....The only thing I will say go and ask any guy even women, majority will say it's non sense to carry ex ka child in second marriage (moral is a collective aspect Andy not a made up principle.... if you are in India seperation is taboo so you can't say I don't have problem of divorcees....family/ society doesn't consider it right).....same way here....

Problem isn't in you instead these FL dramas.....they have normalised a guy accepting his wife with ex relationship ki nishaani.....when it was must to show their differences and Arjun's pain....where Megha wasn't understanding par kya kare..... it's not neutral....

Originally posted by: Ashane25

Now you are just diverting this topic somewhere else....characterless really man...main yahan hota if she was the one ???Whatever.....about Arjun he is doormat in the face of green forest as he handled her non sense almost till KP kaand even accepted her pregnancy....and don't try to protect Megha she emotionally blackmailed even her dad let aside car mein uske tantrums bechara only agreed for relationship..... #difference between them...

Woman's call again a big No....why some taane decides a man's rights in such decisions when he is a parent too???? ....Aur what values you are talking about even if Arjun wasn't in picture and Megha was chhori huwi aurat so what this kid was- a symbol of meaningless marriage by society....The only thing I will say go and ask any guy even women, majority will say it's non sense to carry ex ka child in second marriage (moral is a collective aspect Andy not a made up principle.... if you are in India seperation is taboo so you can't say I don't have problem of divorcees....family/ society doesn't consider it right).....same way here....

Problem isn't in you instead these FL dramas.....they have normalised a guy accepting his wife with ex relationship ki nishaani.....when it was must to show their differences and Arjun's pain....where Megha wasn't understanding par kya kare..... it's not neutral....

We weren't made from society, society is made of us. If people living in a society accepts single women, don't shame them for having relationships, normalise having divorce, or understand what a woman goes through in an abusive marriage, then divorce or situations like chhori huwi aurat won't exist any day. Megha even if being a single mother shouldn't be shamed, because her child isn't illegitimate. She was married to Manoj in a legitimate ceremony in front of the whole "society". Husband accepting wife's previous marriage kids isn't a big deal, if you do some findings, you would find many situations and families are happy in such settings.

And yes I don't advocate Men's Right which includes bogus statements like No Seal No Deal, and Alimony being illegal because dowry is. You can't hold any one immoral only because the person doesn't conform to your moral standards. It is not a collective aspect but an individual one. What is right for you isn't right for everyone and won't be right for everyone. Ethics and morality are subjective not objective behavior.

Arjun had a past, and Megha is expected to accept it. Everyone around her is normalising it and expects her to be not jealous from the relationship and the fact that she's is bff even after he's married should be accepted by her but Megha having a child is immoral. The double standards here is the reason I won't ever be neutral.

Andy if you get pregnant after second marriage then certain things look very wrong....morals are of subjective nature with objective of balance in society....and here it was question on Megha why she emotionally manipulated things for her more than Arjun a sign of such marriage matters...don't connect it with Mukta I myself said they were wrong.....

And man- woman concept.... feminist get offended if a man says ghar- bachche tumhari zimmedari hai but yes when such inequality continuously lead to seperation and then courts give custody to them because of same mindset tab they don't complain, when it gives alimony (no support to dowry) other stuffs they don't complain, infact they marry second time and the guy looses everything do they even think then about suicidal rates of men.....it's hypocrisy whereas Men's civil rights never supported chauvinism....asking for virginity from your spouse is a big deal really ???

And yes pls normalisation of divorce is a virus for families....I have said before I don't want India to become like West and Europe.... Widow remarriage and toxic ka voidance is fine but not this.....What is the main difference between us and animals- values....we don't mate with 10 women....

I can discuss 1000 stuffs but you will never understand ki feminine propagandas harm male community in long run....