Originally posted by: checky88
I’m actually finding these scenes very triggersome. I think I’m better off skipping it. It just hurts to see the girl being shown as ‘Mahaan’ because in spite of all the atrocities bestowed upon her in that hellhole of a house - yet she loves them all selflessly.
It’s high time we reach our girls that that’s not needed. You can love selflessly where you are treated with respect . Where there is no respect there is no love. And where there is no love - there is no point is being selfless and forgiving - leave those roles to gods n angels. We’re human.
Living in a country where so many people have fought n fought for some semblance of equality these sort of scenes send the wrong message that this is how an ideal daughter/wife must be. And no it’s not!! its just so painful to watch this kind of messaging being sent out. 😔
Actually ye sare shows banaye hi isiliye jaate Hain ki jo thoda bahut kisi doormat mahila ke man me virodh ki khatpat ho wo band ho jaye. Ya jo "family"/"Sanskar" ke naam par galat kaam karte hain, unke man me agar thoda bhi (1%) bhi guilt ho wo khatm ho jaye.
Real life me to... System chahe jaisa ho (Aristocratic, democratic or whatever).. har society me manipulative log to apni position bana hi lete hain. Aur wo position kisi dusre ko doormat banakar hi hasil ki jati hai. Real life me so called sabse "sanskari" bahu/beti bhi dusri women ke liye bitchy hi hoti hai.
Jo sachmuch me selfless hai, just hai, wo jo man chahe wo kar le lekin "sanskari" kabhi nahi kahlati. Ye shows wahi upper caste families ki patriarchal thinking ko validate karne ke liye hai. Dusre castes ki patriarchy ki baat isliye nahi kar rhi kyonki unke issues to newspapers/police stations/courts me aksar pahunch hi jaate hain.
Here... In all these StarPlus shows... Kitna bhi serious crime ho, "maafi mange", "pitaai karne" tak hi keval kyo dikhaya jata hai? Koi jail bhi jata hai to agle din bail par chutne ke liye. Reason: "achhe/bhale ghar ke ladke/ladki apne Ghar ke bado (chahe wo kitne bade criminals ho) ko jail nahi bhejte!"
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