Originally posted by: sugz
Its like going into a 2nd marriage sincerely but you carry all your problems with you. Subconsciously you can be doing 2nd marriage to rectify the 1st. Experiences you take with you can help or worse 2nd marriage. I interpret that you are using 2nd marriage partner to heal wounds of 1st.
You get friends that use you 1 purpose like favour but you get friends that you dont know so well & they just hang onto you needing you at the time... deep frindship can come of it. This is what meant by using someone for real relationship compared to using someone for just 1 favour ( make someone you really love jelous)
Yeah get your point.
But I wont call 'subconscious' motives as 'using'. I would use 'using' for something that is done consciously / deliberately. Its said that we manipulate everyone around - our family and loved ones included, 'all the time' (even if we are not aware of it). So in that sense we are using people for our own gains all the time. But unless its deliberate... I don't call it using.. even if like you mentioned it is or at least can be.
So looking at the OG post from this pov - conscious (= using), unconscious / subconscious ( = not using):
Virat: was using Ammu to make his mom and family feel good by insulting her, was using her to get the deal in Goa, and arguable if he was using her to get rid of ex in Goa or back home.
Ammu: was using him to stay on the job, keep earning, even using apology as a tool for that. Other than that, I dont get another example where she was using him.. there can be a few more.
[The chem scenes - eyelocks and fall and holds... nope. they weren't deliberate... from her side (more like deliberate from the makers). Perhaps important to mention this else it can even be argued she used this to keep herself around Virat (like Babs accuses her of).]
Edited by Adiandsid - 1 years ago
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