Originally posted by: asmitamohanty
Sooo finally got time to read it.....a long reply to your long post...
Now first we all have to accept that Ani is a complex man....a very complex and layered Character...but no one would question his intention....He is a very very good hearted and well-intentioned man....
Firstly if he was selfish...he would have brought her to Kolkata...He didn't have any need to... Both of them decided that the marriage that they had as an escape ...is not going to decide anything for their life..now whatever happened in Kashmir would have stayed in Kashmir...He is not an idiot to not understand the complications it will give rise to in his life.He would have gone back and lived his life...but he couldn't....Bcz he is not a selfish man...he thought about that girl who has just lost her only family,her mother....Tejas was searching for her...and he assumed a sense of zimmedari on her...and brought her...
Now he did not bring him as his wife...as it was their mutual decision to not accept that marriage...she was his responsibility....and he was really commited to fulfill it...
His life was pretty simple on the surface before Jhanak coming to her life .Even his parents have exclaimed.." kya yeh hamara beta hai..." Means he never had any reasons to rebel against them or lie to them as he was always someone who lived exactly how they wanted him to live...He also happily did that as it gave him the attention and affection from his parents that he craved soo much since his childhood....
But bringing Jhanak was a very drastic change he brought in his pattern..the evil bose always had certain pre-conceived notions regarding jhanak bcz of the her birth and mother the influence of Shristi in that house and these things were enough for them to harbor hatred towards Jhanak....
After that whatever Ani did were just excuses for them.... otherwise they definitely would have found any other way to be mean towards her....bcz later when Ani decided to be rude to Jhanak as a pretense...still I don't think they were nice to her in anyway.....
About him choosing to lie to his family...then he had a life before meeting Jhanak...he had his own insecurities...he himself has been a victim of childhood PTSD....It is not only Jhanak who had a difficult life...it is Ani as well...who has dealt with neglect from parents, dealing with a cold mother....At least Jhanak had beautiful memories with her mother...Ani didn't have that...Yes Choton is closer to him..but we can definitely see that he is not that close to him....He himself built a personal of Aniruddh Bose... suppressing that child...and got their parents affection by paying that price....Yes...he lied...yes...you can say that he chose to avoid instead of facing the situations head-on...but he has done this all his life...He was a pacifist by creating a bridge Between two sides in his family...How are we expecting him to change all of a sudden....he was in a very difficult situation..but still somewhere he managed to support Jhanak and made her life as beautiful as possible.....
He definitely knows his family more than Jhanak does...so how he is choosing to deal with his family should not have been Jhanak's concern.....If she never considered herself his wife.....but the truth is she did deep down
In the initial episodes what stood out for me was the clarity that Ani always had.For him Jhanak was his "zimmedari"....at least he believed so...who was very very important to him but he used to say Arshi is his love...Thats why RuNak thrived on emotional intimacy..thereโs never any sexual tension initially as he was fully confident of himself that thatโs never going to happen. Now when I look back He trusted himself much more than Jhanak trusted herself in this matter...She had the emotional awareness to realise what it might lead to.but for him...his trust on himself was Evident because thereโs zero inner conflict or hesitation of any kind on his part while lying to her own people or even Arshi for Jhanak & her safety...bcz he had compartmentalized his life...and his conscience was clear that he was not doing anything drastically wrong here...just trying to keep everyone happy as it is a small thing..The sheer level of his candour in doing these things can come only from a total lack of guilt because heโs absolutely sure nothing untoward would happen...
And that's why I believe in the initial episodes he did not cheat Arshi...bcz he never thought that he is in love with Jhanak..he never knew himself to that extent....The moment he started understanding himself his demeanor changed......
Yes... lying to Arshi was wrong....and he is paying for that.....but I don't think he was cheating Arshi in the beginning...it is just that he did not know himself well...
But then things happened...Then gradually after going through so many ups and downs physical tension came into pictures..and when he finally confesses his feelings , not delving into who did what..but things went wrong.... terribly wrong...that today probably that fever night is something both of them are regretting probably...May be he thinks he crossed the line in the relationship by Confessing it or may be by falling in love only....
And I believe next day of the fever night...both of them were testing eachother...Ani was more concerned about if he made her uncomfortable....and awkward..So probably he started from the negetive route .. I am not defending him..but I don't think he was coward...it is just that he was waiting for Jhanak to give him a sign....
And Jhanak didn't give him that... I must say Jhanak confused him a lot...Last day confronting him about her haq...and how she felt bad for her Sindoor....then the moment Ani asked for clarity she said that she is not lalchi.... saying that she doesn't have any feelings for him....then how can Ani just assume that she loves him...
He didn't handle it in the best way... I agree..but that doesn't make him a self-centred coward.....
He fell for Jhanak when he was committed to Arshi...All his pride on himself was shattered....Sooo it is not a good emotion to go through when your trust is broken.... it is even worse when your trust on yourself is broken....He needed Jhanak's support to deal with the emotions at that moment...
And that's the issue that I had with the conversation between Jhanak and Ani...She spoke the truth...yes but the way she said them it actually pushed him more into that pit of self-shaming.... I have definitely issue with the way she spoke that day....Then he said that..if this is what you want then you will see how happy I am with your Arshi didi....For him it's again about Jhanak...he did not want Jhanak to think of him as someone who cheated on Arshi....Yes he took a flawed decision....His "performance" is what made things worse... I agree...but that doesn't mean that he thought if not Jhanak... I would take Arshi...It was much more complicated than that....he was trapped in the mess.....
And about Jhanak's lack of self-worth and self-esteem....yes it did escalate in BH..but it's root was always in her life with her mother in Kashmir... Her mother always projected her hard life and trauma on her...never gave her wings to fly but always cutting it off...She was physically abusing her in front of strangers...and you think her lower self esteem is only bcz of Ani....I don't think so....in Kashmir it didn't come to forefront because there she was with her mother.... and her own land it was..Which was exposed a lot after her coming to BH and yes...with all the trauma together it got worse...that I agree...
For that matter don't you think even Ani's confidence has taken a serious drop after him falling for Jhanak...... I think so... Their love for eachother have made both of them weak...in a way....
Sooo yes...Ani has done many mistakes....he needs to repent... rectify...for sure....A Character growth from him is what all of us want...but but..that doesn't mean he is selfish, deceitful or anything...He is just a very very good hearted flawed human-being trapped in a very complex situation...where for the first time he found a genuine connection but it came with a "forbidden" tag....In fact Kaash Ani thoda selfish hota ..toh life me thoda khush rehta....
That's what I feel for both our leads...it is not wrong to be a little selfish...
Beautifully written dear. The conversation which Janak had before Ani started his performance was not right. I mean though she said right things but the tone was really bad and made Ani remorseful. So in rage he took a wrong decision and created a mess. My heart still goes for Ani and I really hope he gets happiness what he deserves in his life.
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What a chemistry ๐ฅ 
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