Love vs attachment

What Arshi has for Ani is attachment and not love. When you are in love, you focus on making the other person happy. However, when you’re merely attached to someone, you’re focused upon the ways in which they can make you happy. You are heavily dependent on them for making you happy. If they do not fulfill your need you get angry at them. Attachment brings lot of controlling behavior.Love survives the passage of time whereas attachment is need fullfillment based. Attachment turn vile if needs are not fulfilled.

What about Ani? Did he love Arshi? We see him romantic, caring for Arshi, almost like a perfect partner. Is it all out of love? No. Yes, there is attraction, care, but not love. For Arshi, Ani is an instrument to bring her happiness and for Ani, being that intrument, being that person, who is solely responsible for someone's happiness is perceived as love.

In Ani- J relationship, it is the surrender of J ( which Arshi never did) that affected Ani. For the first time, someone was going out of the way to keep his wish. The first instance, which actually started Ani's journey towards J was when J refused revealing his name to the family after they found her red saree and even when she was intoxicated. She bore huge insults, emotional turmoil to protect him and never left house against his wish except once. Ani is always been used by people, but very few people left everything for him and J is that person.

However, Ani andJ's notions about what is good for each other are actual hurdles in them expressing their feelings. J thinks Ani loves Arshi (to some extent she has realized that Ani has feelings for her), also she knows Ani's family loves Arshi and hence by exiting Ani's life, she is making his life easier. For Ani, J's life is hell in his house and she is better away from it and also, he does not know that J loves him. He thinks J has or can develop feelings for Rahul. It it these factors in addition to outside villians that will take both of them on roller coaster ride of love realization.

Your thoughts are really beautifully written and apt.

Can you write on Bipasha? Shrishti's hatred makes sense, since she has a back story(not yet revealed). But who is this Bipasha who even orders around her mother-in-law, insults her uncle-in-law. She yells at everyone but if anyone tries to put her in place "aap mere se aise baath nahi kar sakte" and brings other vile people to support her.