Poddars woh matlab abhi tak jitne 4 seasons aye hai yeh rishta ke unn mai sabse zyada orthodox regressive family hai jo apni bahu ko sun mai khada bhi rakhta hai and unke uper hath bhi uthata hai. Previous 3 seasons mai kabhi yeh dekhne ko nahi mila tha. Muje yeh dadi pagal nahi lagti , control freak lagti hai . Ekdum controlling nature ki dadi hai.i know yar abhira is not over the top sanskari bahu but poddars bhi kahan insan hain har bat ka blame abhi py girta keu wohi ruhi kary tou wo theek ...esy tou nhi hota itni hy rules hain tou be equal for everyone 🙄... abhira agar suitable nhi es fam k liye tou ye kab bhi koi normal nhi duniya k pagal bhary hain esmy n sabsy badi mental dadi saa
Dekhnewali baat yeh hai ki Armaan and vidya ko dadi unko control kare uss baat se koi problem nahi hai. Unko dadi ke controlling nature se bhi pyar hai. Aise mai Armaan ki biwi ko yeh pasand nahi aa raha hai and woh chahti hai ki Armaan apna core nature change kare and dadi ko koi bhav na de.
Abhira is like main dadi ke controlling nature ko change kar ke chodugi , isiliye woh sahi-galat har tarike se dadi ko confront karti rehti hai chahe matter uska ho ya dusro ka.
Mostly abhira ne dusro ke matter ke liye he dadi ko confront kiya hai kabhi krish ke liye toh kabhi Charu ke liye toh kabhi dusre kisi ke liye . Jab ki uska toh ek baar scene hua media ke samne uske baad koi college jane se yah internship karne se rok nahi raha tha including dadi. Abhira ne mostly dusro ke liye he dadi se pange liye hai and ussi ki wajah se Armaan se uski fight hoti rehti hai. Dekha jaye toh armaan-abhira ka koi personal issue ki wajah se koi bada fight dikhaya he nahi.
This is the reason I am saying ki abhira joint family mai nahi reh sakti kyunki joint family mai aise open war family head ke sath declare nahi ki jati hai jaise abhira hamesha open war declare karti hai, tactfully rehna hota hai.
Tactfully means , usne ek baar try kiya ki chalo sab dev-Charu true love ko samje lekin jab Armaan ya kisi family ko unki love story acceptable nahi hai toh Armaan ko force kar ke, wardrobe mai baith kar ro ro kar Armaan ko force kyun karna ki bhai tumhari behen ki love story ko samjo! Chod do na! You tried once and it should be enough for you when charu’s mother/bhai doesn’t want their girl with baal baccha wala admi.
Vidya Madhav case ko bhi woh tactfully handle kar sakti thi like she tried once but agar vidya ko abhira ka uski marriage mai meddling pasand nahi hai toh baar baar vidya ko kyun force karn! Leave it na! Armaan ne bhi same bola tha leave it na! Dusre ke matter mai hadd se zyada ghus kar apna life kyun kharab karna!
Socho agar abroad Mai shaddi hua hota yah nuclear family jaha husband ke allawa koi na ho aise ghar mai jati toh yeh waha tikk jati kyunki waha koi hota he nai jiske matter ke uper fight ho. Again I am saying, joint family mai abhira nahi reh sakegi uske Kratikari nature ke chalte kyunki joint family mai sabko modern life style and soch wale log nahi milte. Dadi jaise control freak log bhi hote hai and aise logo se nipatne ke liye tactful actions chahiye hote hai, kadam kadam par unko challenge karne se wohi hota hai jo abhira ka scene hai.
AbRo would be perfect together 
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