Jhanak Written Update and Discussions Thread No 15. - Page 129

Originally posted by: Anusha16

True dat. But should J live with and confess to someone like this??

Never .

She should never confess .

It should definitely be Anirudh who should confess , if they plan any .

Frankly she deserves someone better than this current Anirudh .

I want to see a good confession from Anirudh same like how they showed Jhanak being grateful during that Ashirvad rasam .

Dreaming of such a day.

Scared if they will dump an Arshi Anirudh romantic episode instead .😔😔

Hello Vira (assuming this is your name, please let me know if not?),

Yes I am a bengali, will explain a few I remember !

Apu di said "Kutni (complex/evil) Buri (old hag)" today. It is an expletive !

She also said , at the proposition of TMW 2, entering the family - "Eke Ram e rokhkhe nei , Sugreeb dosor" - As if one Ram ( TMW1) is not enough, we now have his friend Sugreeb (TMW2) added to the mix!

Also, the poem that Chhoton says to Mrinalini yesterday, is a nursery rhyme - did not understand the relevance except for the makers urge to throw in some bengali willy nilly or they wanted to rhyme "Borgi" with "boring"

Khoka (Baby) ghumalo (slept), para (neighbourhood) jurolo (is peaceful)

Borgi (soldier) elo(came in to) deshe (the country/place)

Bulbuli te(name of a bird) dhaan(crop) kheyeche (eaten), khajna (lagaan) debo(give) kishe (how) ?

The baby has slept, so the neighbourhood is at peace

Soldiers have come in the country or place

But the Bulbuli bird has eaten all the crop/wheat, how will we pay the lagaan ?

Originally posted by: vira76

Such a nice read! Thank you for telling us about Bengali household.

I am assuming you are from Bengal. Do you mind translating a few dialogues from recent episodes? I think there were quite a few in recent episodes ... I am curious to know what they meant.

Originally posted by: rysohini

On a different note, please watch Lapatah Ladies on Netflix if you have not already - Such a heart wrenching and heart warming triumph of the human spirit

Thankyou , I saw it was skeptical . Would watch now .

Lovely ! No matter how unrealistic this is , it is soo much better than what Leenaji is writing these days!

Originally posted by: Aadia

Is there another option like..

J will shoot lasers from eyes straight into Ani’s eyes … like Super woman..
Then Ani shall drop some kryptonite - I love you Arshi or I love Arshi

Originally posted by: Sunsh

Currently I pity Arshi as She has become the Punching Bag for Anurath. Jab bhi koi jhanak related frustration hota hai he needs Arshi to vent. We have seen this in marriage shopping episode and now also same thing happening. Arshi aab tak Ani ke sath is liye hai kyuki iss mein Boss Lady ka ego satisfy hota hai par uses kaha pata hai ki ab woh bewakoof ban rahi hai. Bechaari Arshi I don’t like her though

Yes my name is Vira

Thank you so much. I love learning these!

Appu di is amazing! She cracks me up

Originally posted by: rysohini

Hello Vira (assuming this is your name, please let me know if not?),

Yes I am a bengali, will explain a few I remember !

Apu di said "Kutni (complex/evil) Buri (old hag)" today. It is an expletive !

She also said , at the proposition of TMW 2, entering the family - "Eke Ram e rokhkhe nei , Sugreeb dosor" - As if one Ram ( TMW1) is not enough, we now have his friend Sugreeb (TMW2) added to the mix!

Also, the poem that Chhoton says to Mrinalini yesterday, is a nursery rhyme - did not understand the relevance except for the makers urge to throw in some bengali willy nilly or they wanted to rhyme "Borgi" with "boring"

Khoka (Baby) ghumalo (slept), para (neighbourhood) jurolo (is peaceful)

Borgi (soldier) elo(came in to) deshe (the country/place)

Bulbuli te(name of a bird) dhaan(crop) kheyeche (eaten), khajna (lagaan) debo(give) kishe (how) ?

The baby has slept, so the neighbourhood is at peace

Soldiers have come in the country or place

But the Bulbuli bird has eaten all the crop/wheat, how will we pay the lagaan ?

Originally posted by: rysohini

Thank you dear

In all honesty, there are endless opportunities that the writers could explore.

They have, to some extent captured the essence of a "joint family" in a upper middle working class bengali household.

And while we find more nuclear families these days possibly due the convenient and less complex nature of the set up, I come from a joint family and understand the dynamics and the pro and con of it !

• The fact that they show Anjana to be the heart of the family (Jagadhrati like her father in law called her) ! She is indeed the one who takes care of everyone, ensures they are well-fed (Annapurna) and cements the family together. In a lot of bengali families, the 'bahu' is considered the 'beti' of the house in it's truest sense, so the love and affection that the parents in law, specially the father in law has for Anjana is a result of the love and care she gives them back, treating them no less than her own parents. She keeps everyone else ahead of her ownself. A lot of times, together with the above the Boro Bouma is also the matriach who calls the shots , in this case, when the time comes, Mrinalini will do the honors instead !
• Chhoton - Or the "smallest" in the household, is universally called so, because the children (Ani, Laal, Mimi, Rumi) heard the parents call him so when they were young and affectionately addressed him so, dropping the "kaka" from "Chhoton kaka". He is the "fix it all" -you would probably find a sabka ladla sabka kaam karne wala member in a lot of such joint families. He is that one person, you can blindly rely on, who would do anything for the family's happiness.
• Borda (or Boro da/ big brother) - The eldest brother, who most times run the family and calls the shots. In this case, has sacrificed the most, in every way the family needed him to. Since he is the eldest, he is expected to have risen to every occassion , good or bad and de-prioritise himself and his own family in the process. If left to himself, he would have achieved greater heights instead he discontinued his education, got an odd job early on, sold off Anjana's jewellery to fund for Shubho's education in a foreign country - note in a working middle class family (which I assume they were back then, funds would be very limited and it would require Herculean sacrifices from others, to make that one amongst them successful)
• Shubho - Apart from the "I have achieved it all" and "I run the family and do ehsaan on everyone around me" attitude, he is an ungrateful and undeserving son/brother. He was the "chosen one" who got all the opportunities in the world, at his doorstep, because the others slogged to make him a topper ! He was meant to be the heart of the family when the time came, instead became heartless ! Success made him vain- sometimes when you get things easy and some one else slogs to get it to you, you become so entitled that you do not realise the lengths of their sacrifices ! Also, since this is an upper middle class "working" family, funds may be in abundance but not endless. Hence his gripe about his money being wasted by everyone. Always needs wah wahai which he gets in ample from Tanuja, Bipasha and Laal.
• Tanuja - Mejo (middle) Bouma. She is such a misfit in this set up. Shubho would probably be a better person if he had a wife who valued humans and did not equate everything with money ! She is the perfect yin to Shubho's yang ! Always needs wah wahai which she gets in ample from Shubho, Bipasha and Laal.
• Mrinalini - I have so much hope from her, she is that one matriach who will whip this dysfunctional family back to their senses ! Plus that one guiding star for Jhanak ! The fact that the families know eo and were next door neighbours makes it a easier pathway for her to be the Chhoto Bouma.
• Bipasha - Absolutely useless , feeds off Shubho and Tanuja. Has zero understanding of boundaries, space and line ! And why she finds Arshi adorable, is Arshi is equally disrespectful and clueless of what a joint family is about ! Both rich brats and total misfits to this set up.
• Laal - Stooge of Bipasha, Tanuja and Shubho.
• Ani - Assuming the last few episodes did not happen, he is a perfect example of usually how logical and level headed young adults are in such joint family set ups. They do not agree to "Humare yeha aisa hi hota hai" instead will question the rationale behind every proposition. They are never blindly obedient to parents or elders and hold a mind and opinion of their own ! They are never disrespectful but are assertive in putting across their point of view, where ever needed. Hence no qualms in telling his mother that you do not work either and feed off baba's glory so in essence you are no different than Chhoton. Or kabhi kabhi bachho ke bhi sunn liya karo, humare pass bhi dimaag hai. Or I do not need Arshi's or anybody's permission to do a thing that I deem right.
• Jhanak - Fits into this family frame like hand in glove, the scene where she stood next to Ani and adored him for siding Chhoton and Boroma. And she chided Chhoton "Aap khana chhodke nehi jayenge" makes her a perfect successor of Boro ma. Plus the closest friend that Apu needs, to thrive !
• Arshi - Rich, upper class brat, from a nuclear family. Most of the above family dynamics is so alien for her that it would be beyond her to comprehend sanctity of the above relations and the rightful respect they deserve. Arshi is similar to Tanuja and Bipasha and hence their favorite. She would come in and either break the family or make it more dysfunctional.

Note - Since bengali s are bigtime foodies, a lot kitchen and dining table conferances revolve solely around food. At breakfast, the menu for lunch is discussed and at the lunch table the menu for dinner is decided. So when they showed Mr. Amitabh Bose stepping out to fetch his pension once a month, reluctant to travel in his son's car, instead staying rooted to his habits of taking a tram or a bus , like he would have done during his working days and his childlike enthusiasm to eat mishti (sweets) from a famous shop at Dalhousie and bring some for the family, the entire sentiment hit home

However, since they have to cater for the TRP audiences, such scenes that capture the true essence of bengali households, will be very few and far between Instead the characters will be butchered as and when necessary.

Originally posted by: rysohini

HAHHAHHAHAHHAHHAA, I laughed so hard - "our Mr Sambhalunga"

Trying to visualize how a "doormat award" would look like

I know this is lame

J to Ani - here is your clean doormat moron

LAAPATAA LADIES is AMAZING !!!

I hope they make more such movies, the best 2 hours spent today

Originally posted by: MayaFruitbae

Thankyou , I saw it was skeptical . Would watch now .

Yup everytime he says "I love you arshi" " I miss you arshi" or any kind of "Kuchihuchikooo.." blah blah blah..

Its like ratta mar ke betha ho!

It amazes me that sometimes we can differentiate so much from Krushal's acting. He is doing a fantastic job showing these emotions... Seriously man the guy is brilliant actor

Originally posted by: samarp2

he does this so often to reassure himself that he loves Arshi he needs again & again to remind himself cause he’s wondering a lot.. when he’s with Jhanak he can’t see anything except her but one J breaks his heart by her actions or words right away he thinks of Arshi as substitute to his broken heart but once he goes to Arshi right away his mind & heart wonder to Jhanak only body is present next to Arshi … yesterday even for Chooton he couldn’t meet his eyes & talk , but he sure got the words Chooton told him.. it’s not like he’s that naive