The day of accident and where Anuj went wrong - Page 3

When a family member is serious in hospital family will shout at doctors out of emotions and fear of losing loved one especially a mother or father who are about to lose a child

Docs will understand they will not take to heart and stop treating patient 

Same way this situation was similar CA could have died anuj got emotional because he came near to losing CA his only child his only family member all others had ran off thanks to anupama and shahs(like gk kaka, malvika etc)

Any father would have lost his mind and screamed at anupama for not saving CA first 

Anuj has seen anupama giving first priority to shahs over CA always 

Even on new year all shahs tapak n kapadiya home and CA had to be sent to camp oinstead of cwelebrating with her mom dad and kapadiyas 

Time and again anuj has seen how anupama first does for shahs than only CA

A father will be quiet if wife makes him last priority but not his children 

Originally posted by: Jefen

On the day of accident, some things were not done right by Anuj and even others. I saw just one person mentioning this today. I guess I failed to read even if it was written by others.

1. Nobody took care of Anupama. She just survived a big accident. Nobody cared to give her a cup of water and told her to relax. Even Anuj was busy arguing. Lol, I don't think any spouse should do that even if you are upset. Anuj's timing was so wrong. At least, let his wife rest and then tell her all your disappointments. She just survived an accident. He could take the matter the next day.

2. The discussions and accusations happened in front of everyone. Seriously, these two are horrible.They don't have anything called husband-wife confidentiality.

Anupama is really cringy but she has also done many good things for them. At least for humanity's sake, she should have been given some time and rest. Useless Anuj, useless husband.

Anuj and Anupama had such an immature and useless marriage. Kahe ka "MAAN." Sharamnak aur apmaan ki shaddi thi. Acha hua tooth Gaya.

Anupama should not have married Anuj. She should have completed her education with funding from Anuj and got a good job for herself after divorcing Forest King. If that would have happened we would have definitely supported her in her journey. But she choose relationships over career. Anupama is not an inspiration to women any more. Even, I am not a fan of MAAN. Even I am happy that Anupama Anuj wedding ended in a divorce.

Yes, Anuj was wrong in accusing Anupama when she survived a near death experience but let's take into account the sequence of events which led to his massive outburst. How many times he pleaded her to maintain healthy boundaries with her toxic ex and ex in-laws?Did she ever listened? Shahs used to call her for petty reasons and she left everything to tend to them.They always humiliated ca, manhandled Anuj, created ruckus in KM but not once Anupama stood against them. She was too involved in their matters neglecting her new family. Anuj has had enough. Any man will loose it. I second you! They shouldn't have got married. There were many red flags but Anuj deliberately choosed to ignore and got married to a lady who was suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. Honestly,Anupama needed  councelling. She hadn't really moved on. She was still stuck in her past.Anuj failed to grasp this. He is just reaping what he had sown.

Originally posted by: prachetas2211

Anupama should not have married Anuj. She should have completed her education with funding from Anuj and got a good job for herself after divorcing Forest King. If that would have happened we would have definitely supported her in her journey. But she choose relationships over career. Anupama is not an inspiration to women any more. Even, I am not a fan of MAAN. Even I am happy that Anupama Anuj wedding ended in a divorce.

Anupama and Anuj marriage didn’t bounded her in anyways. Unwillingness of grow up was the reason of her downfall. Anuj gave her the opportunity to complete her education but what she done we all know. She had dance academy which was running great but she neglected that too. She used to leave KM for dance academy but used to stop at Shah house. 

Even if she didn’t get married to anuj and with Anuj funding her education the outcome would be the same. If due to her work she was unable to spend time with CA then it would have shown working class women problems and people would have understood her dilemma but shahs being the reason took all the reasons away.

 Now also if we see her job at S&C she spend her most time with shahs. Before she met them again everything was fine but with shahs entry everything took back seat so problem was never Anuj Anupama marriage but her unhealthy obsession for shahs. 

She have to understand that if family and kids are important then work is also important. She can’t neglect work for your family matters. You have responsibility for your employer who paid you for work or your customer who paid you for your services. It can’t be that something happened at your home and someone else who paid you will suffer. 

After 10 years of  her divorce too there is no change in her. She is same old who don’t care for anything. This type of people are not suitable for work life. She is best as a housewife. In 10 years of her life she only proved this. 

Originally posted by: Snowdrrop

    

Anupama and Anuj marriage didn’t bounded her in anyways. Unwillingness of grow up was the reason of her downfall. Anuj gave her the opportunity to complete her education but what she done we all know. She had dance academy which was running great but she neglected that too. She used to leave KM for dance academy but used to stop at Shah house. 

Even if she didn’t get married to anuj and with Anuj funding her education the outcome would be the same. If due to her work she was unable to spend time with CA then it would have shown working class women problems and people would have understood her dilemma but shahs being the reason took all the reasons away.

 Now also if we see her job at S&C she spend her most time with shahs. Before she met them again everything was fine but with shahs entry everything took back seat so problem was never Anuj Anupama marriage but her unhealthy obsession for shahs. 

She have to understand that if family and kids are important then work is also important. She can’t neglect work for your family matters. You have responsibility for your employer who paid you for work or your customer who paid you for your services. It can’t be that something happened at your home and someone else who paid you will suffer. 

After 10 years of  her divorce too there is no change in her. She is same old who don’t care for anything. This type of people are not suitable for work life. She is best as a housewife. In 10 years of her life she only proved this. 

Anuj had ignored all the red flags and married Anupama. And after marrying Anupama, he gave every thing to her on a platter. She had the Anupama Dance Academy which was going well, she had the Kapadia Empire and she was made the signing authority. Anupama should have completed her education instead of adopting CA aka Aadhya. And after completing her education she could have got a good job. But she was in favour of the toxic Shah's rather than the Kapadia's. Her unhealthy obsession to the toxic Shah's even though Leela, Forest King, Toshu and Pakhi had insulted her made her a villain in Anuj's eyes.

She had squandered a golden opportunity and a golden life even with Anuj's support. Rakhi ji was much better than Anupama. Rakhi ji was pregnant with Kinjal when she was cheated. But she choose not to become a Bechari. She had taken over the Dave's Coaching Classes business from her father, built it, expanded it with her intelligence and became a successful business woman. Women should look up to Rakhi ji as an inspiration, not Anupama.

Anupama  first ask choti ki apni side ke car window kholo but door was jam 

Then choti Try to.come forward but as soon aadhya try to come forward car started moving and going to fell down but anupama push aadhya back side other wise car would have fallen down 

Then at this situation what can anupama do neither choti side window was opening nor choti can come forward because car would have fallen  

Other wise choti ke side ki car khul jaati to sabse pehle choti hi car se nikalti more over sabse anupama ne choti ki safety ke baare mein socha tabhi anupama ne sabse pehle choti se pehle bola tum apme side ka darwaja kholo agar woh darwaja jaam ho gaya to isme anupama ki kya galti 

Waise jub choti aagey aar rahi thi to kya choti ko khud mehsoos nahi hua ki car aagey bhad rahi hai choti khud nahi dekh sakti ki csr khaai mein jaa sakti hai .itna bjhi kya anjaan banna ki choti ko khuch pata hi Nahi

So obviously anupama decided to open door from. kinjal side to pehle kinjal ko nikalna jaroori tha kyonki kinjal nahi nikalti to Pari kaise Bahar hoti Pari Bahar nahi hoti to anupama kaise Bahar aati. Agar anupama Bahar nahi aati to.anupama choti ko car se Bahar nikalti so it was situation demand ki pehle kimjal phir Pari phir anupama phir choti  

Anupama to choti ko Bahar nikale jaa rahi thi but again jaise hi anupama car se Bahar nikli to kinjal ke side wala door bhi automatically band ho gaya 

Jis side anupama khadi thi us side ke dono darwaja jaam hogaya opposite side ke dono darwaja se nikalna se possible nahi tha because opposite side window ke just neeche khai thi technical fault hua to apme aap hua to isme anupama ki kya galti 

Phir bhi anupama ne sheesha tod ke choti ko Bahar nikal 

Choti did not see her mistake ki uski wajah se sabki jaan Khatre mein gayi thi in car accident but busy in blaming anupama  

And more over if see clearly episodes aadhya having repeated flash back of one and only scene that anupama. Did not let aadya come forward in car thst is why aadya hate her 

But aadhya has no flash back of anupama leaving home that is why I give Damm about so called trauma of so called kid aadya because she did not having flash back of anupama leaving home but having only flash back of anupama push her back 

Anupama even explain to chot why she push aadhya back and even explain to anuj why she push aadhya back but instead of understanding anupama situation and explaining to.aadya he just blaming anupama for not giving priority to choti and anuj from nowhere  

 Baat khuch aur thi but anuj baat ko Pata nahi kaha kaha le gaya priority Holi Khichdi Pata nahi kyax

Why is it only anupama duty To.explain. why anuj has not explain chot kya Bus maa ki hi responsibility hai bachon ko guide karna father has no duty to guide the child 

And it anun word more shocker for anupama than vanraj word because vanraj ne kabhi nahi kaha ki woh use pyaar karta hai ulta uski insult ki hai 

But Jo anuj who claim karta hai ki 26 year se pyaar karta aaya hoon to Yeh hota hai 26 ka pyaar ki beti ke liye anupama ki insult karna shuru kar dio woh bhi poori family ke samne and without understanding what anupama try to.say 

Yes indeed anuj word was more shocker fior anupama 

Edited by surabhi01 - 3 days ago

Originally posted by: Ashita5500

Yes, Anuj was wrong in accusing Anupama when she survived a near death experience but let's take into account the sequence of events which led to his massive outburst. How many times he pleaded her to maintain healthy boundaries with her toxic ex and ex in-laws?Did she ever listened? Shahs used to call her for petty reasons and she left everything to tend to them.They always humiliated ca, manhandled Anuj, created ruckus in KM but not once Anupama stood against them. She was too involved in their matters neglecting her new family. Anuj has had enough. Any man will loose it. I second you! They shouldn't have got married. There were many red flags but Anuj deliberately choosed to ignore and got married to a lady who was suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. Honestly,Anupama needed  councelling. She hadn't really moved on. She was still stuck in her past.Anuj failed to grasp this. He is just reaping what he had sown.

This pathetic Bapuji, good for nothing Samar and useless Devika had forced Anupama to marry Anuj. Anupama and Anuj should not have got married. When Samar had very well knew that Anuj is just a good friend to Anupama why did he ignite that feelings in Anupama for Anuj? Samar should have explored other career options which would have given him good salary instead of getting obsessed with dance. Samar should have minded his own business rather than igniting feelings in Anupama for Anuj. Anupama and Anuj's wedding was most immature, useless and pathetic wedding.

Originally posted by: Ashita5500

Yes, Anuj was wrong in accusing Anupama when she survived a near death experience but let's take into account the sequence of events which led to his massive outburst. How many times he pleaded her to maintain healthy boundaries with her toxic ex and ex in-laws?Did she ever listened? Shahs used to call her for petty reasons and she left everything to tend to them.They always humiliated ca, manhandled Anuj, created ruckus in KM but not once Anupama stood against them. She was too involved in their matters neglecting her new family. Anuj has had enough. Any man will loose it. I second you! They shouldn't have got married. There were many red flags but Anuj deliberately choosed to ignore and got married to a lady who was suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. Honestly,Anupama needed  councelling. She hadn't really moved on. She was still stuck in her past.Anuj failed to grasp this. He is just reaping what he had sown.

Some of the red flags of Anupama which I can think of are

01. Being a divorcee, having blindly worshipped a cheater husband for 26 years.

02. A mother of 3 children 

03. About to become a grand mother to 1

@Ashita, could you spell out any other red flags that I had missed.

Originally posted by: Ashita5500

Yes, Anuj was wrong in accusing Anupama when she survived a near death experience but let's take into account the sequence of events which led to his massive outburst. How many times he pleaded her to maintain healthy boundaries with her toxic ex and ex in-laws?Did she ever listened? Shahs used to call her for petty reasons and she left everything to tend to them.They always humiliated ca, manhandled Anuj, created ruckus in KM but not once Anupama stood against them. She was too involved in their matters neglecting her new family. Anuj has had enough. Any man will loose it. I second you! They shouldn't have got married. There were many red flags but Anuj deliberately choosed to ignore and got married to a lady who was suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. Honestly,Anupama needed  councelling. She hadn't really moved on. She was still stuck in her past.Anuj failed to grasp this. He is just reaping what he had sown.

This show Anupama has turned a holy and sacred bond like wedding to a joke. You should not take hasty decisions when it comes to a holy and sacred bond like wedding. You or for that matter any 1 will suffer if they take hasty decisions when it comes to a holy and sacred bond like wedding.