Agar Malti Devi galat hain, to Anupamaa bhi galat hai

Jab talaq hota hai ya separation hota hai to kya bacche se Judi responsibilities khatm ho jati hain? Co-parenting ka concept Indians ke liye etna alien kyo hai?

Bachho ko property samjhkar kutto ki tarah ladne ko parents ka pyar aur main leads ka angst kahkar dikhate hain TV par.

Baki jo absentee parent hote hain (whatever reason: India me most cases me Husbands dusri shaadi karke pahli patni ko baccho ke saath chod dete hain)... Ab chahe alcoholism reason ho ya careerism (jo rare hota hai: Lekin DKP me rare cases ko hi sabse pressing example banakar dikhane ka chalan hai. Taki Vamps dikha sake), ya Incarceration!

Lekin... Baki sare mamlo me, jaha parents baccho ke saath bane rahna chahte hain, wo co-parenting karte hain. Ya atleast childcare ke liye paise bhejte hain.

To kya Anupamaa ki Anuj ke saath CA se bhi koi shaadi hue thi ki wo usse divorce le rahi? Bachhe se Divorce liya jata hai kya?

Malti Devi ne apni monotonous life aur incompatible lifestyle se frustrate hokar Ghar chod diya aur peeche mud kar nahi dekha. Although badi convience ke saath "Anuj ke father" aur father side grandparents (even mother side ke role) ke role ka kuch nahi dikhaya. I'm not saying this to defend Malti Devi. I'm simply stating a simple fact. Kyonki baaki rishte ho, to bhi mother/father ka apko abandon karna emotionally hurtful hota hi hai. Lekin kam se kam aapki baaki sari identity to intact rahti hai.

DKP half-baked stories, poor characterisation ke saath (toxic) positive messages dene ki koshish karta hai and as usual, social issues ka majak banakar rakh deta hai.

Ab CA ke saath Anuj hain, Kapadias hain... To isliye ab Anupamaa ka CA ko abandon karna sahi ho gya?

She is becoming Malti Devi 2.0. Malti Devi ne apne bacche ke saath galat karke apne Individual desires ko chase kiya.. Artist bani, kaiyo ko mauka diya. Lekin isse uski galti kam nahi hoti. Lekin isse Malti Devi ka character bhi black and white me reduce nahi hota. Kyonki she still did something with her life and in a way, gave back to the society.

But here.. Anupamaa is abandoning CA because of her fake ego and her commitment to victimhood. She is giving preference to her own son story and can't for once prioritize CA. Lekin, she left her loved ones just because they voiced their pain??? Anuj aur CA scapegoats hain kya?

She never fought for her self-respect, for her dreams. She endured years of abuse just to protect her abusers because in her eyes she was only fullfiling her duties and this was all love. I mean.. for her, apni ideology aur apna perception hi matter kart hai uske liye. Dusre ke POV aur perception ko samjhne ki koshish tak nahi kar sakti.

Anuj tumhra lover/friend/guide sab bana, par tum usko therapist banakar rakh di! CA tumhari beti thi, teddybear nahi. Ki jab man aaya tum "kuchu puchu" krne chali aayi!

Anupamaa too needs urgent therapy. She has lifelong trauma and she is unaware of it. She cherishes her trauma rather trying to work on it. She is giving CA a lifelong mother-wound.

And for DKP writers.... Ye sab samjh paana unke Pay Scale se bahar ki cheez hai. Ye log Wikipedia, personal opinion/experience, Class bias aur social media se content uthakar kuch bhi likh deta hain. They don't do research. Trending topics maan kar kuch bhi kuda kabada likh dete hain.

At best, Anupamaa should have tried to take break from everything. More than anyone (Vanraj, Pakhi, Toshu: Interestingly keval Shah ke manhoos log hi therapy lene jate hain), Anupamaa needs therapy and vacation. Anuj too. CA needs to visit trauma-informed child psychologist and Anuj should have considered family counseling and couple counseling.

Maine apni maa se kaha: "mai aapki nazar me videshi soch ki hu, too modern hu, women's rights ka jhanda uthaye rahti hu. Lekin mujhe bhi Anupamaa ka ye kadam digest nahi ho rha. To fir old fashioned log kaise defend karenge ko? Wo to Anupamaa ko dislike karne ke bahane Divorcee se shadi krne aur bachha adopt krne ke against baat karenge. Aap batao, aap to Anupamaa ki bhakt ho. Hamesha Anupamaa ko blindly defend karti ho, kya ab bhi karogi defend?"

For the first time, my mom criticised Anupamaa. She said, "Is baar Anupamaa ne wakai me bahut galat kiya hai. Shayaad usko pahli baar sachmuch me pyaar krne wale log mile hain, isliye usse ye sab digest nahi hua. Usko dukh me hi rahne ki aadat ho gayi hai. Anuj ne koi galat nahi kahi. Barabari ka matlab ye nahi hota ki husband hamesha ke liye munh band kar le! Ya hamesha 100% time aapko bas samjhta hi rahe. Aapko bhi usko samjhna padega."

Don't u know CA is her adopted dayghter n not her biological kid so as per fl stans CA has a ganda khoon so it is ok to abandon her.Anyways Upma wasn't really interested in adopting CA n she was just a bojh on her so she dumped her as soon as she got an opportunity.If she cared for CA even for an ounce she won't have done so much partiality with her like she did and now she ran away like a coward.

Originally posted by: zohakhan7

Don't u know CA is her adopted dayghter n not her biological kid so as per fl stans CA has a ganda khoon so it is ok to abandon her.Anyways Upma wasn't really interested in adopting CA n she was just a bojh on her so she dumped her as soon as she got an opportunity.If she cared for CA even for an ounce she won't have done so much partiality with her like she did and now she ran away like a coward.

Yaar ab tak unknowingly ignore/neglect kiya. Agar wo apni galti maan leti to ye koi faansi par latkaane wali baat nahi thi. Humans se ho jaata hai. Lekin ab saamne bacchi etni najuk condition me hai. Aur Madam ab jaanbujhkr chodkar (darasal abondan karke) ja rahi. Etne chote bacche se breakup kiya jaata hai? Usse Divorce liya jata hai? Aise to step mothers nahi karti. It's not just about blood relations pet se. GK did play a father figure role in Anuj's life. His adopted parents did good job except they died too early. Malvika loved her brother. But her love was not reciprocated in same way.

Barkha as a scheming and manipulative person genuinely cared about CA. But, I'm astonished to see Anupamaa's narcissism and shamelessness and her incapacity to accept her mistakes.

Shahs ke acceptance ke bharose wo Kapadias ke saath relationship chalaye ja rahi thi. Unhone Bhagaya to Kapadias ke paas counseling maangne aayi, naa ki apne rishte suljhane. Is baar Anuj ne counselor banne ki bajay life partner bankar baat ki to madam bhaag gayi.

Matlab Anuj koi "kandha" hai, jis par sir rakhkar Devi ji umra bhar roti rahengi. People often do that in gf-bfs relationships, not in marriage. That's why breaksups happen and it should happen. In relationships, it is called "rebound."

To kya Anuj Anupamaa ke liye "rebound" hi raha hai? Duniya bhar ke issues me bina koi knowledge/authority ke bhashan dene wali Anupamaa ko khud apni life ke bare me etni basic understanding bhi nahi?

Toxic relationship dynamic ko ye log "Kanha ji Radha ji" ka pyar kahkar promote karte aa rahe. Is par logo ke religious sentiments hurt nahi hote, I wonder? Uf.

Originally posted by: nivi26

Yaar ab tak unknowingly ignore/neglect kiya. Agar wo apni galti maan leti to ye koi faansi par latkaane wali baat nahi thi. Humans se ho jaata hai. Lekin ab saamne bacchi etni najuk condition me hai. Aur Madam ab jaanbujhkr chodkar (darasal abondan karke) ja rahi. Etne chote bacche se breakup kiya jaata hai? Usse Divorce liya jata hai? Aise to step mothers nahi karti. It's not just about blood relations pet se. GK did play a father figure role in Anuj's life. His adopted parents did good job except they died too early. Malvika loved her brother. But her love was not reciprocated in same way.

Barkha as a scheming and manipulative person genuinely cared about CA. But, I'm astonished to see Anupamaa's narcissism and shamelessness and her incapacity to accept her mistakes.

Shahs ke acceptance ke bharose wo Kapadias ke saath relationship chalaye ja rahi thi. Unhone Bhagaya to Kapadias ke paas counseling maangne aayi, naa ki apne rishte suljhane. Is baar Anuj ne counselor banne ki bajay life partner bankar baat ki to madam bhaag gayi.

Matlab Anuj koi "kandha" hai, jis par sir rakhkar Devi ji umra bhar roti rahengi. People often do that in gf-bfs relationships, not in marriage. That's why breaksups happen and it should happen. In relationships, it is called "rebound."

To kya Anuj Anupamaa ke liye "rebound" hi raha hai? Duniya bhar ke issues me bina koi knowledge/authority ke bhashan dene wali Anupamaa ko khud apni life ke bare me etni basic understanding bhi nahi?

Toxic relationship dynamic ko ye log "Kanha ji Radha ji" ka pyar kahkar promote karte aa rahe. Is par logo ke religious sentiments hurt nahi hote, I wonder? Uf.

Sara masla yehi to hai ke yeh relationship sirf one sided chal raha tha which is not possible..Jab tak Anuj ne iski haan mein haan milayi,isko sar pe chadhaya tab tak yeh aurat khush thi aaj isko iska sach dikhaya to foran bhaag gayi.This is not how a marriage works.Basically she doesn't even think ke usne kabhi ignore kiya hai ca n anuj ko..uske liye shah family hai kapadiyas bas naam ke hai to unge hi adjust karna hoga shah kyun adjust karen.She doesn't even want to accept her mistakes n then play victim card..yeh issue hai iss aurat ka..Poora din shah house mein padi rehti hai phir wahan se nikali jati hai to rone done anso poochne keliye anuj ke pass paunch jati hai as if woh husband nahi iska counselor ho.That man cannot even have 5 mins privacy with his own wife without Shahs presence..Even upma won't stop talking about them ? Kyun bhai mar jaogi kya agar shah phemily ke bare mein baat nahi karogi to..Seriously what a disgusting woman she is who just knows how to take advantage of a man n his leniency.

Do you all remember that episode when Vanraj threw her out of his room at night when Devika rescued her?

She tells her abuse story of 26 years and how she never gave up on them despite everything. As soon as the dawn cracks, she rushes to her sasural. Devika, sensible at that time, tried to make her realise that she should not go back but devi g was like : EK MAA KABHI GHAR NAHI CHOD SAKTI..

Now what devi g? Aren't you a mother to CA?

https://youtu.be/vW5rLDFfh0c?si=iS9BcrIkXPurzMpZ

Just watch at 16:50