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Originally posted by: Learrntowrite

I read her response. It meant what I said in my comment. Lavanya or anyone else being there was irrelevant. It was directed purely to Aman’s act. Let’s not forget this same Aman hesitated to spy on his Khushi bhabhi and Arnav understood his dilemma. Even he wasn’t convinced.

given what all he has done for Khushi, basing anything over this one line, which the writer confirmed is a reaction to Aman’s act more than anything, is reaching IMO. It just bothers readers because they hate Lavanya and somehow can’t digest that Arnav is a decent human being who doesn’t go around upending people’s lives or just raging in anger at all times.

You made a assumption that my objection was that I after this chapter question his feelings for Khushi.😊 where did that come from. Then all my other comments about his care for her..must be false😅

It is nothing to do with what I think about Lavanya..an assumption you hav . It colors then how you read a comment.😊

It is purely that his response does not make sense to me. It is critical chapter that gives insight into Arnav thoughts,his struggles and his feelings for Khushi.

This was not just any information given by Aman...any person..no matter how decent you are..your response will be shock or be dumbfounded. Especially given he believes that Lavanya is innocent.

He does not..he talks like it any snooping.

Hope that helps you understand my stand. If not..I am fine with it. It needs to end here

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

Swati, a lot of assumptions here. Finding something out about someone without them knowing is not a big deal, but using that information to tarnish them automatically means you have put yourself and your family up for scrutiny. First of all, like Isha explained, Arnav is not the kind of guy who would swoop to character assassination just because *he* was lied to about pregnancy. And no, he does not see it as an obsession. He is a logical person, he could have just thought, whatever act she pulled was to gain his sympathy, or to acquire a wealthy husband or whatever. It never translates to "mindless crazy obsession". You as the reader know this because you have read Lavanya's thoughts. If you hadn't, you wouldn't either. It is not in human nature to assume the worst. And many times people cannot fathom what they themselves wouldn't do. Like he cries in Februray about being surprised that random people were coming after him. You know why? Because he would never do that to anyone!

Another thing you did not take into account: Do you think that bringing out Lavanya's past and her crazy deeds, would not automatically bring him and Khushi in the center of trouble? And with a 100% guarantee? When Khushi is safely away in Lucknow away from all the media shitstorm? Even if Lavanya's PR team is running trying to fix her image, there is no guarantee they would not hit him where they know it hurts. Especially when Lavanya's PR team is known for bringing careers down and litigation. They have the pictures too, remember? The photos were sent to Lavanya as well as blackmail and that is a fact he knows.

So imagine this: he goes after Lavanya in December, and then Lavanya's team hits him back, scourges his past (perhaps even Anjali's secret or whatever skeletons he has in his life), makes Khushi's life a hell. How does this path avoid Khushi and her family's trouble?? I do not understand this point you're trying to make.

When evil twins were after him, attacking him, then he letting go is out of question. He doesn't want to fight known enemy and cry why world is against me?

Which woman in her right mind will run after married man, fakes being pregnant with his child, takes too much interest confirming his impending divorce and asking for genuine relationship with, this is beyond obsession for me.

And you are forgetting the most important fact here, what was Manali reaction after Arnav threatened her? She desperately stopped all other minions from doing wrong against Arnav and Khushi and was worried...

Lathon ke Bhoot Baton se nahi manate, they deserve to be show their place...

Anyay sehana bhi galat hai....

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

Shraddha, I understand that this one line makes you feel like Khushi is no where in Arnav's priority list. But just for a second, if you remove this one line from your evidence, do you think anything else Arnav has done proves that?

I guess what we are trying to say is that this sentence was not "AMAN HOW DARE YOU GO THROUGH LAVANYA'S PERSONAL HISTORY. THIS IS NOT THE WAY WE DO THINGS", but more like, "How do you know this? You went through someone's medical records? How is this possible? When you're not the kind of guy to do this kind of thing?"

And you know why i can understand this tone? I am very much like Arnav when I suddenly receive good news that I absolutely did not/could not expect? I process things exactly this way. My first reaction is to verify that news I received comes from right sources, before I can let my brain feel relieved, or celebrate. My brain is conditioned to not accept anything good until I am sure it cannot be taken away later saying it was a misunderstanding. This is exactly why I can understand why he said that.

However, I understand your POV too. When I first read this (on my very very first read) I was annoyed too. And I was like what the hell, why is he not turning absolutely ballistic about it. How does he even care about these things at this juncture? But then once I calmed down, I understood that I knew about all the things Lavanya did. My anger over her molesting him, everything was piling up in my head. And it would have given me as the reader, the satisfaction to see Arnav lose his cool and bring Lavanya down to her knees. However, Arnav does not hate Lavanya in this moment as much as we do. He is still coming to terms with the hate. He has just been given a relieving news after a long torturous time and he is just processing the how/why of it.

Even I read this reaction as more of a surprise one. He was not upset with Aman for doing it, just surprised that he did it. Aman is very efficient as we know but he didn't take him as a kind of guy who would do this. Even Arnav would not go around digging up dirt on someone's personal life. He has ethics.

The answers that he found were a huge relief for him mentally, so he should be very thankful indeed. Lavanya and Manali did not deserve any respect from anyone after what they did.

While we did expect more of a reaction after finding out the facts, we can give him the benefit here. It was a lot to process.

He is hell mad at both witches now. They will pay.

How is everyone even keeping up with the comments here? I think I will have to come back after the story is all done to do that. There is no way I can keep up with the speed of the pages being filled up.

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

This entire paragraph, perhaps the way its phrased, absolutely does not sound like the Arnav of this story.

Mentally torturing her for a year? NO. ABSOLUTELY NOT. He was guilty. He tried his best to give her a baby. He is the kind of guy who is having panic attacks at the thought of the baby, and yet one smile on Khushi's face at Leher's birth and he gives in. Tries his best to have the baby, but here Khushi's love for him, does not allow Khushi to do him a disservice.

Sorry to say but your words here make it sound like he was emotionally abusing Khushi and doing it with the intent of hurting her. I vehemently and passionately disagree. If you focus on when exactly he decides to go for divorce, its when he is rude to her for the first time. Yes, he is avoiding conversation with her, yes he let distances creep up in their marriage, yes he did not talk to her, but do you at this point know, why he possibly could not talk to her? Maybe he thought his effort to talk was going to be futile anyway because Khushi would anyway compromise and he didn't want her to anymore. He thought he had made her compromise for about 3 years by not having a baby with her, anyway!! This does not sound like a man who is knowingly mentally torturing his wife!

Ignoring, intentionally walking out as soon as she enters a room, not talking to her at all while going behind her back to back meet other woman is emotional abuse...

Not wishing her on anniversary and expecting her to read the signs and understand his intention of divorce is the worst.

Whatever he is thinking is in his head and zero communication, he is at fault.

Let's stop here, from where I see it's server abuse and the damage we have seen, she has lost her self confidence and doubting herself when he is the wrong one here.

You can respectfully disagree but let's stop discussing, it doesn't matter anymore. Tomorrow we have new chapter shedding light on Lavanya I guess... Then we will have more to discuss about the actuals I guess.

Cheers...

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

Ignoring, intentionally walking out as soon as she enters a room, not talking to her at all while going behind her back to back meet other woman is emotional abuse...

Not wishing her on anniversary and expecting her to read the signs and understand his intention of divorce is the worst.

Whatever he is thinking is in his head and zero communication, he is at fault.

Let's stop here, from where I see it's server abuse and the damage we have seen, she has lost her self confidence and doubting herself when he is the wrong one here.

You can respectfully disagree but let's stop discussing, it doesn't matter anymore. Tomorrow we have new chapter shedding light on Lavanya I guess... Then we will have more to discuss about the actuals I guess.

Cheers...

Would you have rather, he stay in the room, suffocate out of guilt which amplifies looking at her non-assuming face, and perhaps get into a fight with her about the expectations of having a child? Would you have rather, every time they talk he ends up saying something else out of anger to her? Would that also not be "emotional abuse" in your definition?

As for the anniversary, do you think it's a good idea to wish your wife happy anniversary and then have a talk of divorce right after? Or perhaps have the talk to tell her "Hey happy anniversary, but you know what I cheated on you?

All I am trying to say is that ANY choice he could have made at that moment would have been bad. There were no right paths except coming clean to his wife about why he could not have a baby. That was root cause of everything that unraveled after. And he does not want his wife to know that.

Anyway, yes, let us agree to disagree. I understand that you empathize with Khushi and she absolutely did not deserve what she got. And I hope you can understand or atleast try to see why Arnav did what he did. That his intent was not wrong. :)

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

Running after married man: Why would Arnav think Lavanya did that? Arnav thinks whatever happened at panchgani was his fault equally. He can just deduce that Lavanya is just trying to milk that incident to her advantage, get a rich producer husband to settle down, right? He does not know Lavanya was standing at the terrace 6 years ago seething in jealousy when he was sharing a private moment with his wife.

fakes being pregnant with his child: Again pregnancy could just be a ploy to get him, but not like crazy obsession where you get to his wife. Especially when he has told them he is divorcing her. Lavanya and Manali do not need to go out of their way to make a divorce happen that is already happening.

takes too much interest confirming his impending divorce: That could be because (from Arnav's pov) it would tag her a home wrecker if the news came out. She has got a lot to lose from his pov right?

asking for genuine relationship with: Once again, mere attraction, and settling down with a rich producer could be the reasons that she would ask that.

I want to add just my final thoughts on these points you mentioned Akanksha. Arnav is thinking exactly on these same lines and it’s mentioned in the ff as well. We all collectively seem to have missed it.

Alarm bell have started ringing all over his head, but he was still focused on the fact that Lavanya wanted some kind of relationship with him for the baby to have a comfortable future.

His lack of responses seemed to be bringing down her defences and in one of the texts she confessed that she missed talking to him. Another one said she missed the sound of his voice and Arnav had recoiled in anger and disgust.

She was trying to feign an interest in him so that he agrees for that fake relationship Manali suggested?

Finally , Akansha, you pointed out what I have maintained all along , the root cause of the fiasco; he is unwilling to tell Khushi the reason why he doesn’t want children. The secret he is probably hiding. This has torn his life apart, Khushi’s life apart, estranged him from his family and destroyed his marriage. He was unwilling to face his demons.

I won’t go further with this discussion on this because I was lambasted yesterday over this point.

Originally posted by: coderlady

How is everyone even keeping up with the comments here? I think I will have to come back after the story is all done to do that. There is no way I can keep up with the speed of the pages being filled up.

Yes coder, it is true. I think I have spent unhealthy amount of time online this last week! But I get terrible FOMO everytime I get a notification of a message and I cannot immediately reply. So like Arnav, I am between the devil and the deep blue sea! 😆

Originally posted by: BollyBabe75

Finally , Akansha, you pointed out what I have maintained all along , the root cause of the fiasco; he is unwilling to tell Khushi the reason why he doesn’t want children. The secret he is probably hiding. This has torn his life apart, Khushi’s life apart, estranged him from his family and destroyed his marriage. He was unwilling to face his demons.

I won’t go further with this discussion on this because I was lambasted yesterday over this point.

Oh I am sorry if you felt you were lambasted. That was not the intention. Yesterday, I was only trying to point out that it is not easy for people in depression to see what they are doing, or to get help.

But yes, I never disagreed that his main issue: is the secret he cannot tell Khushi. Those are the very words he remembers in drugged haze as well. And yes, they are the reason his and her entire life has fallen apart. Like the small crack in the wall, that allowed a giant tree to take root and completely destroyed the foundation of a ten year happy marriage!