Originally posted by: blue-ice.1
A woman who prioritizes her dreams over a young kid......shouldn't choose to be a mother.....its that simple.....stay a woman with big dreams...don't be a mother......being a mother is a choice.....its not like having periods that every woman has to go through every month......a lot of couples choose not to be parents because of whatever their reasons are.....I have so much respect for them..
I respect your opinion and I have different perspective here. A few generations before us women were raised only to be wives and mothers. That was their only role in life and they were moulded to have dreams around this only. Only because women started being perceived as ‘doing nothing’, they were denied equal rights as men, they along with their kids suffered because of lack of financial independence and education. Most women were illiterate (and that was enough then) they and their kids suffered…such kids never got an all-round knowledge from the mother, since mothers lacked exposure and education. In today’s generation if this scenario is able to change and women are being given opportunities basis their capabilities and desires…not limiting to their family choice, it’s progress. Choosing a career and motherhood is a women’s choice. On an average women spent close to 20-22 years of her life studying and maybe another 4-5 years struggling at workplace to make a mark…giving all that up doesn’t seem fair. And these are not ‘dreams’ , this is her achievement and reality that you are suggesting she give up. If we are going to tell women to choose between motherhood and careers- she’ll be denied education and higher education with that mindset. That’s unfair.
Similarly she’ll be asked to choose husband or career, in-laws care or career, household work or career.
Why is a women expected to choose 1 while the husband chooses himself (in the name of family) and is able to carry on without being judged or labelled??
Motherhood is a choice, children need parents care I agree…but finding an alternate where mother giving up her hard earned individuality is not the solution. It’s the makers lack of creativity/blinded vision that’s not allowing them to find a better solution. Better solutions exist. Like Bhairavi, get CA enrolled in that class or troupe and take her with u to US…or whatever ya…don’t corner women to make these unfair choices. For a change show us a women doing both and still being happy!
Edited by U_nicorn - 2 years ago
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