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@bakwas_serial I meant to tag you in this comment.

This is a great discussion guys. The thing is that a lot of it is in the grey area 😅😅😅

Someone sent me a very frustrated email and I actually laughed out loud and your discussion reminded me of that. She wrote -

“Do you want me to hate Arnav or not? Just give me what happened between him and Lavanya so I can hate him in peace. I don’t like oscillation between the urge to murder him and than pity him the next second for all that he went through”

I think she’s right. Unless I tell you guys the full picture of affair, it’s not easy to make up the minds about what to do with this highly frustrating ASR. 😅😅😅

Edit - also I don’t think people telling Arnav or Arnav thinking about the fact that Khushi may not be able to move on is emotional blackmail or pressure. It’s just a fact that Khushi has loved Arnav that way which should be the case between a husband and wife imo. I mean at this point if someone tells me that my parents can not move on from each other, I’ll believe them. She was just being a good wife because the moment she realized she wasn’t wanted, she walked out.

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

I am saying putting conditions on parents in not serious but positive way... Anrav's mom and dad both are ailing and it's hard for Arnav to visit often or take care sitting in Mumbai.. Parents always love and dote on their grandkids, especially Arnav's mom showed her desire even before marriage so they at least would visit often and then might feel comfortable to revisit the decision... It is very normal process for parents and their adult sons / daughters once they realize they can't stay alone in old age and need help...

Yeah in that sense Khushi was the most sensible out of everyone involved. Arnav said it didn’t matter to him and he stayed away from Lucknow, but Khushi could see that he was still trying to do things for his parents from far away and decided to not give up on the family. ♥️

Originally posted by: dair10arshi

I was on the edge of my seat throughout. As much as the history leading up to this moment was important, I cannot help but wait with bated breath to read the encounter between the 2 of them.

As much as pitied Arnav for trying to be his best to be by his family even when they forced him to do things beyond his beliefs. All the pity was washed away in a wave when I saw the photos through Khushi's eyes. His "thing" with Lavanya was not just a one-time thing, it was a full-blown affair.

Seeing how their relationship was during the early years, Arnav was the mature one who communicated and made Khushi understand his previous relationship, even when Khushi was afraid. Why couldn't he do the same? As much as the couple needed to communicate, I would forgive him if would share his pain with his friends instead of running into the arms of another woman.

Oh, and my heart just sobs for Khushi. My heart just cries for her. Finding that your husband is having an affair, just when you have gone above and beyond to do everything you could to salvage this relationship. Her resilience to put on the mask and have not an ounce of hatred for Arnav for all those years of companionship, if not love.

This was such a cliffhanger!!! I need to read the Showdown. I need Khushi to stand up for herself and give Arnav a taste of his own medicine. I don't know what made him agree to have a kid with Khushi, but I am glad that they don't have a child together. If this was where the relationship was headed, the child did not deserve to fall into this mess. Thank god for Khushi to take the right decision and not get off her pills.

I am sooo angry at Arnav at the moment, and the people around me are going to wonder who this hatred is directed to. It's hard to see a redemption arc for Arnav from this betrayal

Please don’t take out Arnav’s anger on AD 😅😅😅 the comment section is open and I’m sure you will find so many who share your sentiments 😅

Khushi did find out at the very worst moment possible. Not only was it her anniversary, but she was willing to make solid changes as you pointed out. Trust me, I am as worried about Arnav’s redemption arc as you guys 😅

Originally posted by: VeiledWords

I understand 😊

Khushi had admitted to Payal, that she feels like a hypocrite. Especially the way she behaved after the divorce and now we know the cheating news. Because this is what happens. You’re never prepared for a relationship to go this wrong.

The thing is, this is why the timeline was important.

10 years truly is an awful long time but their fights only began in late 2014. Sometime when Khushi finally grew tired of waiting and even then, she hadn’t instigated a fight that was so big that Arnav walked out. She was letting go of the topic as soon as it started bothering Arnav.

She was also rattled by this sudden distance Arnav put between them. He was almost having an anxiety episode when she was trying to talk to him in the car and he shut the discussion down. At that time, all she wanted was her husband and did know that the topic had become so sensitive that she could push him away if he pressed.

The thing is he still went away. Because both of them did not address the real issues. The communication breakdown.

They must’ve tried for a few months after leher’s birth. Which means when Arnav went away for good, it took Khushi only 2-3 months to realize that he must’ve felt lonely and pressurised. Her letter’s contents were only this fact that she wanted nothing else but to be his companion. In all senses.

The point that how can she turn a blind eye to her relationship despite working with helpless women isn’t exactly fair imo. Nobody operates under the assumption that their marriage would fail after the first disagreement. If Arnav was walking away, she had the right to sulk for weeks/months too.

Alos, I know Khushi’s action frustrate many over here but we futej overlook one very important part of the fic; Khushi isn’t from a random small town. She is from a very small village and a very oppressive community. She had been raised with the belief that she were to be a good wife and a good mother. To her, it’s her life’s purpose. And she is obviously more connected to her life in Lucknow than Mumbai.

She is also far more reachable for the family to pressurise. Arnav’s solution to this was - ‘stop going to Lucknow and be as aloof as me’. There she had clearly put her foot down and showed the slightest bit of individuality. She is looking out for her husband. Knows he misses the family and even mused that Arvind and Arnav’s ego is the reason for it. Had she been as high handed as him, Arnav wouldn’t have a family to talk to.

Everything aside, Arnav’s plea is understandable too.He really did not feel Khushi and him had a proper relationship anymore and he wasn’t entirely wrong. Khushi had realized too that things were going too far off. It’s just that when his mind went into the direction of severing the ties, Khushi was trying to mend it.

He could have simply sat down and discussed with her why he didn't want a baby, he broke the communication and any effort by her to mend this relationship! he could have offered to separate right then saying I can't give you a baby, period! He would have simply vented out in anger that she need to marry someone else for a baby and walked away; she would have got the essage loud and clear!

He knew she treated marriage is for 7 lives and also she had cried when Arnav told her about his physical relationship with Anamika even before he was married to Anamika; Khushi was not even in the picture but felt hurt... So what did he do in return, rewarded her divorce and slept with other woman knowing that would break her completely... All he needed to do was tell her he is done with her, separate and move on; of course Khushi would be upset but will understand eventually.. He ultimately did what he wanted to do, gave her divorce but maybe like original IPKKND, he wanted to do things in reverse chronological order... Behave as if she doesn't exist, ill-treat her, Have an affair and sex with other woman first, hide it, discuss divorce with friends, secretary and lawyer first and wait until your wife find it out (he forgot his wife reads him well & had her own ways to figure things out) and he turned so selfish to reduce his guilt by offering alimony or explain to get himself closure!

It's so oadd for me to believe that being the righeous man he claimed to be, he chose infidelity over every other option available out there. Then when she left and he got to know about Shyam,instead of calling her and asking or involving Payal to communicate, this man has audacity to reenter her life unannounced, bring her back without her will and expect her to forget and forgive! He was control freak and dominating is an understatement, he has taken her for a ride in last few months and has been a manupulative jerk! Anamika was lucky, she got saved!

Oh, by the way he was supposed to tell her the truth but the timing was off, bavo! About the divorce he was preparing for months..

I am lost as to how and why he changed so suddenly?? Was he just bored of his typical life and wife, was doing drugs and liked what Bollywood women like Lavanya offered? Why not choose simple path to handle things in 21st century?

Interesting, curiously waiting for next chapters! Arpita, please give weekly updates for our sanity! Ha ha...

Thanks for the reply! Don't worry i won't take the anger out in AD 😂 I tend to get emotionally involved when reading or watching such things. The worst part is this that there 100s of women in real life going through such pain or a pain worse than this. This comment section is definitely alive and thank you so much for taking the time out and replying to all our thoughts. That does give us some insight into the characters.

I still wonder who sent those pictures. It will be too obvious if it's Manali/Lavanya. But I will wait for you to disclose it, the master storyteller that you are.

So things indeed happened in the study!

I don't know what to comment for now...my eyes are blurred, my mind is fogged and my head is almost throbbing in pain with all the crying.

God knows not even the worst person in the world deserves this. Let alone a girl like khushi.

For the life of me, i can't understand how on earth anyone can cut arnav any slack...she was doing all this taking so much pain of constantly travelling between mumbai & lucknow, managing two homes, trying to bridge the gap between two egoistic men, un-curse the cursed past and everything else for whom?

If this is his attitude when she is being absent because she trying to do things for his family & him than what would he have done if she had been one of those hight society rich wife where all they do is kitty parties, fashion shows and traveling around while neglecting their family. He thinks he is progressive enough and abhors the regressive men back home, but in reality he has behaved worse than those.

Kuch logo ke haath me sone ka katora dedo phirbhi bheek mangenge-- is precisely what is arnav is.

So It was an affair then.

And Lavanaya did visit santivan for sleeping or not, but she visited.

He took her to one of his favorite joints, i am sure he has taken khushi too there...... he didn't even flinch before taking or bringing L to places, where he had 10 years of long memories with khushi, his wife.

But of course she was the one behaving juvenile.

Fu*king B*stard

So those were the infamous balcony photos that supposedly the supper efficient aman took care off!

Originally posted by: Pujakrishna

So It was an affair then.

And Lavanaya did visit santivan for sleeping or not, but she visited.

He took her to one of his favorite joints, i am sure he has taken khushi too there...... he didn't even flinch before taking or bringing L to places, where he had 10 years of long memories with khushi, his wife.

But of course she was behaving juvenile.

Fu*king B*stard

So those were the infamous balcony photos that supposedly the supper efficient aman took care off!

Thank god, you and Bollybabe75 think like me... I tried every which way but I can't cut any slack for this Arnav, period! Khushi is guaranteed better off without him, else he will do it again the very next disagreement!

And as I had predicted long back, Khushi is already blaming herself - Had she really messed up this bad?

And look at his hypocracy - asking her to reach penthouse early to meet his important guests and he planned to tell her about divorce next day!

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

What makes you think only Arnav bared responsibilities? Khushi at the age of 19 took the responsibility to run the house and even today he is proud of her skills, every corner of the house is so beautiful, people actually want to see it!

She tried to help with dabba business, was managing HIS family and their financial as well as emotional needs by visiting them more than he could, even ran NGO helping needy; all these he truly appreciates clearly initially and even now..

She was the only one trying to med the relationship, he decided to move on or fell out of love, accepted but why do it the most shitty way??????

We will know about his fear about the baby, but discussion solves even wars, this was nothing..

Hey ! I have never said he is right . He has gone ahead and done the worst. There is no justification for his deed , not in the available chapters at least.

But I refuse to the bechari part of khushi!!!! Their marriage is 10 years old and they were happy for at least 8 of them. I refuse to believe that it was just because of khushi. If that’s true !!! There is no point pining for such a man. He wanted to end things with khushi but by the time he get to it things spiralled out of control. Ppl have different ways of thinking. Something happened to bring drastic change in Arnav about his family, I am sure khushi knew what. And if he didn’t want or believe what his family wanted of him, why force him. Khushi kept on trying to bridge the relationship with his family, even when their marriage got into trouble because of it!!! She kept quiet but she did expect a lot from him. She wanted him to attend the functions he didn’t want, because ppl are talking!!!! She kept expecting him to come around for the baby issue for 9 years!!!!! You can’t have the cake and eat it too….. if baby is important then you fight for it and accept the consequences!!! If he was important then make efforts to assure him of the same.
khushi was good housewife, excellent bahu, star human being for ngo work, but she failed to become true companion to her husband. I reiterate she didn’t deserve the way it happened but separation was inevitable. They both failed at the communication part of the marriage. No being available to talk is not enough!!!! You have to talk , reach out.

Responsibilities of Arnav was completely different from those of khushi!!! Arnav was supposed to take those responsibilities, she took them willingly. She made the house into a home for him , he broke his back to provide for her and the family. She took dabba business he made efforts to help her every step!!! Even after his gruelling schedule . He kept on doing his responsibilities even after getting disappointed with his family. It takes toll on anyone and if the person you thought your own doesn’t understand or still keeps expecting more than you can do , takes toll on you. He genuinely believed khushi wanted baby and family more than him , how that come about if khushi was clean about her stance. He believed it so much that it became so sore that he cut himself off from khushi because he was incapable of fulfilling her expectations!!!! Khushi only came to terms with it after he cut himself off, still she didn’t come clean with this. He would never have gone to Umanagar , had it not been Shyam she was getting married to. The very reason he asked aman to find out about her suitor , even after getting the letter and coming to realise that he cannot live without her .Everything after he cut himself off or take time out to reach some resolution was caos , I am still sure he didn’t want a relationship with lavanya but he did find some companionship in her, that he slipped was his major fault. Murder under extreme circumstances is pardoned. Think about what khushi did after she got to know this, if you loved someone and letting them go just like that i understand the hurt. But next moment she gave in to her parents and got ready to marry!!! Where is her backbone!!!!

It’s clear that there was something sinister going on with that. Pics don’t do justice to any situation, and to a shattered mind it can show you what you assume. And these pictures were taken for that purpose!!! It would be definitely interesting to see how Arnav/ lavanya relationship was or if there actually was any!!

Ok I am composed enough to comment I guess. So Khushi was trying desperately to bridge the gap between his parents and him. Fair enough that's what a good Bahu does but somehow she let Arnav down here is what I feel. When his dad basically called him coward, she just stood there and later on tried to make him understand he didn't mean it. She should have given them a piece of mind on how Arnav has worked hard all his life for everyone and whatever is disagreement calling him coward was way below the belt. She had seen him closely for 8 years on how he hard he has toiled. That was unfair of his parents and somehow khushi's silense was treated as she siding with them.

Plus I agree with arilip's point that she never told Arnav she didn't stopped the pills. Arnav genuinely thought they were trying for the baby and the failure must have hurt him equally. Not because he wanted a baby but his belief that he couldn't give Khushi what she wanted the most. That must be harrowing too if u think about it

The communication breakdown was from both sides. Just cause Arnav mused Khushi took efforts doesn't mean he didn't take any. I feel him agreeing to have a baby against his most primal fear( not sure why but something to have with Anjali) shows his efforts too

P.s. this absolutely doesn't justify the infidelity or the handling of divorce. Nothing justifies that.period

From the photos looks like it was full blown affair atleast for couple of months.the Nepal trip I guess is where it all started.

I am waiting for their confrontation with bated breath.